FunCollegeDude saidI'm a younger college guy in my twenties and so im looking and trying to meet guys around my age... im not the hookup type and would prefer something more... i dont understand why its so hard to find a down to eartg genuine guy in that age range.. why is it impossible for someone that age to can carry on an adultlike conversaion and be sincere... everyone in that age range seems to be self centered and have no regard for anyone but themselevs.. everythings about status and looking cool... i dont get it... can someone explain?
You might just be sniffing around the wrong kinds of guys - the "stand and model" types that are by definition self-absorbed. Graduate student networks and young professional networking groups are littered with gays in their 20s and 30s who would die for a conversation with someone who wants to talk about something besides Lady Gaga or your last hairstyle. That's where I have met all of my gay friends I can stand to be around.
If you are meeting these undesirables on grindr and adam4adam, well of course, you just need to look in different places.
And not that I think I am incredibly desirable as a friend or otherwise, but I would never talk to anyone who does not have a clear face photo showing as their default. If some of your profiles use the same chest shot here then that might be turning off potential suitors before you even open your mouth - unless I am alone in the face photo required camp.