Anyone ever have a mystery admirer/stalker???

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    Jun 23, 2008 11:55 PM GMT
    So a few months back...i seem to have acquired a stalker. He goes to my gym and spotted my profile and messaged me that "he knows me". After some cajoling, i agree to add him to my Yahoo and for the next few months we play this cat and mouse game where apparently he gives me clues and i try to spot him at the gym. Well...the other day, he screwed up and showed me his full face pic and i recognized him (MUAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!). The best part being...this guy is actually one of my crushes at the gym. (go figure...huh??) N e ways...so i finally meet my stalker (at a neutral crowded venue) and we spent hours talking and another few hours on other "activities" (in a not so crowded venue). He ended up being a really nice guy (not someone i'd like to date though)to have as a friend (with benefits of course). So n e one else have such stories??
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jun 24, 2008 12:08 AM GMT
    I always wanted a stalker. Anyone icon_question.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:04 AM GMT
    I have not had a story like that. My stories are very "Swim Fan" like.

    My first one was back in High School. It was this girl that I met through a friend and I just despised. She was boring and so very annoying. I would get these phone calls from the same number about 5 times in a row every hour on the hour. Then I'd go to school and she'd come up to me and say, "Why didn't you pick up the phone? You were home." Lots of other creepy stuff...and then the literally disappeared after I told her off.

    The last one was about a year ago. I met this guy and thought he could be a friend (and NOTHING more). We traded numbers and talked and I went on Winter Break. Then it got to the point of "I really like you. I want to rent a hotel room and for us to spend the entire day in it." Here is the catch. He said he was 45 and looked like he was in his mid fifties. I said no, I was dating someone. Then a parade of messages came that sounded like well worded threats. On "our day together", he sent me texts like, "We'd be starting now," "We'd be half way through now," "We'd be finishing now." I finally told him to lose my number. For months, he'd message me looking for NSA, a quick hook up, a cup of coffee, to tell me he was meeting someone in my dorm for a hook up and I should join, or he'd try to get me and my bf to do a 3 way with him. Finally, about 2 or 3 weeks ago, he sent a text saying, I got my wish, he was deleting my number, and that I should be careful cause if I keep messing with people, I'll get mine. So, I go back up to Flagstaff in a few months and we'll see if that is over or not...

    Yeah, my stalker stories are not too glamorous…or even glamorous at all.
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    Jun 24, 2008 1:07 AM GMT
    MikePhil saidI always wanted a stalker. Anyone icon_question.gif


    MikePhil, I thought you were mine this time?!?!?!?
  • treader

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    Jun 24, 2008 1:34 AM GMT
    In college, I was the president of the gay group. I was also worked pretty late in a lab. Someone figured out my work number and started calling me pretty late at the lab. He told me that he knew who I was and that he was watching me. Wouldn't tell me who he was. It really freaked me out. Didn't own a car so I had to walk or biked home. Later in the week, he called me again and revealed that he was interested in seeing me. Again he wouldn't tell me who he was or how he knew my work number. I told him that he really picked the wrong approach and that I wasn't interested in seeing anyone else especially since I had a boyfriend already. Never heard from him again. Really bugged me what he put me through for that week. I guess some people just don't think. icon_mad.gif

    nysexy, glad that your story had a better ending.
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    Jun 24, 2008 3:19 AM GMT
    Oh yes! Several years ago, I started receiving letters in my mailbox, with the messages constructed out of magazine cut out letters. Gifts started appearing on my back step, with more letters.

    I used to run with friends on Sun. mornings and upon my return more letters or gifts. After returning home from the bar one night, someone started tapping on my window. Jumped up, ran outside but to no avail.

    It became more a nuisance because, people insisted on walking me to the car, having me call when I left home and returned.

    I wasn't scared but merely annoyed by trying to put together the clues to figure out this loser. Finally, he became brave and mixed a few hand written letters with his cut outs. A few letters later, I recognised a "9" and searched through all of my old birthday, Xmas cards. It was someone I dated previously who dumped me.

    I confronted, he denied but eventually conceded. Never really understood why since I was dumped.

    A few more creepy, successive stories about this guy of similar nature but will not waste any more time.
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    Jun 24, 2008 6:55 AM GMT
    Back when I was young and innocent, I chatted with this guy without a pic. He seemed nice enough, but kept giving me pressure to meet him.

    Eventually he started talking about me on Gaydar in the chat rooms, suggesting I was just a time waster. Not intending to have my source of sex dry up, I agreed to meet him for a coffee agreeing that that would be the end of it.

