Hanging out in public with high octane, angry people..

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    Jan 13, 2012 9:29 AM GMT
    So I met up with a guy who I'd hung out with last week. He seemed cool and somewhat level-headed when we first met. I was attracted to him, but his 'straight guy, straight up hood' demeanor didn't really show up til tonight.

    Well, tonight things folded quickly because we went met up tonight and got into three arguments over petty shit. First off, I was trying to find a parking spot and parallel park, which I know how to do...but he kept yapping about where to park, that I didn't know how to drive, etc. Then as I was parking, some bitches behind us acted like they didn't want to give me room to backup, so he rolls down the window and curses them the F out. Whatever, no big deal. But damn...no need to get all aggressive about it on a date LOL. Do that shit when you're by yourself for fuck's sake!

    Then, once I park...he's like, "I need to piss. I'm going to piss right here" on Broadway street at 10 pm at night (which is too damn early for that shit) when there's cars flying by and even worse, a store still has 2 employees closing up for the night! I so wanted to drive off and leave him, but I just laughed it off.

    The angry part was when we were inside the bar. Weekday night. Quiet. Few people there. Just a hangout with a drink or 2 night. This guy jumps on the dancefloor the second he steps in the bar. This is after just 1 beer. He argued and gave the bartender a hard time because of the way he squeezed my limes into my drink! Apparently "I could do that myself". Then, as the night progressed, a mere 15 minutes or so; he starts pushing some guy on the dancefloor who's dancing too close to him...some poor pathetic fuck who looks like he walked in from the street. And he's stooping to his level and pushing him around. I watched about 2 or 3 times where he was saying, "I'm going to beat this guy's ASS".

    Eventually, I was just like, okay...let's go. We get into the car and argue for a good 10 or 15 minutes about his behavior for the night. He's excusing it every way he can, saying that's just how he is and he isn't going to change. That I was blaming him instead of the guy getting in his personal space and apparently "poking him" with his finger, which I didn't see. Saying I remind him of everyone else in Denver and his family telling him that he's "too wild". We were going to hang out some more, but he was so mad at me for expecting a laid back, get-to-know each other night....that he asked me to drop him off at a friends house, and haven't heard from him since.

    This isn't the first time this has happened. I have come across a few people who are just downright angry and curse etc. in public and it EMBARRASSES me! It's like please, have some respect for the person you came with! Do that on your own if you will, but don't be so selfish when you're with someone you hardly know!
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    Jan 13, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    If you don't like the road which you are walking down, walk down another road.
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    Jan 13, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    I ended a friendship over behavior like that. If he's belittling you on your second date, I don't put high hopes on this working out.
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    Jan 13, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidIf you don't like the road which you are walking down, walk down another road.


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    Jan 13, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidIf you don't like the road which you are walking down, walk down another road.


    Great metaphor.

    If you don't like the path you're walking on it's as simple as choosing a different one or making one all your own!
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    Jan 13, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
    Fuck that. Immediate retreat with no possibility of a repeat. I wouldn't have even finished the date. I would've politely excused myself and thrown up those deuces right after him ditching me for the dance floor after only 1 beer.

    Hell, I might've dipped out before then because nobody likes a backseat driver or someone who flies off the handle over trivial shit like parking a car or flipping out on random strangers for a space. You don't act that way on a first date or ever for that matter. He did you a favor by showing you his true colors earlier.

    Get off "THAT" beaten path and go start a new one.

    You sure can pick'em, OP. LOL.
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    Jan 13, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    ROFL.

    Welcome back, Mocha.
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    Jan 13, 2012 9:05 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidYou don't act that way on a first date or ever for that matter. He did you a favor by showing you his true colors earlier.


    I told him that. I was like, "you don't seem to be acting the same way you did when I met you last week". He then goes on to say, "I know, that was my 'square' me."

    I'm thinking to myself, if you want to find someone who's going to put up with your ghetto behind behavior...find you some dude that has nothing going on for themselves and acts the same way. But don't expect everyone else to think it's normal. Pissing in front of businesses at 10 pm, throwing beer cans out of a moving car and dancing all wild the moment you step into an empty bar is not how you going to roll with me.

    Hell, if his family tells him about his behavior...they can't be too wrong LOL.

    He got mad when I told him as we were leaving the bar, "you're going to get us kicked out." He's like, "that guy was dancing in my space, I should be able to stretch my arms out THIS far yadda yadda". how you gonna blame me?! I'm like damn, well it don't need to get physical. You're like pushing the guy around and getting all pissed while you're with somebody. Nobody wants to put up with that shit so early in the night.

