a1972guy saidUm, it's called a connection....
Yeah, but then there's that one guy you find that you connect with...who turns out to be a complete jackass in every sense.
Some guys are good at pretending. Outward charisma sometimes hide a narcissistic, inconsiderate, immature person inside. I've learned to spot guys like that after spending at most a few hours with them. Usually, blaming other people tend to be among the first things out of their mouths.
I don't tend to do one night stands unless the sex was bad. I let the bf materials get to know me more by suggesting long drives or hikes together, for the fuck buddy types I share a bit less of myself with them. For me a bf material is someone who besides being sexually compatible
- intellectually piques my interest
- is successful (or shows potential) in a line of work that involves originality and challenges
- is emotionally and socially self-sufficient
- has sufficient understanding of multi-cultural perspectives