Total 120% uncompromising top here
Generally I don't push the issue, if I happen to hook up with another top, one of the following happens:
- he bottoms
- we split a third guy who *is* a bottom
- we suck each other / mutual JO / frot
As an aside, I generally do not seek LTRs, but the ones I have had, the other guy was at least a vers/btm if not a full on total bottom.
As for being wired one way or another - I'll confess that for me, there are both medical, physiological, and "control" factors involved for me in topping.
Medical, in that I have colitis, which flares at the drop of a hat.
Physiological, in that in the small handful of times I've tried to bottom it was excruciatingly painful - and I just don't deal well with it. So I gave up on trying years ago, lol...
And Control, as at least in bed, I like being the "alpha" and dominating my boys. Less of a factor in day-to-day life.