breaking gay stereotypes on purpose

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    Jan 09, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    How many of you elect NOT to do or like stereotypically "gay" things simply because doing or liking those things is somehow "expected of you" as a gay man?
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    Jan 09, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    It doesn't make any difference to me. Some things about me and the things I enjoy are probably considered stereotypical while many others are not. I really don't like most of the music played in gay clubs and popular with gay men, but on the other hand I can recite every line of every John Waters movie. I don't watch Glee or Housewives, but I can't get anymore stereotypical than being turned on by hot, muscular men. I don't let the expectations about gayness by other people, gay or straight, affect me. I just live my life.
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    sahem62896 saidHow many of you elect NOT to do or like stereotypically "gay" things simply because doing or liking those things is somehow "expected of you" as a gay man?

    What I found was a shocker when I came out were all the stereotypical gay things I'd been doing all my life, before I even knew that they WERE stereotypical gay things. I just liked to do them for myself, nobody told me their supposed significance. For instance:

    - My love of Broadway musicals and knowing most of their lyrics by heart.
    - My favorite female singers have been gay icons: Judy Garland, Barbra Streisand, Bette Midler, etc.
    - My favorite female film stars have also been gay icons: Joan Crawford, Bette Davis, Judy Garland once again, etc.
    - My at-times unmanly fussiness with my wardrobe.
    - Interest in interior decorating, to include lighting effects, like my independent "discovery" of uplighting.
    - My collection of cobalt blue glass.
    - My interest in theatre, movies & TV (in which I have degrees), with an almost photographic recollection of scripts & cast details.
    - My love of classical music.
    - My attraction to bright & shiny ornamentals, mostly of clear & colored crystal.

    And so forth. So that when I was informed that these are often considered gay traits, I just shook my head, and believed all the more firmly that I am gay by birth, not by choice. And I continue to do these things, because I have all my life, the natural me, even if they may seem like unoriginal, formula copy-catting to others.
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    i dont have a strong fashion sense at all. in fact i couldnt advise my straight friend which underwear he should buy...
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    In the end, who cares? You like what you like. There's no point in getting all elitist or bashing other people's taste regardless if it's stereotypically gay or not. All you can do is be who you are and enjoy what you enjoy. Fuck the haters icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    if they want to act as a "stereotypical" gay, let them be.... its not the end of the world
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    Jan 09, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    I don't have a good example because I embraced a lot of my typical gay tendencies, but...

    I like Lady Gaga. The hype from the very vocal gay fans turns me off sometimes... but I still like Lady Gaga.
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    Jan 09, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Bring back your sexy cave picture. icon_wink.gif