To those who live in the ass crack middle of no where

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:06 PM GMT
    What is it like? I am considering moving from SF to Montana to go to Grad School for 2 years. Any ideas?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    tumbleweed.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    Montana is gorgeous.

    I dated a guy from Montana and we spent several holidays at his parents house in the the Seeley Lake area. It is perhaps one of the most amazing places I have ever been and I have been to 47 countries on 6 continents.

    Some places like Bozeman and Missoula are pretty progressive and have a gay community.


  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidMontana is gorgeous.

    I dated a guy from Montana and we spent several holidays at his parents house in the he Seeley Lake area. It is perhaps one of the most a,along places I have ever been and I have been to 47 countries on 6 continents.

    Some places like Bozeman and Missoula are pretty progressive and have a gay community.



    r u serious? Bozeman has a gay community? Well, I never!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:21 PM GMT
    Islands are pretty much isolated places Ive lived in... and Ive lived in an more isolated town in Europe in the middle of farm country....

    I usually do NOT find those living circumstances ideal...I usually find I have to put in a lot of effort in those places to build a life and routine that I enjoy and keeps me busy.... and even then, I usually find myself leaving those endroits very often to be in a less isolated are where I have more exposure to other things...

    So unless I am there with family, friends, or for some other important reason.. or am retiring and vacationing and really go specifically for the isolation... then, no, I personally would not bother moving into a completely isolated area...

    However, if you are in grad school for only two years.. that may be something you really want to focus on.. so the isolation with your classmates might make it helpful.. in that case, you have a good reason to move there
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    Chainers saidWhat is it like? I am considering moving from SF to Montana to go to Grad School for 2 years. Any ideas?


    Could be tough if you're the type who likes a bigger city way of life but 2 years will fly by and wonder of wonders you may find out that you actually like it.

    When we moved from Vancouver to Calgary because of my job transfer I was dreading it, the winter weather, really cold etc. and the sort of isolation but I got over it and so did my partner and we actually grew to love it. We even ended up moving out into the country, something I NEVER EVER thought I'd like. I miss that now. I've been to Montana quite a few times, either driving thru, skiing etc. I'd have no problem living there but then I'm not you.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:28 PM GMT
    I went from new York to Kentucky for law school and it was a great experience. Lexington isn't exactly ass crack nowhere, but it was a big change. And since it was a temporary situation like yours, I wasn't too nervous about what would happen if I didn't like it. I say do it, it'll definitely be an experience either way and you might love it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    Well, grad students don't typically have a lot of free time in any case, so really it doesn't much matter whether or not anything exists outside your bedroom or lab/office.

    That said, those little college towns in the mountain west are generally comfortable and progressive. There's easy access to outdoor recreation opportunities. Usually, you can walk or bicycle anywhere you need to go.

    But if you want a weekend of bright lights in the big city, it's like mounting an expedition to fucking Mars.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidWell, grad students don't typically have a lot of free time in any case, so really it doesn't much matter whether or not anything exists outside your bedroom or lab/office.

    That said, those little college towns in the mountain west are generally comfortable and progressive. There's easy access to outdoor recreation opportunities. Usually, you can walk or bicycle anywhere you need to go.

    But if you want a weekend of bright lights in the big city, it's like mounting an expedition to fucking Mars.


    Yes I am tired of the bright lights in the big city lifestyle so I am thinking of moving. Plus my parents live in Montana and they have a guest home that I can stay in so hey! free rent woo hoo!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    all i can say is go ..enjoy your self..have fun no matter what..after grad school,decide if you really did miss the big foggy city and the castro. if so then return,if not there are other awesome places to live with in this great country we call home..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidThere are pros and cons to each, but guys from Montana message us in Calgary, because they say there are no guys in Montana, so it doesn't seem to be an ideal place for dating. It's worth trying for a couple years, what's there to lose?


    lol Im not going there to date, Im going there to get away from it all and go to school. Plus, if I were looking to be around gay men I wouldnt leave San Francisco I would stay here lol.

    I cant wait to just go rough it up a bit!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    If you move to a cool college town and get integrated into the university community you can have a great time. I lived in such places for a few decades and loved it. Most my friends were straight, but I had no shortage of cultural and social things to do.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    I lived the straight life (married to a woman) in the "burbs." That my friends for a gay man IS the butt crack middle of ANYWHERE!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI lived the straight life (married to a woman) in the "burbs." That my friends for a gay man IS the butt crack middle of ANYWHERE!


    And how was it...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    Montana is amazing.

    If you like medium sized towns that retain regional character, Helena is a great place. If you like more rugged places that will force you to learn what it means to be Montanan, Whitefish will kick your ass but you will appreciate it when you leave. If you're bored in Montana you're doing something wrong.

