Strains on the relationship.

  • SwimmingDoc

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    Jan 09, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    After happily being with my boyfriend for a year; with just a few mishaps that were always fixed by a little communication- I have came to a point in which I feel is the end. I have decided to move states to attend another college; he says he will go but I am having a problem believing that he will really commit to the move.. His parents hate me, his parents pays for his school, my fear is that he will relize this and decide not to go at the last min. I have tried to say tiny self that the time I have here let's just make it fun and enjoyable but something is Eatting at me saying that it's over just end it now so I don't waste time, money, and emotion on this anymore. I have about 4 mounts before its time to move, the last month has been hard because he has spent the holidays in Mexico with his family so the little communication we have had was via text or Skype. I find myself getting "bored" with texting and it has taken me longer and longer to respond. Other then this issue our relationship is fine, I'm just really confused. Anyone have advice? I'll take good and bad.
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    Jan 10, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    I don't quite know the intricacies of your relationship but it sounds to me you're conflicted. Part of you want out, and part of you does not want to end the relationship.

    Maybe part of you feels stressed and that it's the end, because you don't trust that your bf is going to follow you. All I can say is:

    Take a deep breath, relax, stop stressing out. It's 4 months away and alot can happen between now and then. If it was meant to be, he'll follow you and everything will work out (you say your relationship is fine for the most part), if not, then everyone moves on eventually, and they say never regret something that once made you smile.
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    Jan 10, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    You are sounding conflicted to me as well. In your shoes I would just try to stay calm and make no snap decisions. Whatever is going to happen will become clearer as time grows closer to your move date. Try to get together for a good discussion - weighing all your options. Good luck!
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    Jan 10, 2012 5:46 AM GMT

    "I have tried to say tiny self that the time I have here let's just make it fun and enjoyable but something is Eatting at me saying that it's over just end it now so I don't waste time, money, and emotion on this anymore."

    If you are truly equating him to a waste of time, money and emotion then you should do him the painful kindness of letting him go to discover better. Wish him well; you do love him, right?