sahem62896 saidHow many of you elect NOT to do or like stereotypically "gay" things simply because doing or liking those things is somehow "expected of you" as a gay man?
What I found was a shocker when I came out were all the stereotypical gay things I'd been doing all my life, before I even knew that they WERE stereotypical gay things. I just liked to do them for myself, nobody told me their supposed significance. For instance:
- My love of Broadway musicals and knowing most of their lyrics by heart.
- My favorite female singers have been gay icons: Judy Garland, Barbra Streisand, Bette Midler, etc.
- My favorite female film stars have also been gay icons: Joan Crawford, Bette Davis, Judy Garland once again, etc.
- My at-times unmanly fussiness with my wardrobe.
- Interest in interior decorating, to include lighting effects, like my independent "discovery" of uplighting.
- My collection of cobalt blue glass.
- My interest in theatre, movies & TV (in which I have degrees), with an almost photographic recollection of scripts & cast details.
- My love of classical music.
- My attraction to bright & shiny ornamentals, mostly of clear & colored crystal.
And so forth. So that when I was informed that these are often considered gay traits, I just shook my head, and believed all the more firmly that I am gay by birth, not by choice. And I continue to do these things, because I have all my life, the natural me, even if they may seem like unoriginal, formula copy-catting to others.