The Great Absession

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    Jul 26, 2007 10:16 PM GMT
    I hear it everywhere: "I want clearly defined abs." Nearly every client I see wants abs. Many of the men on this site already have them or want them desperately. Many people work out to develop a body like those they see on magazine covers and put themselves through ridiculously strict exercise and nutrition regimines to try and get them. I recently posted a forum asking why people worked out. The bottom line from all those responses was that working out and developing a "fit-looking" body meant greater self esteem and happiness. I definitely agree with those ideas, but am baffled at the attention abdominals get and am hoping someone can enlighten me. When you do get a tight midsection, do all your troubles fall by the wayside? Is a six pack going to land you the man of your dreams? Will you get a bigger paycheck? What is this obsession with abs?
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    Jul 26, 2007 10:29 PM GMT
    As you say I think people think it will solve all their troubles.
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    Jul 26, 2007 10:33 PM GMT
    Umm... isn't that a cavity full of puss?
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    Jul 26, 2007 11:01 PM GMT
    Yes, mindgarden except for the omission of one little 'c' it would be a puss filled space.

    I dunno, but usually by the time the abs become noteworthy the rest of the body has as well -- probably something about that low body fat.
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    Jul 26, 2007 11:02 PM GMT
    "Is a six pack going to land you the man of your dreams?"

    I'm thinking more a bottle of pinot and some flowers.
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    Jul 26, 2007 11:08 PM GMT
    My ex had a small, but bonafide, beer belly. I thought he was smokin' hot. I couldn't care less whether he had a six pack or not.

    I have gay friends that go all Karen Carpenter at the mere sight of a slice of pizza "eeeew, my abs!"

    Personally, I don't get it at all. Sure, abs are nice, but it DOES seem an obsession, often bordering on unhealthy.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jul 26, 2007 11:08 PM GMT
    Come on, great abs look great, they are sexy, healthy. You can wear pretty much any cloth if you have a great ab. You look taller, your ass becoming noticeable , your chest becoming broader even your flexibility improve when you have great abs.For men , great ab is vital because accumulation of fat at your ab might disrupt your internal organ.

    I am working so hard to have those six pack abs. I will not stop any I get it.
  • DrStorm

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    Jul 27, 2007 3:58 AM GMT
    We always seem to crave most what we seem not to ever to be able to achieve or have!

    I asked friends about this when they compliment me on my abs - what's the deal, they're just abs, right? His response was, that when he sees someone with good abs it meant that that person had worked hard at getting them (unless you are 20something, are genetically predisposed to awesome abs and have a body fat % of 3%) and that it took dedication and strict discipline to get "abs of steel". I guess it is one way of seeing them, but I do agree, some people do go to the most ridiculous lengths to get them.

    side note: one of my previous room mates used to joke that I had the "six-pack" and he had the "keg".

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  • BlackJock79

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    Jul 27, 2007 3:16 PM GMT
    I have a six pack and I LOVE it when other men have them too. But it's not neccessarily an obsession of mine. As long as he doesn't have a huge beer gut then I'm cool. I try and look my best and I've noticed that when I'm in shape and my abs look good my posture is better and my confidence is higher. I kinda want the abs of the guys on the magazine covers, but I'm not willing to do all that they do to get them. LOL, luckily, I have a very high metabolism and I can keep a six pack without much work at all. I just think abs are sexy... I love hard, muscular men.
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    Jul 27, 2007 4:15 PM GMT
    I kinda ignored my abs for years. When I finally got to the age where they needed some atention I found how really important the core is ..as in, the core is where you should start a fitness regimen. The trainers I have used recently tend to favor a Pilates type focus.
  • healthy1

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    Jul 27, 2007 4:18 PM GMT
    I agree with DrStorm. I'm obsessed with abs because for me they seem to be unattainable. I am naturally skinny and have a really fast metabolism, so putting on and maintaining muscle is difficult. But I have managed to make at least some improvement everywhere on my body except my abs.

    It doesn't matter how many different ab exercises I do, or how consistently I do them, or that I've been doing them for years -- no six pack has emerged.

    I don't expect that a six pack will solve all my problems. All I want is to see the results I feel like I deserve from all this hard work.
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    Jul 27, 2007 5:05 PM GMT
    Well, it has been my recent expierence to see all of this first hand.
    I got into this pretty bad car wreck about 3 years ago. I almost broke my back, I laid in the hospital for abut 4 months.
    I had to do all of this Physical Therapy that hurt...A LOT! I almost gave up.
    But, the Dr. told me, if you don't get back in shape you will have back problems and you wont be able to have sex like you used to.
    I RAN back into the gym.
    As a result, for the first time in my life, My stomach muscles show.
    Personally, I have found a new respect coming my way from other men, gay and straight, that I definitely did not have before.
    People do what I say, they get out of my way and let me pass.
    Straight women strike up conversations with me and touch my stomach, they just reach over and rub it while they are talking to me.
    Stright guys do it too.
    When I go with my boss to seminars and client meetings, when the women leave the room, the men will just reach over a rub them. Sometimes they come up behind me and will reach around me and rub them saying, "Man, you can tell you work out."
    Maybe not the man of my dreams forever, but, the man of my dreams for that night...Yes.
    When I trolling for tail at my favorite hook up joint, someone eventually pulls my shirt up and the guys line up to kiss and rub on my abs.
    and of course, I let them, I mean, come on, I'm almost 40, I don't know how long it will last. LOL
    At the same time, I find I get a lot of attitude from a lot of men. I get these really ugly comments from those dudes who have big, fat, guts.
    But, screw 'em, I have a six pack. LOL

    So, Yes, my life did change when I got the six pack. I would highly recommend getting some yourself.
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    Jul 27, 2007 5:50 PM GMT
    I'm sorry, but do you go to your seminars shirtless? Sounds a bit unprofessional to me.
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    Jul 27, 2007 5:55 PM GMT
    Kingbee38 is it the abs, or the love potion you have been smearing all over yourself?
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    Jul 27, 2007 6:41 PM GMT
    KingBee, you're almost 40? Your profile says you're 31!
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    Jul 27, 2007 8:04 PM GMT
    To: KingBee38

    Abs? what abs? am I blind?