He is HOT and He is Not

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    Jan 11, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    The guys who my bestfriend is attracted too are not so HOT in my eyes and vice versa. I often think that is why he's my bestfriend, because there is really no competition for the affections of the same guy.

    Are you and your friends attracted to the same type of guys? And if so, who gets first dibs? Does jealousy or resentment ever ensue?
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    Jan 11, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    It's funny you should come up with this because I just had this discussion with a friend of mine today. He likes the predominately thin tall feminine guys where as I like filled out athletic masculine guys. I will never see what he sees.
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    Jan 11, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    Most of my closest friends are straight, and coupled at that, so definitely no competition. Hadn't thought of it that way before! icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 11, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    I haven't had that problem but once and the bitch is not a friend in my book. My deal is simple. If the guy is interested in me I go for it unless my friend was in the picture already. If my friend was just thinking about it but it was going no where.. I ask them for permission. If they say go for it, I go for it. If they say they are interested then I back off. I will NEVER date an Ex of one of my friends. There is this one ex that was a sweet heart and I liked him as a friend to my ex and I know he likes me but I just can't bring myself to break that promise. He really does like me though and I know it could be a very good thing but at what cost?
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    Jan 11, 2012 6:57 AM GMT
    I say, why does it matter? I mean, if I had friends (Which I don't, and honestly don't need), but if I had friends and we thought the same type of guys were handsome, I wouldn't care what they thought of my taste. I like what I like, if you don't like it, I really don't give 2 shits.

    That's my thought on it.
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    Jan 11, 2012 10:11 AM GMT
    Ménage à trois
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    Jan 11, 2012 10:27 AM GMT
    My friend has the exact opposite tast in men than I do, we laugh sometimes that would we have been good friends for so many years if we had the same taste.
    Im sure we would hes a very cool man.
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    Jan 12, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    Actually, my bf and I often have different types in mind. In fact, I think this is why we got together. We like each other's type.
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    Jan 13, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder.
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    Jan 13, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    I have a friend who is five years younger and we look enough alike that people who don't know us well will confuse us. At best he looks a bit like a cousin. We have very different personalities. He has few if any close friends who are gay. He is not overtly effeminate but it wouldn't take much to figure out he is gay. He described me once as being "rough on the edges" and I see him as a bit over groomed. I love a good challenge, he would rather stay within his comfort zone. I have spent so much more time, working in a macho industry and hanging out with straight men that I don't relate as easily as he does to some gay men.

    Our taste in men definitely overlap but not with his current boyfriend. But I was dating a guy who confessed he liked him and in turn I learned that my friend liked my ex. They were never single at the same time so they never dated. I think they would have made a great couple and a much better fit than his current bf. We have had flings with many of the same guys. If we are out in a bar and I start talking to a guy who seems to have an interest in me, his interest quickly shifts to my friend the moment he appears. I have a close friend who made it clear when we were first getting to know each other that we should be more than just friends. He no longer feels that way but when he met my friend he couldn't stop thinking about him. I have come to accept that I will always be second choice when we go out together. I've seen it happen in action when I was out with him and his partner. A guy first approached him and when he discovered they were a couple he went after me. Yet our personalities are so different in so many ways it surprises me. But I suppose if you don't know us all you see is that he is a younger better looking version of myself. To his credit his nature is less outspoken than mine which on first impression makes him come across as sweeter. Do I get jealous? No, I'm too old for that. Besides he moves from one LTR to the next while I'm always single.

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    Jan 15, 2012 9:48 AM GMT
    My closest friend who is gay is very flamboyant and goes for the more fem men. Where I go for the more masculine men so we joke when in public places like, "that's definitely a Matt man" or "That's definitely a Craig man" no competition between us at all and we almost never agree on guys. He's a great friend and there's no drama.
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    Jan 15, 2012 10:20 AM GMT
    This happens a lot with @likewatuc, one of my RJ BFFs, he always sends me pics of guys he thinks are hot and I'm like ewwww and then I sent him pics of the ones I find hot and he's like, they're old, and I'm like ok, he's only 50 icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 15, 2012 10:27 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidThis happens a lot with @likewatuc, one of my RJ BFFs, he always sends me pics of guys he thinks are hot and I'm like ewwww and then I sent him pics of the ones I find hot and he's like, they're old, and I'm like ok, he's only 50 icon_lol.gif

    This bitch. LMAO!!

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    Jan 15, 2012 10:29 AM GMT
    likewatuc said
    Hypnotico saidThis happens a lot with @likewatuc, one of my RJ BFFs, he always sends me pics of guys he thinks are hot and I'm like ewwww and then I sent him pics of the ones I find hot and he's like, they're old, and I'm like ok, he's only 50 icon_lol.gif

    This bitch. LMAO!!

    Welcome back Hypno. icon_smile.gif


    Awww Thanks! <3
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    Jan 15, 2012 10:29 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    likewatuc said
    Hypnotico saidThis happens a lot with @likewatuc, one of my RJ BFFs, he always sends me pics of guys he thinks are hot and I'm like ewwww and then I sent him pics of the ones I find hot and he's like, they're old, and I'm like ok, he's only 50 icon_lol.gif

    This bitch. LMAO!!

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    Awww Thanks! <3

    <3. Now go to hell. LOL JKJK!!
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    Jan 15, 2012 10:33 AM GMT
    me and a good friend was like that we iked the same guys, i at times would get mad because the guys i would talk to he would flirt with when i was not around it caused a rift to me. One guy i was talking to went to the movies with him and they texted all the time so i just told the guy im done and told him why and till this day he claims i lead him on when it was so not that.