    Met him. Refused to have sex with him in the toilet of the cafe, and the next day the calls started coming.

    Eventually he had written my phone number and a message from me, "Hi, I'm Matt, I've got a big cock, give me a ring if you want some fun," in every gay toilet in the state.

    Toilet pick-ups aren't my cup of tea, but the guys who rang me were all very kind and scratched my name off the toilet walls for me.

    He did it again periodically after that, but then went to gaol for calling a call centre and being sexually abusive over the phone.

    Since then he's put his own death notice in the paper, but he's still kicking around somewhere. I wish I had a good stalker story! My other stalker was a woman, and no one wants to hear about that! icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 7:31 AM GMT
    Stalk Me?
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    Jun 24, 2008 7:32 AM GMT
    I had one once.
    They crawled in through my window one night, I gave him the best 15 minutes of his life.

    Never saw him again...

    Could never work out why...
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    Jun 24, 2008 8:23 AM GMT
    nysexythis guy is actually one of my crushes at the gym. (go figure...huh??)


    icon_cool.gif You were stalking each other!

  • metalxracr

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    Jun 24, 2008 9:41 AM GMT
    Yes, it was like a triple threat stalker! It was some girl that always made phone calls, but had a raspy creepy voice.

    Back when I lived in Texas, my best friend and I were always together and one night she called me like at 3 in the morning saying someone just called and said, "Good morning my little angel, you're boyfriend said some mean things to me, he's going to die."

    Apparently it was someone we knew well, because they described my friends backyard. There is no way you can get or see back there unless you're let in through the gates or through the house. It's impossible.

    Then her boyfriend started getting all these calls too, and then I started getting them. All three of us got them for about a month! Even while the three of us were together we'd receive calls and we'd each have it on speaker phone. it was weird.


    But I got them all the time, and they described to me what I was wearing that day and where I went, and all this stuff. It was insane. It quit for a while, but then when in my first semester of college they started calling back again through out that year. But I told them if they really knew me, then they'd know about my collection of ammunition and they'd better leave me alone because I'm about to start tracking them down. They immediately hung up.

    But of course I was kidding, but the next day I was already scheduled for a new phone number because I was moving to LA the next week and only like 3 of my friends new about that. But that was the last call!
  • GQjock

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    Jun 24, 2008 10:15 AM GMT
    I've had both...
    and given the choice I'd def take the admirer icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 2:19 PM GMT
    nysexy saidSo a few months back...i seem to have acquired a stalker. He goes to my gym and spotted my profile and messaged me that "he knows me". After some cajoling, i agree to add him to my Yahoo and for the next few months we play this cat and mouse game where apparently he gives me clues and i try to spot him at the gym. Well...the other day, he screwed up and showed me his full face pic and i recognized him (MUAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!). The best part being...this guy is actually one of my crushes at the gym. (go figure...huh??) N e ways...so i finally meet my stalker (at a neutral crowded venue) and we spent hours talking and another few hours on other "activities" (in a not so crowded venue). He ended up being a really nice guy (not someone i'd like to date though)to have as a friend (with benefits of course). So n e one else have such stories??


    I like your story. And I realize you are using the word stalker comically....But have you ever dealt with a real scary stalker?

    Not fun.

    Happened three times in my life.....no fun going to court to stop the shit and was nerve racking to say the least.
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    Jun 24, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    I had one about 12 years ago. He worked at the court house and would call me constantly. As my dad is a lawyer, I often thought it was him calling me, so I would mistakingly pic up the phone only to have breathing on the other end. The guy started off by sending me cheesy pictures from International male as if they were porn with notes that say "I have more sexy photos and videos at home if you want to hang out." Then I realized that he went to the same gym as I did. I would come in from the shower to find something of mine missing. a swim suit. then a jock strap. then a towel. At first I thought they had just been stolen or mistakenly picked up. Later, the messages from him let me know that he had picked them up and was enjoying wearing them, but would be more than happy to drop them off. This lasted about 2 months. I tried to avoid him at first, thinking he would eventually just stop. I even tried to look him up at the court house. That only made things worse. At the peak of the stalking, I would come home to see about 20+ calls from him on my caller ID. I had asked him to leave me alone via email and on the phone a couple times in the past, but it was very polite. I even called the police to have him stop, but I got nothing back from them, but a chuckle. Finally, I told him firmly that I would call the police if he did not leave me alone. This made him lose it. Turns out, he worked for the police. Which might have explained the random parking ticket notices I was getting at the time. He got angry with me and said he was coming by to address the parking issue and might have to arrest me. I was freaked out. I called in a favor with a friend in the DA's office and looked this guy up. Turns out this guy was not a cop, but worked in the police department doing some clerical work - ie issuing ticket warnings. He showed up at my place in a uniform that he must have bought at an army surplus cause it was not even the same as our city police. I had my ex boyfriend who was a national level wrestler come by in case something happened. The guy lurked around outside for a while, but never knocked on the door. We sat inside peeking out of the window. Finally, my ex stormed out and scared the shit out of the stalker. I don't know what was said, but I did not hear from him for a couple weeks. Then the calls started up again. this time, I was a bit more assertive. I walked into the police department and grabbed one of the cops I knew. I walked over to the guys desk and just flat out said, "if you continue to call me or ever come by my house impersonating a police officer again, I will have you arrested. The cop looked at me in disbelief and escorted me out, as I was livid. Later they checked his phone records and saw all the calls to me. I never heard from him again.

