He want to keep his profile on the gay website

  • Adam00

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    Jan 14, 2012 8:54 AM GMT
    we will get married soon in a few months,,, but he is still having a profile on a gay website,,,,gayromeo.com

    he has many pictures and complete profile,,,,2 years we are together i tried to mention that i do not like that my boyfriend has a profile on a sex dating website
    his answer was always that he is using it only to chat with friends,,,,no more

    so i told him me or the website?

    he does not like that i ask him this ,,, because it is silly to compare me with a gay website,,,,,but finally he does not want to leave it

    i told him i really feel bad and i do not like that he has that profile and he could contact with his friends on msn or yahoo messanger

    and we have a big fight now,,,,,, am i wrong?
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jan 14, 2012 9:08 AM GMT
    you probably won't listen to sound advice and marry anyway. At least be smart enough to NOT have bareback sex. Wear condoms!
    reason # 10,885.00
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    Jan 14, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    Your relationship will be doomed if he does not rid himself of this website.. Just saying.

    I didn't know gay marriage was legal in Egypt :/
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jan 14, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    Sounds like a problem to me. Maybe you should consider if this is the man you want to marry?
  • NHsports

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    Jan 14, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidyou probably won't listen to sound advice and marry anyway. At least be smart enough to NOT have bareback sex. Wear condoms!
    reason # 10,885.00


    Great advice. Talking to friends is one thing but there is a lot of temptation out there.
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jan 14, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    Adam00 saidwe will get married soon in a few months,,, but he is still having a profile on a gay website,,,,gayromeo.com

    he has many pictures and complete profile,,,,2 years we are together i tried to mention that i do not like that my boyfriend has a profile on a sex dating website
    his answer was always that he is using it only to chat with friends,,,,no more

    so i told him me or the website?

    he does not like that i ask him this ,,, because it is silly to compare me with a gay website,,,,,but finally he does not want to leave it

    i told him i really feel bad and i do not like that he has that profile and he could contact with his friends on msn or yahoo messanger

    and we have a big fight now,,,,,, am i wrong?


    You're profile says you're single....ummmm...akward...

    Also is gay marriage legal in Egypt?
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Jan 14, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    I had the same issue 2 months into my current relationship. He had a ManHunt profile and several cybersex "friends" on his blackberry, and IT REALLY BOTHERED ME. Call me jealous/insecure/damaged-goods-from-previous-cheaters/whatever. The point is that it really bothered me and I was ready to call it quits. He realized that and got rid of all that.

    If he hadn't, I was truly ready to walk out. I wouldn't want to be with someone who puts his narcisistic need before my wellbeen, neither did I feel like playing the doormat on this particular issue.

    You should have done the same long time ago. Waiting until there is wedding talks is quite lazy from you. Talk to him and be ready to call off the whole wedding if he keeps at it. It is some serious commitment we are talking about here.
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    Jan 14, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    The reality is that if a gay man wants to cheat, sex is available whether he has a profile on a website or not. You can pick someone up at a bar in 5 minutes, or download Grindr in 1.
    I do not know about others but I do not put a lot into monogamy anymore, I just know too many gay couples who end relationships when one of the partners fucks around. For me honesty is the only policy. My only requirement is total and complete honesty and if you lie once, it is over. I keep it that simple.
    I don't play control games, no website rules, who you can or can't talk to or chat with or fuck with. But one lie, big or small, rent a van, because we are done and you need to pick up your stuff.
    Yes, condoms all the time. Any man on a gay hookup website is hooking up.
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    Jan 14, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    ^^^

    Nope.....there is a HUGE difference between flirting and hooking up....
  • Fact

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    Jan 14, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    But sir your on here. and your profile def says single
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 14, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    I remember when my now partner and I first started seeing each other, I had a profile on a site called "Manline" out of Toronto. I have developed a number of friends there (and still have several in the big TO). It was all new to me as I was just coming out and he never threw a fit, but it really was all about talking to other gay guys and getting comfortable with what it was all about.

    I wasn't into it for dating or any sort of sex..... RJ takes the place of the old "Manline" in many cases. I think its all about his reasons for being there.
    If it really is about friendship... it might be reasonable, if not, he needs to end
    his participation.
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    Jan 14, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    er, Adam, isn't this the same fellow you've been cheating on?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2072296/


    Apologies for being so blunt, but why are you marrying someone you sneak around on?
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    Jan 14, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    meninlove said er, Adam, isn't this the same fellow you've been cheating on?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2072296/


    Apologies for being so blunt, but why are you marrying someone you sneak around on?


