Should I stay single and wait for my next opportunity with him?

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    Jan 09, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    Hey guys,
    I'm still in love with this guy... we were fuckbuddies for a few months before we both decided to move onto dating. Anyway, we were dating for more than 2 months but now his ex is back into his life (I only found out about this when I bumped into him and his ex in the city in NYE)... he ignored me since (roughly a month just more than a week before xmas)

    Yesterday he sent me a text apologized for what he has done to me and preferred himself as a jerk but I know he's not and he is a very nice guy deep inside... anyhow, I told him I am more than happy that we are friends now.

    However, he just sent me a text hours ago saying he would def pick a good guy like me if he didn't still have a strong feeling for his ex.


    good guys always finish last I guess this saying is very true hey...

    Sorry... back to my question "should I stay single and wait for my chance to be with him again?" to be honest I still love him very much.icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 09, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    He's just dragging you along because it's convenient for him. If he liked you, he would be with you. He doesn't like you; he likes his ex. He does however like how you inflate his ego by "waiting for him"

    Get over it and put your attention elsewhere.
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    Jan 09, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    you maybe right... I tried so hard to forget him but those good memories with him just keep coming back every now and then... beside honestly he's my 1st love.
    and I didn't tell him I wanna wait for him... I only let him know I'm happy to be friend.
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    Jan 09, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    just_m4x89 said"should I stay single and wait for my chance to be with him again?"

    I guess you could wait around as his second-best choice, the first runner-up who steps in if the winner is unable to perform his duties. Any maybe that's what you were already doing before the ex decided to make a reappearance to reclaim his tiara, since evidently they had broken up once before. But maybe you'd be happier with a guy who crowns you as his first and only pick.
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    Jan 09, 2012 3:07 PM GMT


    "good guys always finish last I guess this saying is very true hey..."

    Hell no. Good guys are sometimes just too kind to realize when they've narrowly dodged a nasty on and off again relationship with a waffle.

    I think you should try this:

    Imagine someone you really love a lot, perhaps a sister or brother, telling you this story about being in love with a flake, and even now that the flake is back with the ex, your sister or brother ask if they should wait for Mr flake because they still really love Mr flake.
    What advice would you give them? icon_wink.gif

    warmly (because I know how bad this feels having been there)

    -Doug
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    Jan 09, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    Don't torture yourself. Even if you have lingering feelings for this guy, move on. If it's meant to be, then one day you two will find a way back. Don't put your life on hold.

  • Jan 09, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
    I was in a similar situation over the past 2 years. I had met someone that I basically fell in love with at first sight. We developed a friendship over time and I fell even harder as time passed. Unfortunately he was involved with his ex in a rocky on and off relationship that seemed like it was destined to failed. Over this time, during one of their breaks I professed my love, and was told that though we'd be good together, he still had feelings for his ex. I basically chose, what I'd advise you not to do, to wait it out and now two years later, they're still together and have a stronger relationship than they've ever had, and I've wasted two years of my college experience waiting for him. Now I have one semester left of college and I haven't really dated anyone else.

    Even if they had broken up, He wouldn't be able to be happy with me until he was completely over the ex. This just wasn't going to happen. So I say, As much as it may hurt, It's best to move on, and stop limiting your opportunities to be happy with someone else. If it's meant to be, it'll happen, maybe later on. But they're are plenty of people out there that are just like him.
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    Jan 10, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    thanks guys... I guess I will move on... date other guys but I do hope one day I will have my chance with him again.
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    Jan 10, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    Jan 10, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    A-fucking-men. Do not ever allow someone to string you along. You'll just end up hurt in the end.
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    Jan 10, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    *salutes _SAGE_*
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    Jan 10, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    lol, well try to see past She and think He. As in you. I did an edit for you. icon_wink.gif





    It was way past midnight
    And he still couldn't fall asleep
    This night the dream was leavin'
    He tried so hard to keep
    And with the new day's dawning
    He felt it drift away
    Not only for a cruise
    Not only for a day

    CHORUS
    Too long ago
    Too long apart
    He couldn't wait another day for
    The captain of his heart

    As the day came up he made a start
    He stopped waiting another day for
    The captain of his heart

    CHORUS
    Too long ago
    Too long apart
    He couldn't wait another day for
    The captain of his heart

    CHORUS
    Too long ago
    Too long apart
    He couldn't wait another day for
    The captain of his heart

    As the day came up
    He made a stop
    He stopped waiting another day for
    The captain of his heart

    CHORUS
    Too long ago
    Too long apart
    He couldn't wait another day for
    The captain of his heart


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    Jan 10, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    <3 <3 <3 U icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 10, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    _SAGE_ said“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    <3 <3 <3 U icon_smile.gif

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    Jan 10, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    _SAGE_ said“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”
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    This.