How rude is it to wash somebody's dishes at their house?

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    Jan 09, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    I am at somebody's house who keeps a very messy house: and not even the good kind of mess. Now I'm not the cleanest person around, but gah!

    It's bad enough that I didn't want to eat here.

    I am thankful for their consideration for inviting us, but I just can't help myself. I cleaned the bathroom somewhat. It has hair on the floor everywhere. The toilet has yellow/red rings in it. The sink has grey smears of gunk. I don't even want to look in the shower.

    They were preparing food for others, so it's understandable that the kitchen can't be at its best. But they have dishes around their house from DAYS before-as in there's stuff growing in them. There's chicken bones or something behind a couch and cat hair everywhere.The microwave has splatters of dried food in it everywhere. The fridge has spilled food in it.

    Their kids are old enough to help them clean. Some of the guests tried to help, but the hosts seemed offended. Why are these people living like this? What's wrong with them!
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    Jan 09, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    Nothing's wrong with them, they're just messy. icon_biggrin.gif

    You don't live their so they shouldn't expect you or anybody else to clean up after them. Why would they? Why should you?

    How long are you staying there btw?

    I did a friends dirty dishes once since they picked me up from the airport unannounced and let me stay on their couch for however long I needed. They didn't need or want me to do the dishes, but they've lived with me for a long time before that so they're used to my cleaning habits. And the cat's liter box too. It was SO full, the cat immediately used it once it was emptied. icon_lol.gif

    If it's just messy and not unsanitary don't sweat it. icon_wink.gif
  • aiko14

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    Jan 09, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    was the food good at least?
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    It's not your home, so it's not really your place to clean up or fix anything in their home. If they like to live messy, let them be. However, should they want to get around to cleaning up everything, you could offer to lend a hand. Just make sure they do the bulk of the work.
  • UIUC1978

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    Jan 09, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    I am by no means the neatest housekeeper, but I do have a few friends that make my home look immaculate. I have one rule when I am invited to dinner parties or just over to eat at their house. I either help them with the side work (Making the salad or a couple of the side dishes, helping get the table set.) or I do the dishes for them after the meal is over to thank them. That's probably why I get half a dozen invites to Thanksgiving every year.