Would you date an immigrant?

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    Jan 14, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    As a quite new immigrant to the most tolerant country in the world: Canada of course, I still find it almost impossible to find a soul mate here. Obviously nobody has the patience to listen to someone "not that cool" if you know what I mean. On the other hand, I find some people quite superficial repeating the same stereotypes, talking about the same teams, eating the same food bearing someone's name and I sometimes find it a little stupid to hear someone ordering food naked as he's dressing up in the gym lockers... Anyway, despite the fact that I am now officially part of the society by getting the citizenship, I am bearing the burden of not feeling culturally integrated and this really frustrates me when I see a smiling face that if I knew the right words to say I could have easily turned my life into much more fun, and this happens all the time!

    I know this site does a good job filtering and trying to match, it's the real life that doesn't So rather than just wining here, I suggest those that are interested in leveraging their experience and opening their options to this minority called newcomer or immigrant to do it here. And to set up an example I will refer to immigrants to Canada and invite them to speak up here. I'm from the Greater Toronto Area and I would like to make friends here!
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
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    just kidding
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    I really think this is a non-issue. I kind of like immigrants because they usually know more than one language, have goals, are hardworking and are generally pretty interesting.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    As long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 14, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    Of course. Some of the nicest people I've met are immigrants, and have only been in the country within the last couple of years.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    What?
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Brazilianaire said
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    What?


    LOL. I think (hope) he is being sarcastic.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Yes, I'd date an immigrant.. however, I don't quite understand the message that you wrote/ what it has to do with the dating of an immigrant though.. icon_confused.gif ..Seems more of a personal thing.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    Brazilianaire said
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    What?


    he's just an idiot.

    pay no attention.

    ur hot.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    AssMan123 said
    Brazilianaire said
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    What?


    LOL. I think (hope) he is being sarcastic.


    *smh* that comment itself was "weird".
  • Jockwannabe

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    Jan 14, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    I have to agree to disagree just becuz everyone's experience is different.. Its never easy to uproot, move to a new place and integrate wholly with the people around u... In my opinion its probably easier if u had moved to canada earlier or maybe schooled here as well.. People tend to be cold in big cities and stick to their clicks which are only natural and especially common in toronto.. My suggestion is to take new friendships with a open heart with least expectations and just be yourself.. I am sure you will find true friends eventually.. Luck plays a pivotal role too! ;)
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    Canada, most tolerant - LMAO

    I date immigrants. I won't date an illegal alien. I'll have sex with an illegal, but that's about it.
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    Jan 14, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    date one I married one, and at one time had two of them one a Yank, and the Other a tall beautiful Russian, but that was death till us part, but I still have the Yankee, and thats going strong.
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    AssMan123 said
    Brazilianaire said
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    What?


    LOL. I think (hope) he is being sarcastic.


    Si.
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    Jan 18, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    u make "immigrant" sound like "alien" one world one nation
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    Jan 18, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    Haaretz saidAs long as you aren't a "weird" brown or American.


    Im both haha
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 18, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    Where he is immigrating from...? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 18, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    everyone here in America is an immigrant(except the natives), should it be first generation, second generation or Nth generation.

    Be proud of yourself cheers.

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    Jan 18, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    ailam saidAs a quite new immigrant to the most tolerant country in the world: Canada of course!


    I stoped here. Lol it's obvious that you're new in this country icon_razz.gif but well...you will see by yourself that yes Canada is a beautifull country and the majority of the people are genuinely kind but as there are in any other country there are also jerks here. Steven Harper, our prime minister, is the first on that list lol
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    Jan 18, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    torontoblue saideveryone here in America is an immigrant(except the natives), should it be first generation, second generation or Nth generation.

    Be proud of yourself cheers.



    THe natives are immigrants too... everywhere, humans are immigrants except Africa icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 18, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    Some of you guys need to look up the definition of immigrant.

    And yes I would date one. Even one who is undocumented as long as he's supporting himself, didn't come here for the free stuff, and is working towards becoming a citizen. I have a massive crush on one now, not sure what team he's on, but he's been a good friend for the past couple of years. Portuguese guy. Hell, pass a federal gay marriage law. I'd help him become a citizen. And I even told him that!
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    Jan 18, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    My last boyfriend was an illegal immigrant haha.
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    Jan 18, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    Over the years in south Florida I'd gone out with or just gotten to know a number of new immigrants as well as 1st and 2nd generation Americans. I lived with a guy from Colombia who I thought I might be interested in.

    The only immigrant I had problems with (not real problems, just that I found his affects a bit too old school) was a 1st generation American, new from eastern Europe. Met him at the gym. I was on the floor stetching when he made his move, greeting me from high up in the air with this most unAmerican smile. It was really quaint, a gesture that could not have been misread. He was a nice guy and I tried getting over my issues but I couldn't. I couldn't even have sex with him because, well, this is going to sound a bit odd, but he made me think of who my greatgreatgrandfather must have been.

    It wasn't so much a cultural thing as a contemporary thing. There wasn't just a generation gap between us, there was a century between us. It isn't that he wasn't a very nice guy and I'm sure that my greatgreatgrandfather and he would have gotten along very well, but back then--this is quite a few years ago already--I couldn't figure out how to date such a dated guy. It showed up in his speech and especially in his humor. I don't even know how to describe it. It just wasn't a guy with the thought processes of the modern world but of days gone by generations ago. I tried to be polite about ending our short relationship and I'm sure that I hurt him and I still feel badly about that.

    Conversation with him was like watching reruns on a black and white television set with rabbit ears. I haven't met many guys from eastern Europe and I'm aware that cutting edge art can come from there and I happen to enjoy these guys http://www.myspace.com/animasoundsystem from Hungary, so maybe it was just this one guy's personality. I don't know. At the time and in my memory, I attributed it to his origins, not so much of place, but origins in time.
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    Jan 18, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    Larkin saidMy last boyfriend was an illegal immigrant haha.


    Love it. You can settle arguments with one word, deportation.
  • socalisurfer

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    Jan 18, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Yes and No. Yes, if he moved here and decided to start a life in the states. No if he was here for a few months for work or school. Talking from first hand experience. I met a guy who we clicked from the start. He is here for a few months for school and leaving in March. We started hanging out a lot and both started getting feelings for each other. We talked and decided it was better if we just remained friends. He's going back to Luxemberg in March and anything more than a friendship will just not work out. It was tough since he was the first guy I actually liked in over a year.