What does mean"having sex" for you?

  • woow

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    Jan 16, 2012 7:46 PM GMT

    I have been wordering why penetration should be considered "having sex". In the gay world ( for using a word) anal sex means everithing for the most men, there's the division between tops and bottoms that some people define as a unchangeable line, as "to be a bottom" instead "like to bottom"
    I consider anal sex as an importan part but I would not consider as equal as having sex, Would you?

    I put this on the table:
    If you spend a hot night with oral sex, touching, mutual masturbation, frot, kissing, and enjoy a lot of orgasms, is not "having sex"
    But if you spend a night penetrating or being penetrated with almost no touching other part and not ending in an orgasm is considered "I had sex"

    What's your opinion?

    Good day
  • LJay

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    Jan 16, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    Damned if I know. I used to think it was physical intimacy involving genitalia and nudity. Then, during the Monica Lewinsky uproar, I was talking to a girl and saying something like "These people don't seem to consider a handjob or a blowjob to be sex." She said that these days most young folks don't either.

    I remain confused, though willing to explore the definition with a willing partner.
  • commoncoll

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    Jan 16, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Sexual intercourse means vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, fellatio or cunnilingus between persons regardless of sex. Penetration, however slight, is sufficient to complete vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse or fellatio and does not require emission of semen. Penetration may be committed by an object manipulated by the actor into the genital or anal opening of the complainant's body.

    This is from the department of justice. Thus, "oral sex,..., mutual masturbation, frot" are considered to be sexual intercourse.

    Medically, these questions are asked: "When was the last time you had intimate physical contact with someone?" "Did that contact include sexual intercourse?"
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    Jan 16, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    Quote from one of my all time fave gay movies, "Relax, It's Just Sex"

    "If I have an orgasm and there is another man present in the room... it's sex"

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    Jan 16, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    If your naked junk touches any part of another man's body and it's a voluntary act, it's sex to me.
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    Jan 16, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIf your naked junk touches any part of another man's body and it's a voluntary act, it's sex to me.


    Thats crazy.


    Sex is when your penis goes in someones asshole. Or vice versa.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jan 17, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    ZbmwM5 said
    DOMINUS saidIf your naked junk touches any part of another man's body and it's a voluntary act, it's sex to me.


    Thats crazy.


    Sex is when your penis goes in someones asshole. Or vice versa.


    Spoken like a truly lousy lay.
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    Jan 17, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    slimnmuscly said
    ZbmwM5 said
    DOMINUS saidIf your naked junk touches any part of another man's body and it's a voluntary act, it's sex to me.

    Thats crazy.
    Sex is when your penis goes in someones asshole. Or vice versa.

    Spoken like a truly lousy lay.


    Very harsh, but I agree completely.
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    Jan 17, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    I believe in the fluidity of sexual activity. I've had a man scoop Cherry Garcia onto my asshole and tongue into it for hours and vice verse me to him. Did it fit into some cut and dry definition of sex? Who the fuck cares, it felt awesome.
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    Jan 17, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    When you totally f-ck someone's brains out
  • Buddha

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    Jan 17, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
    For me it's penetration icon_razz.gif because it's what I usually like the most.

    But if I am to be "objective", a lot of things can be sex. I think it's very subjective. E.g. if two handicapped people that are paralyzed from the waist below engage in act they consider is sex, who am I to say that it isn't?
  • araphael

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    Jan 17, 2012 12:46 AM GMT
    I agree with the thread master's view on this.
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    Jan 17, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    it is incorrect not to consider oral penetration as sex
  • Anto

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    Jan 17, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    Acts done for the purpose for causing sexual arousal and/or gratification are considered acts of sex, this can include just kissing..
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    Jan 17, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
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    Jan 17, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    not everyone is privileged to have sex with me icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 17, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidQuote from one of my all time fave gay movies, "Relax, It's Just Sex"

    "If I have an orgasm and there is another man present in the room... it's sex"

    What if you're outside? (:

    Yikes. If that counts as a room I had sex with some 2-3 billion guys.
    Sorta all at once!

    So in the spirit of permutations of combinations:

    What if that person is in another room and you were on the phone... or cam?
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    Jan 17, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI believe in the fluidity of sexual activity. I've had a man scoop Cherry Garcia onto my asshole and tongue into it for hours and vice verse me to him. Did it fit into some cut and dry definition of sex? Who the fuck cares, it felt awesome.


    That does sound awesome! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    penis in the butt = sex

    that's why i can say the following line - "new years was hot and a lot happened, but i did NOT have sex."
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    Photobucket

    ^That.
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    Fucking It Deep And Raw
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    that bottom looks dead
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    Jan 17, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    graphicb saidnot everyone is privileged to have sex with me icon_lol.gif


    Pshhh!

    *snaps* gurrrl you aint ready for this!!!

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  • LaxJock16

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    Jan 17, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    7Famark saidPhotobucket

    ^That.


    Pure and simple, you are right.

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    Jan 17, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    closer85 saidthat bottom looks dead


    better?
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