Why do you live where you live? Choice? Career? Family?

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    Jun 20, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    Just wondering how guys here choose the various cities and states you live in.....and if you'd consider moving - or have you already lived various places?

    My own answer: I live in the Phoenix area because it is close to California - and I work in both places. I originally came here to hang out with a friend who had also come here from CA. I liked the sun, poolside lifestyle, golf, tennis, cycling - every single day. I also like the fact that you can buy a gorgeous house here for approx. 1/4 the price of the same house in the San Francisco Bay Area.
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    Jun 20, 2008 6:44 PM GMT
    I was born and raised here (boston). I couldnt see myself anywhere else. Sure the cost of living is ridiculous, but most jobs pay well. Plus my family is here. My neices and nephews would be lost without me. Not to say I will never leave. Maybe one day, just no time soon.
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    Jun 20, 2008 7:28 PM GMT
    I am here in LA by both choice and because of my career.

    I was born in Texas, but I have family in Northern California, but every time since as far back as I can remember, we'd drive through LA on the 10 and 101, and I was always awe struck by los angeles. I'd always tell my mom and dad that I'll be living in Hollywood one day.

    I didn't/don't want to be famous, just work in the entertainment industry.

    My parents would kind of say oh yeah, of course very sarcastically, and my brother and sister would laugh and make fun of me! hahaha!

    But I win!
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    Jun 20, 2008 7:36 PM GMT
    I live at the beach, in the LA area. I'm here for the lifestyle. It's friendly, casual, a small town environment where I know all of my neighbors (very well, since our houses are only 6 feet apart). People here are active, athletic, educated, and sociable. I work ten minutes from home at a "real" job that pays well - but I chose the town first and the career second; I could probably make more money somewhere else. If I knew of a better place to live, I'd already live there.

    But before you pack up and move to this paradise, be aware that where I live there are very few gays, and they're virtually all underground. All things considered I'm OK with that, since the last thing we need here is a bunch of West Hollywood self-absorbed wanna-be "scene" boys.
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    Jun 20, 2008 7:42 PM GMT
    I live in NYC because of the diversity..... also because of my career field(finance).

    Also because i was raised here and have lived here for about 90% of my life. Plus the men are MEGAAAAAAAAAAA HOT!

    Also my mom lives in the area(yeah im a mama's boy)

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    Jun 20, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    I've read alot of guys (on RJ) trash Dallas, but I'm quite happy here.
    I moved here in 2006, I suppose to run away from my past...I retired from the Corporate world in 2003 and after spending almost three years renovating a home on the Texas Gulf Coast (where I grew up) I got bored, was offered another Corporate gig, but had to move to Dallas to take it. I lasted (at the job) only a few months before I bailed (NEVER AGAIN!). I suppose I could have run back home, but by that time, Dallas had welcomed me with open arms and I chose to stay. People talk about how superficial and cliquish the gay-scene is in Dallas, but I've always felt that sort of scene can be found in anytown, anywhere, anytime. I have a close knit group of buddies I run with here, I have a GREAT NEW career (I run a Fitness Boot Camp with a good friend) and well, life is good.icon_biggrin.gif I do miss my family, but I still go down Galveston way once every six weeks, so its not all bad.
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    Jun 20, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    Growing up in the bush. One moved to the city for work. But One is lucky too live in an exclusive semi rule suburb, where we have an acre garden. So just over the hill is suburbia, and we have the feel of living in the bush; and I think to myself, what a wonderful world.
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    Jun 20, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    I moved to Toronto in 1986 because I found a job here, and have not left. The fact that it has the largest gay population in Canada is a bonus. Will stay here at least until retirement in 2018, if not beyond.
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    Jun 20, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    Moved here to SF, California in 2004 but have been a Bay Area guy for 27 years. Growing up in the East Bay and then going to college in Sonoma County has been wonderful. I don't plan on living here for the rest of my life. I'd like to move to the East Coast at some point just to experience the lifestyle but would more than likely find myself back here in California.
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    Jun 20, 2008 10:26 PM GMT
    I'm in new york for career, i do theatrical and television lighting. been here almost 6 years. Bounced around before that, mainly Texas and Florida. The family (what little there is of them) is in Texas. I do miss the people in FL, but not living in Borelando. Although most of my FL friends have moved to Vegas, where i would probably be if I wasn't fairly well invested here.
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    Jun 20, 2008 10:38 PM GMT
    I first came to San Diego for vacation when I was about 13. I'm not sure if it was the beach town vibe, the warm sunshine or the hot surfers changing on the side of the road, but I knew I was meant to be here. About 10 or 11 years later I packed my things and headed south (from Lake Tahoe) with some friends. I've been here six years and can't think of anywhere else I'd rather live.
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    Jun 20, 2008 10:45 PM GMT
    Born and raised in Cleveland, OH. My company asked me to shut down an operation in Tempe, AZ. Once the place was closed, they laid me off. But after 2 years of flying back and forth, I had a network built, found a job and relocated. Besides, I hated the cold weather and needed a reason to leave.

    Been in Scottsdale for 6 years and I love it, but I'm not opposed to moving again because my partner lives in San Francisco. Although it would be easier for me to move there (I'm on the road all the time anyway), he's more likely to move in with me.
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    Jun 20, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    Born in Los Angeles/Redondo Beach, grew up in San Diego mostly, yet spent my years growing up back and forth between the 2 cities and absolutely LOVE both cities! I now live in San Francisco and it's a COMPLETE change from SoCal; not worse/not better, just different. At the moment just here for career and in a few years SERIOUSLY considering Austin or Dallas however I know I'll eventually when I'm like OLD back to San Diego.
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    Jun 20, 2008 11:08 PM GMT
    I live in Chicago because this porridge is just right.icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 20, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    I'm in Chicago because our business is based here. Grew up in downstate IL.

