darren222 saidwho here agrees with me? I mean if they are not complete losers they are vile assholes! Just stop calling, ignore you, stand you up, stab you in the back, use you, treat you like crap! I mean life is hard enough, there is no excuse for making it harder on anyone else's. Thats why nice guys finish last, precisely because there are assholes out there who make them so miserable they'll never be happy. urrggghh!!! feel free to blow off steam.
Gosh Darren...I'm sorry about your bad experiences. I'm so sorry about that. No one should be treated like that...ever. I know...I'm so sorry that life is hard for you...I truly am. Well...I dunno, maybe where you live nice guys do finish last...but I don't think so. While I do agree that it's a rarity to find any decent men to just converse with, there are men out there who are nice...you just need to know where to find them. Trust me, there are caring men out there. There's one man I know in my family, and he just goes through the worst of things. It really makes me mad. His wife is a total jerk to him, and every single time I hear about it, I get very upset. His wife comes home, and when she's down she tells him about her problems, but now if he comes home and something is on his mind and he talks about it...it's like his wife doesn't listen to him. Now, this man is a part of my dad's side of the family, and it really makes me mad. Now, it takes a whole lot to get me mad, but when it comes to family, I get really upset when someone tries to mess with my family.
That's why, every time his wife talks to me, I don't say a word and I just listen to her (she's a human after all so she deserves some respect), but, if I hear her say something bad about her husband...I'll stop her right there and say "You know what, what you're doing is really hurtful and you need to stop." From what I gather from my grandma, she's been this way ever since they got married. Grandma and Grandpa would pray a rosary the summer after they got married, and they prayed for their marriage, because Grandma says she was quite obnoxious.
But, now, the husband's on depression pills, he drinks 7-8 beers a day, he smokes, he cries a lot, he comes to my grandma (because he's her son) and he says "Mom, I just don't know what it is that I'm doing that's wrong." I thought about making cookies or something for the poor man, but I thought it'd probably be better if I just stay away from their problems. All I do is pray for him, because that's all I can do. But good ol' Grandma is gonna make a supper for his 55th Birthday, and she isn't gonna invite the wife (even if she was to invite the wife, she wouldn't come. She rarely does.).
So don't worry, there are good men out there...you just need to keep searching.