I just want a boyfriend

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    Jan 11, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    I have only had 3 short-term relationships with guys. I don't know why, but no one ever approaches me or seems interested. Am I intimidating, or creepy?? i have no clue, but why can't I find a guy?

    I'm just lonely and I need a sexy man I can call my one.

    Does anyone have any dating advice? or any tips on how to pick up a guy?
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    Jan 11, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    OMG you are only 19 for Christ sake. I am now in a 20+ year relationship, and that did not start before I was almost 30, and I lived and got to know myself before that come to pass. Now I am 50 and in a long term relationship, because I had lived and enjoyed my life, and being single before it started, I do not feel I miss out on nothing by not doing the gay clubs and bars, or public orgys call pride parties.
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    Jan 11, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    i wish i cud meet guys ..
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    What's with all the teenagers around here ready to put a stake in the heart of Love?

    I didn't kiss a guy til I was 22 years old.
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    Larkin saidWhat's with all the teenagers around here ready to put a stake in the heart of Love?

    I didn't kiss a guy til I was 22 years old.


    I'm 21. I feel better about my life now. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    Larkin saidWhat's with all the teenagers around here ready to put a stake in the heart of Love?

    I didn't kiss a guy til I was 22 years old.


    I'm 21. I feel better about my life now. icon_smile.gif


    Haha, glad my late blooming was helpful for you icon_razz.gif. My first date and first sex with a guy was 22... Didn't have a boyfriend until I was 26.
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:40 PM GMT
    Seriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Young, infatuating, unrealistic love. Young gay guys especially are naive.
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    Ruskach saidSeriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.


    It's not unusual to want a guy at 19.... What's perhaps unhealthy is to obsess about why you "can't find a boyfriend" at 19. You haven't been looking for very long. Let's be honest.

    It's like stepping into WalMart and immediately exclaiming "Why can't I find any milk??"
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    Everyone is a little different. My first BF was at 15. I was very clear on what I wanted and wasn't afraid of taking what I wanted.

    If the OP feels he wants a serious BF - he should go get one. He IS young - and his ideas on what a serious BF are (and wether or not he even wants one) will change 1,000 times before he is old enough to legally order a drink.

    As far as HOW - there is no rule book on that one. I would advise dropping the idea of "picking up" a guy. That is almost always a one night (or one hour) kinda deal and probably not what you are looking for.

    Be out in the world. Don't be afraid to talk. Or make eye contact. Learn to be sure of yerself and figure out what you want. If everyone seems intimidated - yer hangin' in the wrong places.

    It has NOTHING to do with being desirable. You are and that is all there is to it.
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    Larkin said
    Ruskach saidSeriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.


    It's not unusual to want a guy at 19.... What's perhaps unhealthy is to obsess about why you "can't find a boyfriend" at 19. You haven't been looking for very long. Let's be honest.

    It's like stepping into WalMart and immediately exclaiming "Why can't I find any milk??"


    well exactly, your answer is coherent and i agree with it
    but the dude who answered just underneath the OP stated smthing stupid like "live your life and wait til you're 30"
    some people at 19 know what they want and have the maturity to commit themselves to a LTR…
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    Jan 11, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    Babybabybabybaby Oooooohh..... icon_cool.gif

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    Jan 11, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Ok, OP... You're a hot guy, so if no one is approaching you, approach them icon_smile.gif.

    90% of guys in a club are going to be too afraid of rejection to approach anybody unless they're drunk. And most guys are just so happy to be spoken to that they'll jump at the chance to talk or dance or have a drink or anything.

    Take the initiative and you'll do well icon_smile.gif. Especially as a handsome and relatively tall guy.
  • jpk090

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    Jan 11, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    Good things come to those who wait.
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    I've got one advice for you buddy:


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upnrXooMh4s
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:02 PM GMT
    Ruskach saidSeriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.


    No the youth of today don't want to wait for anything, they want it all now. I think of all those straight couples that got together in their teens or early 20s, then by the time they were 30+ they wanted out, because they wanted their freedom back, because they never had it. yet if they had of growen and lived before they settled down, this may not of come to pass, but how can you expect a child to understand that.
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:04 PM GMT
    You can buy one and even store him away when you want a break from him.

