Why are younger guys such dicks?

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    Jan 16, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    I'm a younger college guy in my twenties and so im looking and trying to meet guys around my age... im not the hookup type and would prefer something more... i dont understand why its so hard to find a down to eartg genuine guy in that age range.. why is it impossible for someone that age to can carry on an adultlike conversaion and be sincere... everyone in that age range seems to be self centered and have no regard for anyone but themselevs.. everythings about status and looking cool... i dont get it... can someone explain?
  • araphael

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    Jan 16, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    It's a matter of maturity. Guys in your age range don't really know who they are yet and most of them haven't had to grow up yet and become mature men. Their parents, or some older guardian, has probably always taken care of them. Treated them like kids and so they think like that. You, it sounds like, are mature for your age but you don't feel quite comfortable yet with interacting with older gay guys. Girls have often told me that they have to experience the same thing from young guys their age. I'm afraid that if you really want to have an enjoyable, exciting, and interesting relationship, you may have to move outside of your comfort zone and try to make friends with some older guys because the younger ones aren't going to change; not any time soon (that is, if you do not want to waste some of the best years of your life waiting for something that you will probably never find in that age range). Be friendly with some older guys, you probably won't regret it. Good luck.
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    Jan 16, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    You're probably chasing after the wrong guys.
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    Jan 16, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    You're probably not giving them enough attention...........or compliments or money or space or time or more money icon_neutral.gif
  • mizu5

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    Jan 16, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    It's why he guy im seeing is 35.

    I can enver find a guy around my age who want to date, unless they date older guys only ahaha.

    Plus I've learned young jobks like odler jocks. Older jocks sometimes like thinner/less built guys so I can find guys who want me in that demographic...
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    Jan 16, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm a younger college guy in my twenties and so im looking and trying to meet guys around my age... im not the hookup type and would prefer something more... i dont understand why its so hard to find a down to eartg genuine guy in that age range.. why is it impossible for someone that age to can carry on an adultlike conversaion and be sincere... everyone in that age range seems to be self centered and have no regard for anyone but themselevs.. everythings about status and looking cool... i dont get it... can someone explain?



    what you have just described is not an age thing,, its a douche thing.

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    Jan 16, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    I don't believe maturity necessarily correlates with age. I've always had the impression that one's upbringing and experiences in life have something to do with it. Many of us could agree that there are plenty of older guys (older people in general) who act like total babies. I know I can think of guys in their 40s and 50s who act like spoiled, angst-ridden teenagers! Meanwhile, I also know some guys barely 18/19 years old who are kind and have it together. You just never know!
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    Jan 16, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm a younger college guy in my twenties and so im looking and trying to meet guys around my age... im not the hookup type and would prefer something more... i dont understand why its so hard to find a down to eartg genuine guy in that age range.. why is it impossible for someone that age to can carry on an adultlike conversaion and be sincere... everyone in that age range seems to be self centered and have no regard for anyone but themselevs.. everythings about status and looking cool... i dont get it... can someone explain?


    You might just be sniffing around the wrong kinds of guys - the "stand and model" types that are by definition self-absorbed. Graduate student networks and young professional networking groups are littered with gays in their 20s and 30s who would die for a conversation with someone who wants to talk about something besides Lady Gaga or your last hairstyle. That's where I have met all of my gay friends I can stand to be around.

    If you are meeting these undesirables on grindr and adam4adam, well of course, you just need to look in different places.

    And not that I think I am incredibly desirable as a friend or otherwise, but I would never talk to anyone who does not have a clear face photo showing as their default. If some of your profiles use the same chest shot here then that might be turning off potential suitors before you even open your mouth - unless I am alone in the face photo required camp.
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    Jan 16, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    Easy. Stop sitting at the kiddie table. Problem solved.