    He says he didn't care about the bar, but he cared so much to get into a confrontation about dancing on their floor.
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    TallJock saidSo I met up with a guy who I'd hung out with last week. He seemed cool and somewhat level-headed when we first met. I was attracted to him, but his 'straight guy, straight up hood' demeanor didn't really show up til tonight.

    Well, tonight things folded quickly because we went met up tonight and got into three arguments over petty shit. First off, I was trying to find a parking spot and parallel park, which I know how to do...but he kept yapping about where to park, that I didn't know how to drive, etc. Then as I was parking, some bitches behind us acted like they didn't want to give me room to backup, so he rolls down the window and curses them the F out. Whatever, no big deal. But damn...no need to get all aggressive about it on a date LOL. Do that shit when you're by yourself for fuck's sake!

    Then, once I park...he's like, "I need to piss. I'm going to piss right here" on Broadway street at 10 pm at night (which is too damn early for that shit) when there's cars flying by and even worse, a store still has 2 employees closing up for the night! I so wanted to drive off and leave him, but I just laughed it off.

    The angry part was when we were inside the bar. Weekday night. Quiet. Few people there. Just a hangout with a drink or 2 night. This guy jumps on the dancefloor the second he steps in the bar. This is after just 1 beer. He argued and gave the bartender a hard time because of the way he squeezed my limes into my drink! Apparently "I could do that myself". Then, as the night progressed, a mere 15 minutes or so; he starts pushing some guy on the dancefloor who's dancing too close to him...some poor pathetic fuck who looks like he walked in from the street. And he's stooping to his level and pushing him around. I watched about 2 or 3 times where he was saying, "I'm going to beat this guy's ASS".

    Eventually, I was just like, okay...let's go. We get into the car and argue for a good 10 or 15 minutes about his behavior for the night. He's excusing it every way he can, saying that's just how he is and he isn't going to change. That I was blaming him instead of the guy getting in his personal space and apparently "poking him" with his finger, which I didn't see. Saying I remind him of everyone else in Denver and his family telling him that he's "too wild". We were going to hang out some more, but he was so mad at me for expecting a laid back, get-to-know each other night....that he asked me to drop him off at a friends house, and haven't heard from him since.

    This isn't the first time this has happened. I have come across a few people who are just downright angry and curse etc. in public and it EMBARRASSES me! It's like please, have some respect for the person you came with! Do that on your own if you will, but don't be so selfish when you're with someone you hardly know!


    Sounds like a hot mess. Run, do not walk away from this guy. He has nothing good to offer you! He's abusive towards others, what makes you think he won't be the same towards you later on?
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    Jan 14, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
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    Guy101 saidYou don't act that way on a first date or ever for that matter. He did you a favor by showing you his true colors earlier.


    I told him that. I was like, "you don't seem to be acting the same way you did when I met you last week". He then goes on to say, "I know, that was my 'square' me."

    I'm thinking to myself, if you want to find someone who's going to put up with your ghetto behind behavior...find you some dude that has nothing going on for themselves and acts the same way. But don't expect everyone else to think it's normal. Pissing in front of businesses at 10 pm, throwing beer cans out of a moving car and dancing all wild the moment you step into an empty bar is not how you going to roll with me.

    Hell, if his family tells him about his behavior...they can't be too wrong LOL.

    He got mad when I told him as we were leaving the bar, "you're going to get us kicked out." He's like, "that guy was dancing in my space, I should be able to stretch my arms out THIS far yadda yadda". how you gonna blame me?! I'm like damn, well it don't need to get physical. You're like pushing the guy around and getting all pissed while you're with somebody. Nobody wants to put up with that shit so early in the night.

    He says he didn't care about the bar, but he cared so much to get into a confrontation about dancing on their floor.


    Like I said, Mocha..."Throw them deuces up and call it quits."

    This dude has some major issues and he seems to lack the ability to take responsibility for his rather absurd and deviant actions, especially when out in public. On top of that, he's making excuses and then has the audacity to say to you "That was the "square" me" when you first met him and then he blames you for stuff he caused in the bar! WHAT...THE...FUCK! This dude is a total basket case. He pretty much lied to you about who he is in order to go out with you. He went straight up bipolar on you once he got the chance to "unsqaure" himself in the bar and now points fingers for his short comings. That kind of 1st impression is both a blessing and a curse all at once. More of a blessing but the curse comes from the public embarrassment of being around this dude during the times of his "performances". No Grammy for this dude and certainly no After Party I hope.

    Seriously not worth your time or effort. Abort mission.

    I hope you don't plan on seeing this dude again because he sounds like a loose cannon, and like all loose cannons, they don't care who they hit and cause damage to as long as they get off.

    This dude was a total "F.A.G."

    FUCKING ANNOYING GUY.