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    Jan 11, 2012 9:05 PM GMT
    jpk090 saidGood things come to those who wait.


    Oh how I waited and gave myself a chance to get to know me from my youth into my adulthood, I was able to grow a a man first. then when I was truly ready, it came, not when I thought I was ready; and my life has been so blessed since. So yes good things do come to those of us who wait.
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    metta8 saiditemimage.ashx?name=001466.jpg&width=320


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    You know he may even get one that goes down on him too.icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 11, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    I want a boyfriend also, Here's my checklist: icon_cool.gif

    First of all, He has to look good.
    He must also have a well-built body.
    He must also be romantic.
    He must also be smart.
    He must have a great sense of humor.
    He has to be charming and popular.
    He has a great job and makes a lot of money.
    He has to be sexy.
    He has to be an unstoppable “sex machine”.
    He must be obedient and sweet.
    He must like to do housework.

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    Jan 11, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    Augustine92 saidI have only had 3 short-term relationships with guys. I don't know why, but no one ever approaches me or seems interested. Am I intimidating, or creepy?? i have no clue, but why can't I find a guy?

    I'm just lonely and I need a sexy man I can call my one.

    Does anyone have any dating advice? or any tips on how to pick up a guy?
    I going to be a little different and be nice and tell you that I understand what you're feeling, but don't give up hope. Loneliness can be pretty intense but just remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Most of us are normal people but we live in an abnormal world okay.
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
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    Ruskach saidSeriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.


    No the youth of today don't want to wait for anything, they want it all now. I think of all those straight couples that got together in their teens or early 20s, then by the time they were 30+ they wanted out, because they wanted their freedom back, because they never had it. yet if they had of growen and lived before they settled down, this may not of come to pass, but how can you expect a child to understand that.


    He is actually not a child TBA.

    And this has nothing to do with your one-note observations on Straight relationships.

    There is nothing wrong with him wanting to have the experience of a BF. Even a serious BF. It will be one page in one of the MANY chapters of HIS book of HIS life.

    The youth of ANY day has NEVER been known for their patience btw.
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    malefeet saidI want a boyfriend also, Here's my checklist: icon_cool.gif

    First of all, He has to look good.
    He must also have a well-built body.
    He must also be romantic.
    He must also be smart.
    He must have a great sense of humor.
    He has to be charming and popular.
    He has a great job and makes a lot of money.
    He has to be sexy.
    He has to be an unstoppable “sex machine”.
    He must be obedient and sweet.
    He must like to do housework.



    Good luck finding someone to do housework.

    The rest - totally possible.

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    Jan 11, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    youth is SO wasted on the young!!!! icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 11, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
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    TrueBlueAussie said
    Ruskach saidSeriously what's the deal with his age? Okay he's 19, BIG DEAL. At 19 is it abnormal to want a relationship? NO.
    He's yearning for a guy who he can love which is totally legit of him so please, stop making a big deal "you're 19, you have so much to discover, wait till you're 30" yeah I don't think so.


    No the youth of today don't want to wait for anything, they want it all now. I think of all those straight couples that got together in their teens or early 20s, then by the time they were 30+ they wanted out, because they wanted their freedom back, because they never had it. yet if they had of growen and lived before they settled down, this may not of come to pass, but how can you expect a child to understand that.


    He is actually not a child TBA.

    And this has nothing to do with your one-note observations on Straight relationships.

    There is nothing wrong with him wanting to have the experience of a BF. Even a serious BF. It will be one page in one of the MANY chapters of HIS book of HIS life.

    The youth of ANY day has NEVER been known for their patience btw.[/quotOh he is still only a teen, thus still a child, guys really don't start to become men until around 25+. Oh I was very patent as a youth. I waited for love, for gay advancement that I was proactive in helping to make come to pass, and I still await a cure for AIDS, even after the many, many, many mates I have lost; 30 years on I still wait.

    Go out and enjoy your youth, you have lots of time for boyfriends, it's nothing but puppy love at that age.