Boyfriend material

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    Jun 23, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    Gay guys seem to use this expression a lot.

    Do you see some guys and think he's just worth a shag while others are worth investigating? What makes some guys more dateable than others?
  • GQjock

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    Jun 23, 2008 10:50 PM GMT
    Hot with a LIFE! icon_cool.gif

    There are so many guys who are just jumping from one hook up to the next
    and that's all they care about to the exclusion of enjoying the rest of what life has to offer

    I like ambitious men....
    men who paint
    write
    travel
    enjoy theater
    can talk about politics

    ...instead of hanging out at bars every weekend icon_neutral.gif
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jun 23, 2008 10:53 PM GMT
    Good question; of course, the answer will vary by person.

    To me, boyfriend material is someone with whom we share a mutual physical and spirituaL connection and attraction that can grow with time.... someone you will WANT to share your life with, wake up in the morning with, go to sleep at night with... someone you want to be a better man FOR... someone you want to love and make happy in every way. This is a person who will not want to hang out at bars to meet others but wants to be with YOU, live with YOU. build a life together.
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    Jun 24, 2008 12:49 AM GMT
    Um, it's called a connection....

  • Timbales

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    Jun 24, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
    I've never looked at someone and thought "he's just good for a shag/f*ck/whatever". Is there something wrong with me?
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    i like my boyfriends to be in a nice pale blue chiffon! Its the best material!
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    I pretty much would see a guy and determine if he was hook up material. We would hang out, talk, get to know one another. From that I would decide if they were boyfriend material.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 24, 2008 1:05 AM GMT
    danielryan saidi like my boyfriends to be in a nice pale blue chiffon! Its the best material!


    but chiffon wrinkles so easily!
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    Timberoo said[quote][cite]danielryan said[/cite]i like my boyfriends to be in a nice pale blue chiffon! Its the best material!


    but chiffon wrinkles so easily![/quote]

    that explains a lot about the guys have been dating recently! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    danielryan saidi like my boyfriends to be in a nice pale blue chiffon! Its the best material!


    Smartass.
    I knew I liked you. icon_smile.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 24, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    danielryan saidi like my boyfriends to be in a nice pale blue chiffon! Its the best material!



    Well, it just so happens that I'm being fitted in something BLUE and CHIFFON as we speak icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:31 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said[i][b][quote]
    Well, it just so happens that I'm being fitted in something BLUE and CHIFFON as we speak icon_lol.gif


    I, for one, am patiently waiting for this pic to show up on CuriousJockAZ's profile.

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  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jun 24, 2008 2:22 AM GMT
    I use the term myself. To me, it's kind of a short hand for a guy who has long-term potential: a good match of personality and character, and the sort of guy I'd want to introduce to my friends and family. Also, well, I find it tends to scare away a good percentage of the guys who are merely looking for a meaningless hookup.

    As for what makes some guys more dateable than others, well, lots of things. Those are going to vary a lot from one person to the next, but I tend to look for kindness, curiosity, planning for the future, and a good degree of independence/low amount of jealousy.
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    Jun 24, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    Sounds like something they ought to sell at home depot.

    In just seven days... I can make you a man...
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    Jun 24, 2008 8:46 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidSounds like something they ought to sell at home depot.

    In just seven days... I can make you a man...


    Does it come with a wedding ring?
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    Jun 24, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    Depending what you want in a relationship will influence whether you think a guy is good "boyfriend" material. If monogamy is important then some guys will be struck off the list pretty quickly. If maturity and responsibility are important then guys that are still living at home at 30 and can't hold down a job are probably also not a good bf prospect. If having a good time every weekend is important, than a "homebody" might not be your cup of tea for a bf.
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    Jun 24, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    While I agree completely with GQJock in the descriptive sense, my first thought is more along the lines of mindgarden:

    I need some muscle, compassion, some boyfriend material, and some humor. Mix well and serve.
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    Sep 24, 2009 5:31 PM GMT
    CreaseHem saidWell, if you are implying "shagging" as a form of contact which is less than critical to a relationship, I do get turned on by guys and sex is important in a relationship to me so that goes to say it depends on my marital status. If in a commited relationship with someone who I like that gives me enough sex then I am successful. When single and ready to mingle I have a tendency to chase penis in general, kind of first come first serve until I find something worthwhile.



    ahahaha icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 24, 2009 5:52 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidUm, it's called a connection....



    Yeah, but then there's that one guy you find that you connect with...who turns out to be a complete jackass in every sense.
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    Sep 24, 2009 6:15 PM GMT
    collegekid2004 said
    a1972guy saidUm, it's called a connection....



    Yeah, but then there's that one guy you find that you connect with...who turns out to be a complete jackass in every sense.


    LOL - hmmmmmm why does that sound so familiar to me
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    Sep 24, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    there's something indescribable - the je ne sais quoi quality.

    while a bit of muscle doesn’t hurt - it's not of chief concern. someone who is openminded, warm and is passionate about something in life is.

    oh and he must like kissing- that's the deal breaker
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 24, 2009 8:24 PM GMT
    I am so fed up with liar and cheater , I will put HONESTY as my main concern if I gonna have a new bf. Look, physical , brain , politeness and all those other stuff come later.
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    Sep 24, 2009 8:30 PM GMT
    For me, if they are worth jumping into bed with, they're worth a date or two... at least to investigate.
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    Sep 24, 2009 8:58 PM GMT
    collegekid2004 said
    a1972guy saidUm, it's called a connection....



    Yeah, but then there's that one guy you find that you connect with...who turns out to be a complete jackass in every sense.


    Some guys are good at pretending. Outward charisma sometimes hide a narcissistic, inconsiderate, immature person inside. I've learned to spot guys like that after spending at most a few hours with them. Usually, blaming other people tend to be among the first things out of their mouths.

    I don't tend to do one night stands unless the sex was bad. I let the bf materials get to know me more by suggesting long drives or hikes together, for the fuck buddy types I share a bit less of myself with them. For me a bf material is someone who besides being sexually compatible

    - intellectually piques my interest
    - is successful (or shows potential) in a line of work that involves originality and challenges
    - is emotionally and socially self-sufficient
    - has sufficient understanding of multi-cultural perspectives
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    Sep 24, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    CreaseHem saidWell, if you are implying "shagging" as a form of contact which is less than critical to a relationship, I do get turned on by guys and sex is important in a relationship to me so that goes to say it depends on my marital status. If in a commited relationship with someone who I like that gives me enough sex then I am successful. When single and ready to mingle I have a tendency to chase penis in general, kind of first come first serve until I find something worthwhile.




    someone needs to slap this kid... there was nothing entertaining about that video.