There must be more to initiating relationships than appearance alone

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    Jan 16, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    There are a great many very good looking guys on this site. Oddly a lot of them are single (I've checked but I could be wrong). So if guys who look as great as they do are still single, there must be something else that influences relationships. What is that other thing? What else is it that people look for? And how often do you give that chance to find out if a guy doesn't appeal to your visual tastes? It's happened to me before, I've gotten to know a guy as just a friend (because they didn't really turn my crank) but after some time I hit the realisation that I "like them" like them. And could be down for a date (if they weren't straight heh). Is appearance more important to some people? I apoligise for the stream-of-consciousness.
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    Jan 16, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    I think you are presuming a fallacious conclusion in your question. Your unstated assumption is that most (or all) are looking for a relationship, ergo the attractive guys must be lacking some qualities that prevent them from finding their mates.

    I submit that a large proportion of the single attractive guys are quite happy being single (or merely satisfied with brief encounters, as in hookups).

    Revisit your question with a narrower scope. As in, for the attractive guys who are looking for a long-term relationship (define attractive guy first, I dare you, then define LTR), what is preventing them from finding a mate?
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    Jan 16, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    @MICKEYTOPOGIGIO makes a good point. Also these are gay men and yes indeed appearance is about 99.9% of dating. If you don't have the exact look someone is into chances are they won't both getting to know you beyond that.

    I wouldn't expect much outta this site for dating or most online sites in fact. You'll have better luck meeting people in public so they can talk to you and see what you're like in person rather than making a quick judgement based on pics and a profile.
  • LJay

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    Jan 16, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Some just date a full length mirror. Simple. Disease free. No drama. No wardrobe required.