Awkward facebook moment...

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    Jan 09, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    So I have my mom on facebook. No big deal, I have some Aunts & Uncles as well as cousins on there too.

    My mom has a friend who I've met a few times. He's a really nice guy but I don't know him very well so sometimes things he does seem kinda forward, like something that someone you grew up knowing would do. (NOT pervy, he's definitely straight.) She's told me that he likes her a lot but she only likes him as a friend, so I think sometimes there's some awkwardness between them when he's being a little bit forward to her as well.

    Anyways, TL;DR my mom's friend sent me a friend request on facebook today. I don't want to add him because it's like ummm I don't really know him that well... but he did buy me a gift for Christmas, which I wasn't expecting, and my mom had me call him to leave a message saying thanks....
    but like wtf aren't your parents friends not supposed to add you on facebook?!

    What the fuck do I do?
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    Jan 09, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    It's completely legit to send him a polite message saying that you keep your Facebook friends list limited to people you know really well because otherwise FB is too overwhelming.

    That is, as long as you have that kind of information set to private so he can't see that you actually have 1139 friends and growing.
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    Jan 09, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    Facebook?

    Why do you even care?
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    Jan 09, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    Well, don't mark this person as a "close friend" and set your privacy features.

    My dad finally discovered he could friend me and my younger sister the other night.

    Awkward barely describes....icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
  • Dbrad3693

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    Jan 09, 2012 12:24 PM GMT
    I honest to god cant see the big deal. lmao
    Just add him man
    Many people add people on facebook who they have met before.
    I dont think it would kill you just to add him
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    Jan 09, 2012 12:45 PM GMT
    #CanadianProblems
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 09, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    I would assume if he got you a Christmas present, that would make all the difference in the world......haha.

    Seriously, if he's your mother's friend (and it sounds like he's interested in reasonable dialogue with you), it would be rude not to add him. Actually it would be a good test. If he reads your information on FB and is turned off, you've learned something.

    Not adding the guy would probably do more damage than doing so.
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    Jan 09, 2012 12:52 PM GMT
    Put him on an acquaintance friend list? I don't see the awkwardness, I'll friend just about anybody on there. It's not my personal diary, just a networking tool.
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    Jan 09, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    Your real problem is that he's trying to get to your mom through you.

    If you think he's good for your mom in that way, then go for it. Otherwise, a little distance is a good thing.
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    Jan 09, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    Oh jeeez, more mommy issues eh?

    Me thinks any grown man with two nipples and a brain should be able to figure this out on his own quite easily. icon_confused.gif

    My faith in humanity just shrank to the size of a pea...

  • shirty

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    Jan 09, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    This is not awkward. Just put him on a limited profile so you can control what he sees. Done and done!
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    Jan 09, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    Throw em all in family, then block them from seeing everything like me icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 09, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    I have alot of my moms friends/coworkers on facebook...

    but they know how i feel about censorship and about all the fucks i give

    look at all the fucks i give Pictures, Images and Photos
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    Jan 09, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    I've no mum these days, but what's the worst that can happen, you're on RJ, you're tech savvy, manage him and it sounds as though your mum would be happy with you friending him. There's better things to stress about icon_smile.gif
  • Fable

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    Jan 09, 2012 1:54 PM GMT
    RESTRICTED PROFILE.
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    Jan 09, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    Anduru saidWhat the fuck do I do?


    Put him in that group where you have limited your profile. Added but "Restricted"
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    I initially add people to my friend list even if I don't want them as friends. Then, during my yearly 'house-cleaning' sessions, I unfriend them if I hadn't chatted or talked to them for >2 years. This way you don't hurt anyone's feelings and your friend-list doesn't get out of control.
  • citypartyboy

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    Jan 09, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    id add him, i mean, hes done nothing wrong so its not a bad idea.
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    Anduru, Just add him as a friend but put limitations on him, say if you were to post something about your Mom or have an album with your Mom in it just make it so he can't see it.
  • Twenty_Someth...

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    Jan 09, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    sweetyork saidI initially add people to my friend list even if I don't want them as friends. Then, during my yearly 'house-cleaning' sessions, I unfriend them if I hadn't chatted or talked to them for >2 years. This way you don't hurt anyone's feelings and your friend-list doesn't get out of control.



    +1 I use the birthday function on Facebook to unfriend people who I don't remember! LOL.

    Anduru, just add him to limited profile and get rid of him when his birthday rolls around!!! icon_twisted.gif
  • kuroshiro

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    Jan 09, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    If you don't confirm it it'll just disappear into obscurity and you can just be like "Oh, I didn't see it!".
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    Jan 09, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Here in America, we just ignore and delete people we don't care about.
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    Jan 09, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidHere in America, we just ignore and delete people we don't care about.


    And countries, too.
  • musicdude

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    Jan 09, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    two of my uncles gf's ended up adding me while they dated and one of them i never even met since i was in montreal while they were together
  • metta

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    Jan 09, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    Personally, I would just add him. And the issue would end right there.