    I'd consider moving but only to somewhere warmer and probably not for quite a while.
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    Jun 20, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    I grew up in the Cincinnati area - my family is here as well as some really great friends. I considered moving a few times for the experience of something different, but when my dad suddenly passed away 18 months ago, I decided it wasn't the best time to leave my mother and family. It was best to stay for support. But all in all, it's a pretty good place to live: reasonable costs, nice people, and easier to get around than many cities.
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    Jun 21, 2008 12:06 AM GMT
    Grew up 20 miles west of Boston, went to school in upstate NY, lived in Taiwan and Germany, have traveled to many cities around the country, and I haven't found a place I'd rather live in than Boston. Granted, the family is here, but for my field (higher ed career services), there's really not a better place to be than here with over 140 colleges within 20 miles of the city. Granted, the cost of living is relatively high, but the resources are great. I just filled up the tank yesterday and noticed that I've only driven 2000 miles this year. I take public transportation everywhere, I can bike, ski, hike, kayak, within a couple of hours of the place, and it doesn't get too hot. I can be in NYC in 4 hours, and London and Montreal in 5. We've got the mountains, ocean, etc. The cultural scene is amazing and you have so many interesting people that come from all over the world.

    Granted, in the beginning of March I want to be someplace warm for a while, but that's okay. I couldn't handle being couped up in air conditioning for 6-7 months of the year. I like fresh air too much.

    We do get snow, but you shovel and go out skiing, running, etc. As far as natural disasters, that's far better than what most of the rest of the country seems to deal with.
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    Jun 21, 2008 12:23 AM GMT
    I was born and raised in Milwaukee. But before long, I'll be gone. Not sure where, but as soon as I feel my chapter in Milwaukee is coming to a close, I will move on.
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    Jun 21, 2008 12:24 AM GMT
    I live in Sydney, Australia. Moved here from Perth to take up an awesome job just under two years ago.

    Prior to moving here I'd never really considered Sydney as a place I'd want to live in. I'd always been more interested in moving to Melbourne (as most of my closest friends live there) or somewhere much much further away (e.g. Stockholm, New York and Vancouver...).

    Living in Sydney hasn't really changed my mind either - while I think it's a great city in many respects, I don't really love the culture here and it doesn't really cater to the lifestyle I'm into - e.g. I'm more of a cafe/small wine bar person over huge pub/dance party (which Sydney does very well). To make an analogy: Sydney is great for a one night stand/party, but doesn't really offer much for me beyond that except high living costs.

    I think it was Charles Landry (creative capital/city planning expert) who said something that I along the lines of "melbourne made the best of a really poor situation, while sydney made the worst out of a really good situation" - in reference to how Melbourne has overcome dodgy weather and minimal natural beauty to become Australia's "cultural capital", while Sydney hasn't developed itself beyond it's beautiful beaches and harbour (which, for a city that rains as much as it does, doesn't really cut it in my opinion).

    Sydney is however proving great career wise. I'm thankful that my job involves traveling somewhere interstate every couple of weeks though!
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    Jun 21, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    I was born in Israel, then was in Pasadena (CA) and then grew up in Ann Arbor (where we are always "California Dreaming" to go back to Pasadena on Jan. 1st).

    After meeting the boyfriend (from the western Detroit suburbs), we ended up buying a house in that area (which was also closer to my clients). After 7 years of living in a bedroom community, we moved to Ann Arbor. At about the same time my sister completed her PhD and ended up as a professor in... Ann Arbor.

    My parents are getting up there, and one of these years they'll retire to the old country. My sister will likely end up getting tenure elsewhere, so that only leaves Matt's family (primarily the neices) and the business. Maybe one day it'll go well and we'll open up another office in Chicago (the big city in the midwest, and we're midwestern boys) or in San Diego (lots of friends there, nice city, and great weather). Or if ever the business flops, we'll have to get "real" jobs in one of those places.

    For now, we're happy in Ann Arbor (and with the prospect of global warming Michigan winters shouldn't be too bad.... (: )
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    Jun 21, 2008 1:03 AM GMT
    No idea. But it's perfect.
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    Jun 21, 2008 1:44 AM GMT
    Grew up in Philly and just outside. Left after 25 years to move to the NYC area (and soon - into the actual 5 boroughs)...for obvious reasons.

    I mean if you really have to ask why someone leaves Philly to go to NYC...haha.icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 21, 2008 1:57 AM GMT
    I was born in a log cabin in the small rural farming community of Ann Arbor, Michigan. Grew up in an even tinier, even more rural hamlet called Bloomfield Hills, Michigan, where I milked the chickens every morning before walking barefoot to school.

    Then it was off to the dirty, dangerous, exciting city of Metropolis, where I lived until it became a wholly-owned subsidiary of Disney, Inc.

    Then I moved to the Capital of the Confederutsy, and discovered I had actually traveled back to 1861, and Fort Sumter had just been fired upon last week.

    When the Recent Unpleasantness finally ended, I moved to South Florida, where I knew I had to get a tan and learn Spanish.

    I have done neither.
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    Jun 21, 2008 2:07 PM GMT
    Originally from Denver, grew up in Orange County CA (INLAND, not the O.C. on TV), then Washington DC area.

    Grew miserable in the east-coast type-A rat race and moved back to Denver for a job and to get close to the family.

    Now I have a job that only requires I be close to an airport in my choice of 8 states ... and live and work in a city that I love. I'd consider relocating, but I'm at a point where I can be VERY picky about where I'd end up...

    Traveling for work lets me see a lot of different cities, and there's something wonderful about a lot of places that I go to! I could see myself living pretty much everywhere ... but at the end of each trip, I still smile when my flight lands at home and I hear "Welcome to Denver" over the PA...