http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality_and_ChristianityIn accordance with the traditional values of Abrahamic religions, most Christian denominations welcome people attracted to the same sex, but teach that homosexual relationships and sexual acts are sinful.
Do you Christians think this summary is accurate?
Does this mean gay Christians must remain virgins or become ex-gay?
I would say, generally
speaking (very broad here), yes, as an accurate description for at least "evangelicals". The sexual act/behavior outside of heterosexual marriage is considered sinful. It just so happens that homosexuality falls into this category, along with adultery, infidelity, pre-marital sex, etc. Homosexuality is not necessarily singled out, though it may seem that it is in these circles. The subject comes up more and more perhaps due to the nature of current events, and the Church's inability to adequately address this issue well practically.
These Christians ARE open to people attracted to the same sex being in their congregations, as long as
they are "like-minded" about this understanding of appropriate sexual behavior within the context of marriage. So what is primarily frowned upon is blatantly and deliberately engaging in what is perceived as sinful behavior. There is
an emphasis on loving the person, and trying to "help the person" NOT to sin or continue in what is perceived as sin.
So yes, the logical conclusion is that you remain celibate and/or you go through that ex-gay stuff. However, this has proven impractical in my book, but that leaves them all at wits end to know how to address the matter. It's unfortunate because their operating theology really doesn't accommodate other possibilities.
That said, there are the more vocal, fundamentalist, really conservative folk (who aren't really of the "main" evangelical tradition, in my book) who get mean and nasty about it. And are really out to insult, scare, thinking that reverse psychology will work. These are the people that give other Christians a bad rep/name. These are the ones that most gay people really are at odds with. Frankly, if they're so hateful, hostile and unloving, I really question if they even know Jesus at all. It's a shame they use the label "Christian". They're the "loudest" and get the most attention, but frankly, I don't think they are a majority. I think most are what you described.