Jan 15, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
I love my boyfriend, very much, but I am starting to have a major issue with how much he travels and how much he is planning to this year. He goes out of town to visit his friends and family at least once a month for a weekend (about 6 hours away). I've gone with him a few times and met his parents and his friends and like them, but I just am not always able to get away for a whole weekend to go with.
In this coming year he is planning several trips abroad, that will all be over a week long. One is to go on a joint birthday party and bachelor party for his two best friends. One is for a wedding in Europe and then a trip to Asian with some friends. Last weekend we went hiking with a friend of his who has relatives in South Africa and he invited him to spend a week there in May and they plan on going shark diving. When he told me I was furious for two reasons 1) if he goes on that trip in May then he won't have enough time off to go back home with me in June to visit my friends 2) I have always had a huge fascination with sharks and I am the one who forced him to watch Shark Week all last year and got him interested in the idea of shark diving in the first place.
Unfortunately I am not in a place financially to be able to go on the trip (though his friend did extend the invitation to me). I really don't want him to go without me, is it childish and/or petty to feel that way?
On the one hand I don't want to deny him the opportunity to have an amazing experience. But on the other hand we'll have been together over a year by then and to me it just feels at that point that you should want to experience things with your boyfriend not without him.