    Damn. Keep it real.

    Shoes on the other foot now, OP. Now you know how it feels.
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    Jan 14, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    In my opinion I totally agree with you. What's the need of having a gay profile on a website if you have a boyfriend? Just try to talk to him n don't tell him to delete just make him choose and think what how he would feel is he was in your position
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    Yeah well.... This exactly the point; men, especailly gay men, are not man enough to stick it out with one guy. They may have the intention, but that is where the bus stop. I guess it is because 'gay man sex' is freely available and if you get a good offer or just a hint and the chemistry kick in, there is nothing that will stop sex to happen

    I agree, we all hope for that perfect 'get married' relationship, but I stlll need to see the hard evidence that it can happen???

    Meanwhile, good luck and prioritise an exceptional level of open and transparent communication
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    meninlove said er, Adam, isn't this the same fellow you've been cheating on?
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2072296/
    Apologies for being so blunt, but why are you marrying someone you sneak around on?

    OMG, you read all the posts and actually remember who said what? Kudos. Sharp memory there.
  • Adam00

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidYour relationship will be doomed if he does not rid himself of this website.. Just saying.

    I didn't know gay marriage was legal in Egypt :/


    we will get married in Germany
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    The only things legal in Egypt are oppression and government corruption.

    Also large pyramids.

    Same sex marriage is not legal in Germany. There is a civil unions type of thing or as they call it "registered partnership."

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Same_sex_marriage_map_Europe_detailed.svg
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Fact saidBut sir your on here. and your profile def says single


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  • Adam00

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Fact saidBut sir your on here. and your profile def says single


    i never hook up here ,,,,, also i use it to reading for me it is a forum not a sex dating website...and he know that

    and when i filled my profile i did not concentrate alot about single or married

    i did not think that is important,,,by the way i am going to change it,,lol
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Adam00 said
    Fact saidBut sir your on here. and your profile def says single


    i never hook up here ,,,,, also i use it to reading for me it is a forum not a sex dating website...and he know that

    and when i filled my profile i did not concentrate alot about single or married

    i did not think that is important,,,by the way i am going to change it,,lol


    I still think this counts. Not that it's wrong, but what you're doing isn't different than what he is. Even my best gay friend is a great guy and would never cheat on anyone but still won't close his manhunt when he's dating. I would prefer the dude to not visit his accounts, but the decision needs to be his. If I catch him messaging dudes, though, heaven help him/me..
  • Adam00

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    meninlove said er, Adam, isn't this the same fellow you've been cheating on?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2072296/


    Apologies for being so blunt, but why are you marrying someone you sneak around on?


    it is a different issue,,,, and i do not have to tell my private things here,,,by the way he knows everything about and i just remember it so i wanted to share about cheating,,

    and i know that he does not cheat in the website but i do not like that he has one,,, that is it

    if i do not trust him i will not marry him
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Its not exactly fair that you ask him to get rid of that profile while you keep one on here. I know you have a profile on here for workout advice, friends and reading material in the forums and that this isn't a "searching for sex" only site....so maybe you can compromise and ask him if he would like to create a profile on here as well?

    That way you both can have on-line friends and neither of you feel like you have to give something up.

    Just a suggestion.
  • Adam00

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    Jan 14, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidThe only things legal in Egypt are oppression and government corruption.

    Also large pyramids.

    Same sex marriage is not legal in Germany. There is a civil unions type of thing or as they call it "registered partnership."

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Same_sex_marriage_map_Europe_detailed.svg


    the corruption is in every where in the world even in usa and europe,,,, and they just play the game of democracy and they are so far from it,,, any way

    gay marriage in germany ,,or registered partnership,,, they have the same rights like any normal hetero married couple,,,the only different thing that we can not make it in the church

    and for me it is ok as i am not christian and he does not beleive at all so we both does not care ,,,lol

    finally we will be a family and we will have benefits and little tax like any normal family
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    Jan 14, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Adam00 said
    meninlove said er, Adam, isn't this the same fellow you've been cheating on?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2072296/


    Apologies for being so blunt, but why are you marrying someone you sneak around on?


    it is a different issue,,,, and i do not have to tell my private things here,,,by the way he knows everything about and i just remember it so i wanted to share about cheating,,

    and i know that he does not cheat in the website but i do not like that he has one,,, that is it

    if i do not trust him i will not marry him


    You guys are doomed. You'll be giving each other HIV in no time.