Another Coming Out Story

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    Jan 16, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    You guys have seen a million of these on here, but here is mine :

    I am just 20 years old at this point in my life, and have always been scared of who I was. Finally realizing that I will never truly be able to love myself if I can not even be honest about who I am I decided to tell my best friend that I am gay.

    I knew he was with his girlfriend at the time, so I decided to text him, and within 6 total text messages (I had a lot to say) I told him. I have never felt so scared in my life, and that is the honest to god truth, as he is one of the most important people in my life.

    I turned my phone after this because I wanted to go do something to take my mind off of it, so I went out with another friend. Upon turning my phone back on (expecting the worst because we come from a small ultra-conservative suburb of San Diego) I had a message from him explaining that he wished he could talk to me because thats the way he wanted to do it, but since my phone was off he texted me saying that it changed nothing between us, we were still best friends, and he would love me and be by my side no matter what (camera cuts to me crying in a booth at the Olive Garden), and that he wanted to talk as soon as I was available.

    I haven't talked to him yet as it is early in the morning where he is now, but I have never felt more free and liberated in my life, and I am finally ready to start my life, and start in as a person who loves everything he is.

    Now to just get some pics of me in nothing but underwear (or a pic at all) and maybe a few extra trips to the gym to get extra ripped and I will be an authentic RJ'er, yeah? In the end, I have never been happier, and I can only wish the same for others.
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    Jan 16, 2012 11:34 AM GMT
    Congratulations on this huge step. It's great that your friend is so supportive, it isn't always easy and friends and allies are key. I'd bet it will only get better from here.
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    Jan 16, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    I applaud you and I'm proud of what you have done. It takes a lot of courage to live truly and comfortably with who you are. I wish I had had your courage when I was your age. Now you will not waste the best years of your life having to liive a lie; you can find love and happiness. Good job!
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    Jan 16, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    Congrats on taking this big step and doing it so well!
    And welcome to RJ!
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    Jan 16, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    Ok...so I cried a little reading it. Man are you lucky to have such a good best friend!!
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    Jan 16, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    TallsdDude saidOk...so I cried a little reading it. Man are you lucky to have such a good best friend!!


    Thank you. He really is awesome.
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    Jan 16, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    *thumbs up*
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    Jan 16, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    I really do thank all of you for the nice comments!
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    Jan 16, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    catholicskoolboy saidI really do thank all of you for the nice comments!
    Well? Did ya call him??????
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    Jan 16, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    catholicskoolboy saidI really do thank all of you for the nice comments!
    Well? Did ya call him??????


    I did call him. He just wanted to hear that I was really okay, he restated everything that he said about being there for me no matter what, and we are best friends for life.

    Definitely loving life at this point.
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    Jan 16, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    you have guts, i will never
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    Jan 17, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    I completely know how you feel man, it is just amazing to know that real friends don't care what the hell you do as long as you're happy... And like you say, there's is nothing better to have that feeling of loving yourself and grabbing life by the balls...
    CONGRATS DUDE!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    A_X91 saidI completely know how you feel man, it is just amazing to know that real friends don't care what the hell you do as long as you're happy... And like you say, there's is nothing better to have that feeling of loving yourself and grabbing life by the balls...
    CONGRATS DUDE!!! icon_biggrin.gif

    Thank you! That is exactly how I feel! Such an awesome feeling.
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    Jan 17, 2012 8:14 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidDoesn't matter how many of these threads read, they always make me smile icon_smile.gif

    I am glad I could contribute to your smiles.
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    Jan 17, 2012 8:33 AM GMT
    Its a start! Congrats! And from one Catholic School Boy to another, I will keep you in my prayers. Look up St. Sergius and St. Bacchus. I beleive you will be surprised and be even more comforted as I was. Lots of brotherly love bro... take care.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saints_Sergius_and_Bacchus
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    Jan 17, 2012 10:31 AM GMT
    Ryan_Andrew saidIts a start! Congrats! And from one Catholic School Boy to another, I will keep you in my prayers. Look up St. Sergius and St. Bacchus. I beleive you will be surprised and be even more comforted as I was. Lots of brotherly love bro... take care.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saints_Sergius_and_Bacchus


    Thanks for that! I just took a look, that is definitely comforting.
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    Jan 19, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
    I have gotten so many great messages on here and in the inbox from wonderful guys like you congratulating me and wishing me the best. Thank you all for being so awesome.
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    Jan 19, 2012 8:00 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidIt feels great, eh?
    Your eyes get adjusted to the dim light in the closet then you can't tell just how dark it is until you're outside looking in.
    Let the games begin - Best of Luck!


    Thanks! Better than ever, so bright im squinting!
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    Jan 21, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    Safe to say at this point, even though I told him a few days ago, that we have actually gotten closer. Weird how that has happened. So grateful though.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidThere is one less barrier between you.

    I will say that is true. Actually there are no longer any barriers, one less from one is definitely zero, we have been open about absolutely everything except me being gay up until now.