what do you do when you see your ideal guy in public

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    Jan 18, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    (by ideal i mean your type)

    Like that person that keeps making eye contact with and making you nervous, and then the biggest part, you never know if they are gay, and you can have the best conversations, you might even like everything about them.


    (Like if i could i would tell a lot of guys they are hot. But i cant and i just stand to the side and watch my potential future walk right past me.)
  • Trepeat

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    Jan 18, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    Urgh, had this happen to me today. Smiled at him, tried not to make too much eye contact but let it linger when we connected, and gave him my best, "I wannna fuck your hot mouth`` eyes. Hoping he comes back and I can wait his table again (literally, and then figuratively).
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    Jan 18, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    I hate when that happens.... We should make an international "I'm gay sign", cos a lot of gay people don't fit the stereotype and it's hard to know wether they are intersted or just looking, and the worst part is that my type are those who are hard to tell!... So who's with me on the international gay sign icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 18, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidI hate when that happens.... We should make an international "I'm gay sign", cos a lot of gay people don't fit the stereotype and it's hard to know wether they are intersted or just looking, and the worst part is that my type are those who are hard to tell!... So who's with me on the international gay sign icon_razz.gif


    Totally agree!

    One time I was in a Starbucks in a town I travel for business. It was pretty dead inside, but I happened to be in with a 'friend'. When I said can I get blah blah blah....he said Oh you can have whatever you want and looked at me with a smile. I swear to GOD I wish I were in there alone because I would have totally commented on the then flirted like a mother f-er. But then I wondered if I had been in there alone...would he have said that to me....not knowing my preference? A gay sign would have totally helped.
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    Jan 18, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidI hate when that happens.... We should make an international "I'm gay sign", cos a lot of gay people don't fit the stereotype and it's hard to know wether they are intersted or just looking, and the worst part is that my type are those who are hard to tell!... So who's with me on the international gay sign icon_razz.gif


    haha that also happens to me every time and I hate that too! my type of men are also those who are hard to tell so I kinda always assume that they are straight which sucks because I always think that I don't have any chance with them because of that. Actually it realy is since I joined this site that I started to realize that there are a lot of gay guys who don't fit with the stereotype.
  • Brick_n_Lace

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    Jan 18, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    It depends on my mood and the ppl around. i usually err on the side of caution for safety reasons if nothing else. I rarely see someone who appeals to me in almost every way so I try to jump on it. i start with eye contact and an interested look followed with a smile and looking away. lol...
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    Jan 18, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    I've been asked if I was "family" in public by a couple of guys. Maybe this would be a discrete, confidential way of asking someone if they are gay???
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    atlantasouthguy saidI've been asked if I was "family" in public by a couple of guys. Maybe this would be a discrete, confidential way of asking someone if they are gay???


    Huh, I just googled it and apparently it is. You learn something every day.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101016122156AALO0Ux/
    "Are you family?" is a polite and discreet way of asking someone if they are gay/lesbian

    The even mentioned it in NYTimes:
    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/25/nyregion/25cadet.html?pagewanted=all
    There are code words and test phrases: “Are you family?” refers to inclusion in the lesbian sisterhood
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    Blush and try to flirt wit him icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
    This has not happened to me in 34 years .

    Perhaps I'm doing something wrong.
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:42 PM GMT
    holy shit, are you family means that..... a year ago someone asked me this, have no idea what they looked like anymore tho, but when im near some1 i like i stay quiet lol
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    i wink icon_wink.gif

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    Jan 18, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    If I connect with a guy, usually my "straightometer" goes off because I seem to always attract the straight guys. The gay guys are the ones who don't make eye contact, or don't strike up a conversation in my experience.
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    but not with the dark shades on. i'll lower the shades and continue on
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    I throw a lasso around him and put him in a sack.
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    Jan 18, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    pull his hair and run away giggling.
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    do you guys have some tips to help me guess whether someone is gay or not?? for example for me my type of guys don't fit with the stereotypical image of gays so are there some ways to know if the other guy is gay or not? other than asking if he's "family"? I am a little bit shy to ask a guy that and also I'm not completely out so are there non verbal messages or something that can make guess if someone is gay or not?
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    BLOW MY LOOOOOAAD

    or, just carry on with whatever I was doing.

    Probably the latter.
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:12 AM GMT
    Shinobi saiddo you guys have some tips to help me guess whether someone is gay or not?? for example for me my type of guys don't fit with the stereotypical image of gays so are there some ways to know if the other guy is gay or not? other than asking if he's "family"? I am a little bit shy to ask a guy that and also I'm not completely out so are there non verbal messages or something that can make guess if someone is gay or not?


    1. See how many times he uses "fierce" in a sentence. More than 3 and he is a pillow biter.
    2. Ask him who was the bigger revolutionary. Tom Ford or Henry Ford.
    3. Say "hey gurl" and see if he turns around
    4. Ask him if he thinks Tim Tebow spends too much time on his knees. Wait, thats more of a trick question
    5. See if the jeans he is wearing came in a pre cut length or if he had them hemmed.
    6. Ask him what DSquared is. If he thinks its a math question..probably likes the vag.
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    i throw up
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    Step one:
    Find any reason at all, no matter what, to start a conversation.
    Examples:
    - I like that watch, where did you get it?
    - lousy weather out, right?
    - oh I'm an alum too! (like shooting fish in the barrel when guys wear their school shirts to the gym)
    - would you recommend this or that? (works best in an aisle of Whole Foods)

    Step two:
    Gauge uneasiness of him, scan the near distance to see if a woman is sprint-hurdling over to break up this conversation. If the coast is clear proceed to step three.

    Step three:
    ??????

    Step four:
    Profit. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Hey, it's 2012. The 21st century. You whip out your smart phone and start grindr.

    Today on the train a cute boy and I were doing the eye contact and smile thing as I was waiting to hop off at my stop. I took out my phone and in ten minutes I have his name and number.

    "The future is already here. It's just not evenly distributed." - William Gibson
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]iguanaSF said[/cite]Hey, it's 2012. The 21st century. You whip out your smart phone and start grindr.

    Today on the train a cute boy and I were doing the rye contact and smile thing as I was waiting to hop off at my stop. I took out my phone and in ten minutes I have his name and number.

    "The future us already here. It's just not evenly distributed." - William Gibson[/quote

    this sounds like the ideal hook up, not the ideal guy.

    no judging mk
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    archon saidi throw up


    I throw up when I'm nervous too!! I really thought I was the only one.
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    Jan 19, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    archon saidi throw up


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