Complementary mails

  • UncleverName

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    Jun 22, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
    I'm just wondering what everyone thinks about receiving complementary mails, when they aren't really conversation starters.

    I tend to send guys on here mail every once in awhile just stating something I like about their profile, pictures, or something that they said. I don't always do this with the intention of starting a conversation; I just personally like to hear stuff like this myself, and assume others do.

    Do you like to receive complementary emails, that basically just say hi, I liked this about you. The end?
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    Jun 22, 2008 5:35 PM GMT
    I receive them and send them. I can't possibly be a real friend to every realjock, although I might like to be, lol. I see nothing wrong with it, especially if you are going into it with the innocent not committal intention. If it somehow develops into more, which has also happened to me, all the better. If you never hear from the guy or never respond to someone, respects were paid and people moved on with their lives.

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    Jun 22, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    Who wouldn't icon_razz.gif

    At least it'll get you a new friend.

    I still think twice about it though. Try as I might not to expect anything, I still wish they'd send back acknowledgment of a compliment. As simple as thanks. *sigh* icon_neutral.gif

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    Jun 22, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    Sedative saidWho wouldn't icon_razz.gif

    At least it'll get you a new friend.

    I still think twice about it though. Try as I might not to expect anything, I still wish they'd send back acknowledgment of a compliment. As simple as thanks. *sigh* icon_neutral.gif




    EXACTLY!!!
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    Jun 22, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    This is NOT how to start a conversation with me, though I assume, I could take it as a "compliment":icon_eek.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    "I want to lick your nipples then pull down those jeans with my teeth and lick everything under them"

    Got that sent to me yesterday from a complete stranger...and I have no plans on responding to it...if a guy just say's hello or "nice profile" or even "nice body!", I will say "thanks!", but I sorta look at it this way....if you say something sexual to me when I don't even know who you are, whether to my face or in writing, you're probably gonna get little to no reaction.

    But hey, that's just me.icon_wink.gif

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    Jun 22, 2008 6:55 PM GMT
    Side-step it. Unless it's something completely forward (like smalltownboy's case), then you can side-step it. It's pretty easy to change the topic of conversation. I've gotten a few and depending on the degree of them, I reply to them. Some of them are somewhat bold, but I let the person know I appreciate the complement (because I honestly do), but change the subject to something else.

    I figure if they really wanna' be friends and really wanna' talk, they'll just move the conversation as it veers to a different direction.
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    Jun 22, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    UncleverName said
    I tend to send guys on here mail every once in awhile just stating something I like about their profile, pictures, or something that they said. I don't always do this with the intention of starting a conversation; I just personally like to hear stuff like this myself, and assume others do.

    Do you like to receive complementary emails, that basically just say hi, I liked this about you. The end?

    I am the same, except I'm always open to starting a conversation and making a new friend. But yes, I often find something about someone's profile interesting (if we've traveled to the same place, read the same book, work in the same field, etc) and will send an email to mention it.

    And I'm always interested in getting those kinds of emails also.
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    Jun 22, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    I like to receive complimentary emails, and complementary emails too but only if they're nice ones.

    God I am such an asshole icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 22, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    TigerTim saidI like to receive complimentary emails, and complementary emails too but only if they're nice ones.

    God I am such an asshole icon_biggrin.gif

    I thought I was a grammar snob, but that's one I would have overlooked. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 22, 2008 10:22 PM GMT
    I love getting emails from guys, if they offer some compliments that great, but just saying hi is cool too.

    I dont respond to the guys that start off asking to see naked pics, or to cam with them, or "lets talk sex".

    Thats just me
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    Jun 22, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    Who doesn't like getting a compliment? I respond back about 95% of the time. And often, I find we have common interests and *BAM* just like that, I have a new friend.

    I'm not looking for anything more than friendship, since I have a long term boyfriend. But, I'm sure that returning compliments and striking up a conversation is a great way to meet attractive guys. Many people online want to talk to other people but just don't know what to say or how to start a dialogue. Compliments seem to be the most efficient way, especially if the other bloke has nothing in their profile to comment about.

    Also, if you're not interested say so. And if someone tells you unambiguously that they are not interested back off. Simple as that.

    NOTE:
    "Ur hot" is not a compliment.
    Neither is "wana cam?"
  • Teacherguy

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    Jun 22, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    I agree with zrs. I too have a bf but i love the compliments...and i love giving them. Encoragement is what keeps me going to the gym...when i give compliments a lot of the guys write back thanking me...its kinda nice to see that i made their day and i feel good bout that.


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    Jun 22, 2008 11:24 PM GMT
    zrs106 saidWho doesn't like getting a compliment? I respond back about 95% of the time. And often, I find we have common interests and *BAM* just like that, I have a new friend.

    Also, if you're not interested say so. And if someone tells you unambiguously that they are not interested back off. Simple as that.


    I'm with you, comes down to be polite and considerate. I love seeing new mail and enjoy a good compliment and I give a lot of them also. I've made many friends on here without the premise of sleeping with them. I do like a reply though, after all it's conversation not a date!
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    Jun 22, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    I appreciate them. I always respond back to people emails.
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    Jun 22, 2008 11:35 PM GMT
    What about a good testimonal? Sometimes I send those to guys I never chatted with. Just props to them about their profile. Even thou a profile always outshine the person anywayicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 22, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    I send them and receive them all the time. I don't always receive a message back but it's no problem. And I think that it's always nice to have someone appreciate all my hard work.

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    Jun 23, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    I love getting complimentary e-mails, and I send them sometimes as well. I generally reply to them because I think it's a polite thing to do, and it does annoy me a little when people don't respond to mine - because then I think they assume I was trying to hit on them when I wasn't. But then I remind myself it might be an innocent oversight, so it all evens out in the end.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 23, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    I don't want to appear pervy, so I usually don't send many e-mails. I respond to any e-mail I get, though.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 23, 2008 3:06 AM GMT
    I think nice compliments are fine, so long as they are sincerely meant and delivered.
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    Jun 23, 2008 6:59 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI think nice compliments are fine, so long as they are sincerely meant and delivered.


    Agree with that !
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    Jun 23, 2008 7:28 AM GMT
    It's nice to recieve a respectful compliment from someone even if they don't have the intention of starting a conversation. I do it myself to a few people on here and I never expect them to respond back. If they do then cool. If not then no biggie since all I wanted to do was give an innocent compliment.
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    Jun 23, 2008 7:43 AM GMT
    compliments, introductions, and hellos are ALWAYS welcomeicon_exclaim.gificon_smile.gif
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    Jun 23, 2008 7:53 AM GMT
    I only react well to emails that illustrate previously unknown aspects of quantum chromodynamics.

    If I get one more email that includes the QCD Lagrangian, I'm going to vomit.

    I mean, could someone at least once bring up some aspect of the Nambu-Jona-Lasinio model? Massless pseudoscalar bosons or something? Is that too much to ask?

    Yeesh.

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    Jun 23, 2008 8:12 AM GMT
    iguanaSF saidI only react well to emails that illustrate previously unknown aspects of quantum chromodynamics.

    If I get one more email that includes the QCD Lagrangian, I'm going to vomit.

    I mean, could someone at least once bring up some aspect of the Nambu-Jona-Lasinio model? Massless pseudoscalar bosons or something? Is that too much to ask?

    Yeesh.

    K


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    Oh well... let's just be friends! icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 23, 2008 8:40 AM GMT
    LOL