What men look for in another man.

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    Jan 13, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    I'm writing an article about men and their attractions to other men when it comes to dating. Answer any that you can. There will be more to come I hope. Thank you!

    1. What makes a man more appealing to date rather than just hook up?

    2. Is the attraction just as instant?

    3. How do you treat the men you want to date differently than the men you want to hook-up with?

    4. What are the traits, personality or physical, that make you open up? And at what stage do you become vulnerable? Is there a certain time frame you have noticed this happen in?

    5. Does social setting/professionalism dictate your mood.

    6. Who would you like to make the first move?
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    Jan 14, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
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    Passionplay88 saidI'm writing an article about men and their attractions to other men when it comes to dating. Answer any that you can. There will be more to come I hope. Thank you!

    1. What makes a man more appealing to date rather than just hook up?

    Personality. Some one that is comfortable with themselves, who seems to be effortlessly sexy, not just in a physical way.

    2. Is the attraction just as instant?

    For me it is. If someone comes up to me, and I don't instantly get weak in the knees, my experience has told me that it won't work out.

    3. How do you treat the men you want to date differently than the men you want to hook-up with?

    I don't hook up anymore, but for dating, usually it's a balancing act between showing interest and not seeming creepily attached. But I've only managed to do the former... woops.

    4. What are the traits, personality or physical, that make you open up? And at what stage do you become vulnerable? Is there a certain time frame you have noticed this happen in?

    Humor, and not the shitty dry humor that make people think they're funny, it has to be effortless. Also loyalty to friends, and he has to hold onto his own beliefs and not just agree with everything I like. I'd rather date a guy that has nothing in common with me and admits it than someone that pretends to be into the same things I am into. I become vulnerable after the first kiss... that's usually when I open up. It's hard to get that out of me though.

    5. Does social setting/professionalism dictate your mood.

    Sometimes, but it depends on the situation.

    6. Who would you like to make the first move?

    I would love for the other guy to make the first move, but lately I've learned that that's a rarity and I've begun making the first move. Lots of shut downs occur, but eventually I'll snag one.
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    Jan 14, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    Passionplay88 saidI'm writing an article about men and their attractions to other men when it comes to dating. Answer any that you can. There will be more to come I hope. Thank you!

    1. What makes a man more appealing to date rather than just hook up?

    Conversation, interests and humour

    2. Is the attraction just as instant?

    No

    3. How do you treat the men you want to date differently than the men you want to hook-up with?

    I treat everyone equally, if thats what you mean... one I date I would try to impress more


    4. What are the traits, personality or physical, that make you open up? And at what stage do you become vulnerable? Is there a certain time frame you have noticed this happen in?

    I have no idea, is never the same with every one

    5. Does social setting/professionalism dictate your mood.

    Yes

    6. Who would you like to make the first move?

    Dont care, I prefer a play of back and forth anyway

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    Jan 14, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    Passionplay88 saidI'm writing an article about men and their attractions to other men when it comes to dating. Answer any that you can. There will be more to come I hope. Thank you!

    1. What makes a man more appealing to date rather than just hook up?

    I think it's common interests, guys who like sports and stuff go up several notches

    2. Is the attraction just as instant?

    No (but I don't really understand the question)

    3. How do you treat the men you want to date differently than the men you want to hook-up with?

    I'm a lot more nervous as I want to make sure I make a good impression.

    4. What are the traits, personality or physical, that make you open up? And at what stage do you become vulnerable? Is there a certain time frame you have noticed this happen in?

    I'm always pretty open, but I think the same interests help me be more comfortable and open up more.

    5. Does social setting/professionalism dictate your mood.

    I actually think with my immaturity, the less professionalism they display, the more open I'll be.

    6. Who would you like to make the first move?

    I prefer if somone else made the first move, but I know if I want something, I gotta get it myself

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    1. What makes a man more appealing to date rather than just hook up? Confidence. Into sports or other things I'm into so we actually have something in common to do things besides fuck.

    2. Is the attraction just as instant?
    Yeah, especially at first.

    3. How do you treat the men you want to date differently than the men you want to hook-up with? I don't make much eye contact and I keep communication short and focussed if I only want to hook up. I am respectful to every guy, but with guys I'm interested in for dating, I ask questions and try to figure out if we have things in common.

    4. What are the traits, personality or physical, that make you open up? And at what stage do you become vulnerable? Is there a certain time frame you have noticed this happen in? Confidence, masculinity, and common interests make me open up. It's important to me that the guy be able to be able to make me better in some areas just as I try to make him better in some areas. I don't like showing vulnerability so I would show it only when I feel I need to and to a person who I thought could help me with the particular situation. I also don't like a lot of attention though.

    5. Does social setting/professionalism dictate your mood.
    Yes. The more anxious I am, I become frustrated and impatient and withdraw from participating in the situation. In group situations, I become a little more on guard.

    6. Who would you like to make the first move? Doesn't matter to me.