    Really freaky shit.. At the time, I was super annoyed, but found it slightly amusing. Today, I would be scared. It could have gotten weird or dangerous.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 24, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    Yes, I've had stalkers... most have been "friendly" stalkers, but some you wonder.....

    The most infamous (since he is a good friend and a client) I began to know when I first really came out in 2002. He is partnered (and I had my bf), but it was like he was possessed for about 2 months. I remember him showing up at my house at 1:00 a.m. calling me on the phone (waking me up) and telling me he was in my driveway (remember sitting up in bed and looking out my window and him waving at me). We ended up talking (only) and he went home. His partner was waiting for him and even now thinks we did alot more than just talk.

    Last summer I had someone tell me on gay.com he enjoyed watching me mow my lawn. I'd never laid eyes on him before and on the basis on the conversation, knew where I lived and what I was doing. That was creepy.


    And NYSEXY... why wouldn't ANYONE notice you at the gym... I would for sure...
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    Jun 24, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    In high school there were three girls who would be sitting on my lawn waiting for me to come home some afternoons - they were harmless and friendly....but little did they know I would have preferred hanging out with their hot brothers!
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    Jun 24, 2008 3:57 PM GMT
    No, there is nothing anonymous about the stalkers I've had icon_neutral.gif.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jun 24, 2008 7:18 PM GMT
    a1972guy said[quote][cite]MikePhil said[/cite]I always wanted a stalker. Anyone icon_question.gif


    MikePhil, I thought you were mine this time?!?!?!?
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    Only if you will be mine icon_wink.gif
  • redheaded_dud...

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    Jun 24, 2008 7:24 PM GMT
    Stalkers: NOTHING funny or fun about the real thing.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jun 24, 2008 8:58 PM GMT
    WOW, you are really lucky that he turned out to be not only harmless but a nice guys as well.
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    Jun 24, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    I do count myself lucky that this guy ended up being nice. Upon asking him about the whole "mystery" thing he was pulling...he laughed and said that he enjoyed watching me look for him...he said that there were a few times where i came right up to his face and he was like "crap...the jig is up" but i wouldn't recognize him and would walk past him. He was also scared that he wasn't "up to my standard"...but more than that..he was genrally very amused at the fact that i had no idea who he was.
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    Jun 24, 2008 9:27 PM GMT
    Yes, though he thought we were dating.

    Hehe, cheap joke, sorry.icon_lol.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jun 24, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    Pattison asked me to stop stalking him icon_confused.gif

    Who would have known I was a stalker icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 27, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
    No thank god! I have a MySpace friend who had a stalker and it got quite scary. It took him months to trust other guys, even to the point he would not give out his phone # to a guy who might be interested in him.

    It sounds flattering to have a secret admirer/stalker but some of these people are mentally unstable and should be avoided like the plague.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    Not so much a "stalker" because he revealed himself to me pretty quick so I guess admirer would be the proper term for this one. It was a cool story. I use to have AOL and one evening out of nowhere I got an IM from someone I'd never heard of. Told me he knew who I was and gave me some nice compliments. Said he'd always wanted to say hello but was a little shy. Said his name was Kevin and that we had crossed paths at one of the gyms I go to periodically. Couldn't place the guy in my mind and left it at that. Second day he pops up on AOL again and begins chatting. Showed me a photo and still couldn't place him. The more we chatted I thought what the heck we could meet in public some place no harm. Met him and clicked right off. Hot guy. Great kisser. Didn't turn out to be the love of my life but made a real good friend and have had some fun times along the way.