    My personal experiences in Montana are that they dont give a shit if you're gay as long as you are a good man and true to your word.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    I would be in Bozeman. At least Bozeman has Ross and Costco which I need to survive...lol
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    Chainers saidI would be in Bozeman. At least Bozeman has Ross and Costco which I need to survive...lol


    omg, the two greatest stores known to grad students. yea, you'll be fine. be sure to bring a dildo for those nights where you're horny but have too much shit to do to bother finding a hookup - speaking from experience, hehe. though everytime someone stuffs an 8-incher in me, a previously-memorized list of anti-arrhythmia drugs and anesthetics comes rushing back to my mind icon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    mightymanlet said
    Chainers saidI would be in Bozeman. At least Bozeman has Ross and Costco which I need to survive...lol


    omg, the two greatest stores known to grad students. yea, you'll be fine. be sure to bring a dildo for those nights where you're horny but have too much shit to do to bother finding a hookup - speaking from experience, hehe. though everytime someone stuffs an 8-incher in me, a previously-memorized list of anti-arrhythmia drugs and anesthetics comes rushing back to my mind icon_eek.gif


    Ho...lol. Yea that probably would be necissary for my survival. Especially since finding hot dick in Montana probably wont happen...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI've lived in some pretty dinky places in Eastern BC, just north of Montana/Idaho. What I found is that people make their own fun in such places --house parties, camping parties, etc. They don't wait for entertainment to come to town. In that way, smaller towns can be a lot of fun (once you get to know a few people). I had little problem being out, but there were not prospects, either. (There were a few gay couples who were fun to party with, but interesting singles were rare.)

    Do it. It's a couple of years, you're not going to miss a thing and might actually grow in ways that you couldn't in SF.


    Yea thats the idea lol. Plus SF is getting, tiresome...really. I mean, having really hot sex with models, porn stars, brazillian personal trainers and so forth gets boring.

    On top of that, Meth Face is very very common....lol...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    Two years isn't bad. I decided to come out to North Dakota for college. It's not that bad once you get used to it, but definitely a culture shock at first.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:32 PM GMT
    There's 14'100 students there. You'll get laid. I just moved to a college town smaller than Bozeman (much more densely populated area though) and I manage ;)
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    grofte saidThere's 14'100 students there. You'll get laid. I just moved to a college town smaller than Bozeman (much more densely populated area though) and I manage ;)


    lol but I have to sleep with all the young undergrads.

    Oye, looks like Im gonna have to become a top and line all the chicks up :-(
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    It's horrible.
    --Especially when you realize that the hub of all cultural life is the local WalMart, and everyone is dressed in Cabella's Plaid camouflage. My dad passed away a few months ago, and the local funeral director even had a camouflage-lined casket for sale (No we did NOT buy that one).
    -- The idea of a nice restaurant is Applebee's.
    -- Movie theaters are 30 miles away.
    -- So is Starbucks.
    -- School students get an entire week off for Thanksgiving--not for the holiday, but for the first days of hunting season.
    -- The busiest local store's number one item is chewing tobacco (and lottery tickets).

    I can go on.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 09, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    garyinla saidIt's horrible.
    --Especially when you realize that the hub of all cultural life is the local WalMart, and everyone is dressed in Cabella's Plaid camouflage. My dad passed away a few months ago, and the local funeral director even had a camouflage-lined casket for sale (No we did NOT buy that one).
    -- The idea of a nice restaurant is Applebee's.
    -- Movie theaters are 30 miles away.
    -- So is Starbucks.
    -- School students get an entire week off for Thanksgiving--not for the holiday, but for the first days of hunting season.
    -- The busiest local store's number one item is chewing tobacco (and lottery tickets).

    I can go on.


    This all sounds amazing to me...except the chewing tobacco one...but yea I want to get away from it all and explore nature.

    Plus, there is medicinal Marijuana out there :-)
  • Havenjock80

    Posts: 428

    Jan 09, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    garyinla saidIt's horrible.
    --Especially when you realize that the hub of all cultural life is the local WalMart, and everyone is dressed in Cabella's Plaid camouflage. My dad passed away a few months ago, and the local funeral director even had a camouflage-lined casket for sale (No we did NOT buy that one).
    -- The idea of a nice restaurant is Applebee's.
    -- Movie theaters are 30 miles away.
    -- So is Starbucks.
    -- School students get an entire week off for Thanksgiving--not for the holiday, but for the first days of hunting season.
    -- The busiest local store's number one item is chewing tobacco (and lottery tickets).

    I can go on.


    OMG what are u trying to say? thats whats around me! are you saying I live in the middle of nowhere?