I've never had a boyfriend before is that weird?

  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 08, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    I just turned 19, and living in San Francisco I thought it would be a little different haha. Most guys that I meet seem to only want sex, and I'm the type that just sleeps with someone if we arnt dating. Is anyone else dealing with the same thing? icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:20 AM GMT
    Anemoneg saidI just turned 19, and living in San Francisco I thought it would be a little different haha. Most guys that I meet seem to only want sex, and I'm the type that just sleeps with someone if we arnt dating. Is anyone else dealing with the same thing? icon_confused.gif


    DUDE....you're 19. Just turned 19 in fact.

    I didn't get my first bf till like 21. You are right on track...
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 08, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    :p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:33 AM GMT
    Anemoneg said:p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:35 AM GMT


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....[/quote]

    Definitely agree!
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 08, 2012 9:41 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said:p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....


    No they are gay lol. I haven't met that many straight guys at my school :p
    I'm not looking for a relationship though. I think if your looking for it it's harder to find. I just focus on my classes to be honest.
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:43 AM GMT
    Anemoneg said
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said:p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....


    No they are gay lol. I haven't met that many straight guys at my school :p
    I'm not looking for a relationship though. I think if your looking for it it's harder to find. I just focus on my classes to be honest.


    Good. And when I was 19, I didn't know many gay people, much less those in relationships. Just be lucky you have people you can talk to about things like these. And not to be an ass, but those guys probably won't be in relationships very long. Rarely do teenagers stay together, much less the gays. You should sow your oates now....
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 08, 2012 9:50 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said:p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....


    No they are gay lol. I haven't met that many straight guys at my school :p
    I'm not looking for a relationship though. I think if your looking for it it's harder to find. I just focus on my classes to be honest.


    Good. And when I was 19, I didn't know many gay people, much less those in relationships. Just be lucky you have people you can talk to about things like these. And not to be an ass, but those guys probably won't be in relationships very long. Rarely do teenagers stay together, much less the gays. You should sow your oates now....


    Haha no I completely agree with you XD
    I'm sorry Oates? I don't understand this icon_redface.gif
    Thank you for your advice!
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:58 AM GMT
    I wouldn't say it's weird. I've hooked up with plenty of guys, just haven't met that one guy who makes me want to be with just him icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 08, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    Anemoneg said
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said
    jmusmc85 said
    Anemoneg said:p but quite a few of my friends are dating and they are my age. But I guess it's a normal thing?


    Well, are they straight? If so, it's much harder to find and maintain a gay relationship while being gay and a teenager. It's just the sad truth. Even so, I wouldn't get a bf just for the sake of having one. It should come organically. So take your time and don't force it....


    No they are gay lol. I haven't met that many straight guys at my school :p
    I'm not looking for a relationship though. I think if your looking for it it's harder to find. I just focus on my classes to be honest.


    Good. And when I was 19, I didn't know many gay people, much less those in relationships. Just be lucky you have people you can talk to about things like these. And not to be an ass, but those guys probably won't be in relationships very long. Rarely do teenagers stay together, much less the gays. You should sow your oates now....


    Haha no I completely agree with you XD
    I'm sorry Oates? I don't understand this icon_redface.gif
    Thank you for your advice!


    I spelt it wrong. But it means do things now while you are young. Don't get involved with someone and be locked down to one place or person for the rest of your life. Meet new people, try new things, go new places. It's never too early or old to start new things. But doing them while you are young is better in my opinion...
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    Jan 08, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    You're only 19 and you're complaining about not having a boyfriend?

    If it makes you feel any better, I'm almost 29 and I've never had one. (And no, it's not because I'm an ugly 5000-pound man in his 40s pretending to be a super hot asian boy....I am truly who I am in my profile.)

    Anyway, there's more to life than romance. Romance needs happiness to survive. Happiness does not need romance to survive. Understood?
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    Jan 08, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    So you're upset that you don't have a boyfriend but you're also not looking for one...

    One of these things is not like the other.

    I found both my boyfriends while I was looking for a boyfriend. I don't know how this "don't look and you'll fine it" chant became a truism.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 08, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    I met my first boyfriend when I was 23....and yes, I was looking!
    Now, there's too many handsome guys to date to settle with just one.icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 08, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
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    Jan 08, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    same here...but i am extremely choosy and into my career icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 08, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    There is nothing weird about a 19 year never having a boyfriend. There is, however, something very weird with a 45 year old never having had a boyfriend. What the hell is wrong with me?
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    Jan 08, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Oh my God... you are soooo young. Don't worry about not having a boyfriend. You've got so much time ahead of you!
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    Jan 08, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    I agree, nothing abnormal about a 19 year old never having a relationship. Hell, I am 29 years old and have never even been on a date let alone had a BF!
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    Jan 08, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    Larkin saidSo you're upset that you don't have a boyfriend but you're also not looking for one...

    One of these things is not like the other.

    I found both my boyfriends while I was looking for a boyfriend. I don't know how this "don't look and you'll fine it" chant became a truism.


    This!!
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    Jan 08, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    Didn't have a boyfriend till I was 31; however, I didn't start looking for one till I was 31...so there's that.
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    Jan 08, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    No, not everyone you will meet or HAVE met wants to have sex with you...Believe me icon_rolleyes.gif lol

    I had many relationships throughout my life! My first boyfriend I had was when I was 16... But most of the guys that I was with were all in the closet, so it was harder to quantify any of them as real boyfriends or to even say we were in a relationship..

    However not having a bf at your age is not weird... I just wouldn't expect to find Mr. Right any time soon, I didn't when I was 19... You have many years ahead of you and you will find someone...
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    Jan 08, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    faceless saidI agree, nothing abnormal about a 19 year old never having a relationship. Hell, I am 29 years old and have never even been on a date let alone had a BF!


    i def hear ya on this. im currently 28 and ive never had a boyfriend
  • nolejock01

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    Jan 08, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    I'm 19 and in the same situation. Only that I'm in a college town with a nearly nonexistent gay population... You're in San Francisco. I would not complain at all if I were you
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    Jan 08, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    nolejock01 saidI'm 19 and in the same situation. Only that I'm in a college town with a nearly nonexistent gay population... You're in San Francisco. I would not complain at all if I were you


    This. He lives in the country's gay capital.. He should be dating left and right. Leave that for conservative states like freakin texas
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    Jan 08, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
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    nolejock01 saidI'm 19 and in the same situation. Only that I'm in a college town with a nearly nonexistent gay population... You're in San Francisco. I would not complain at all if I were you


    This. He lives in the country's gay capital.. He should be dating left and right. Leave that for conservative states like freakin texas

    I don't think he's complaining. He's 19, never had a boyfriend, isn't really looking for one, but sees his gay peers dating and wonders whether there are others like him.

    So, anybody who is young and not really looking for a boyfriend please speak up.