Should you tell him, you like him??

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    Jan 19, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    I've always come across this dilemma: When you meet a guy that you like, but aren't sure if he likes you back, do you tell him you like him and take the first leap?? I don't know, by doing this sometimes you give a lot of the "chase" away and that can subconsciously make someone less attracted to you (trust me I've seen it done...I've done it) I think people, like wanting what they don't have.

    However, I'm a firm believer in he idea that if someone TRULY wants you they will make an effort to be with you, it's black and white, no gray area in between.

    IDK, this can be quite juvenile, but I think everyone still goes through this...what do you guys think?
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    Jan 19, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    Use law of attraction in mind on the outcome.... it works!
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    Jan 19, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    Go with the Little Red Riding Hood approach... make routine and sincere declarations about exactly what you like (smile, wit, eyes, agility, common interests, whatever) about the person you're after. e.g., "My, what a great smile you have!"

    Allow him to triangulate all the compliments, and he'll pick up the clue, and eventually will respond one way or another.
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    Jan 19, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    Sidney12 saidI've always come across this dilemma: When you meet a guy that you like, but aren't sure if he likes you back, do you tell him you like him and take the first leap?? I don't know, by doing this sometimes you give a lot of the "chase" away and that can subconsciously make someone less attracted to you (trust me I've seen it done...I've done it) I think people, like wanting what they don't have.


    Do you really want someone fickle like that?
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    Jan 19, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    I think flirting a little wouldn't hurt. It's a simple yet effective way of showing him you're interested.

    My dilemma is that I like a guy & we get along great, but he's taken=/ Booo!! lol
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    Jan 19, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    Im having a huge problem now haha i met this awesome guy in LA...totally perfect for me & we didn't do anything...He asked if i wanted to sleep in the same bed but i was to afraid to seem to easy but I'm such an idiot. Now i regret every second of it & we still talk n get flirty but I'm not sure if he likes me the same way I like him....

    He is everything I could ever ask for & OF COURSE I HAVE TO LIVE IN SWEDEN....

    I don't know what to do but i sent him a message last night & now I'm waiting for a respond.....I said i liked him a lot of the little time i had with him & somehow i can't get him outta my head. I wanna spend more time but i guess well see.... so YES i hate when i don't know if the other person likes me back haha
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    Jan 20, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    I agree with the post about not wanting someone fickle like that.

    Determine what you want, get over any fear of rejection, and be a grownup about discussing feelings...any guy worth your time will hopefully do the same.

    Games are for junior high.

    My two cents
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    Jan 20, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    oxanosine saidI agree with the post about not wanting someone fickle like that.

    Determine what you want, get over any fear of rejection, and be a grownup about discussing feelings...any guy worth your time will hopefully do the same.

    Games are for junior high.

    My two cents


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    Jan 20, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    Well are you like

    "I cant tell him I like him"

    or

    "He's so hot that I'm not even going to introduce myself. I'll just stay here and watch (stalk) the hell out of him!"

    Because saying hi and getting a smile is always one big step in the right direction.
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    Jan 20, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    har19 saidUse law of attraction in mind on the outcome.... it works!
    Oh bullshit. On so many levels.
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    Ultimately somebody has to make the first move, or it won't happen.
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    After being in the closet and being unable to confess my feelings for so painfully long, I now freely tell guys I'm horny for them, or I'm thinking about them, or that they make me giddy when they smile at me. Well I don't have any that smile at me, but anyway...

    It's a pleasure to be able to tell someone you have feelings for them! Some people in the world don't even have that luxury. Unless there is some practical danger in telling someone, go for it!


    I should say I have learned that complimenting someone too much can also be a problem. But one confident going-for-the-gold can't be a bad thing in any way I can imagine.

    I seriously don't see how people can waste time spinning their wheels with "should I tell him? Oh.. oh.. heavens to Betsy!".


    +1 to mickeytoppig but i'm too lazy to quote
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    been there done that...
    already told him.
    whats the worst that could happen...
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    Jan 20, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    I understand what all you gentlemen are trying to say, and yes it does make sense. But, you aren't in the situation, so sometimes it's easier to say something than to do it. Furthermore, I don't think someone is "fickle" for wanting a bit of a chase, I'm not saying that they won't like you once they start dating you, but I mean during the initial courting process it is common human nature to want to "win" someone's heart. Nobody wants to feel like, "the prize"--most great relationships in my opinion often find both partners equally feeling as though they are the "lucky" one who snagged that great man! This is why I believe compliments and/or attention, whether excessively or not can back fire.
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    Jan 20, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    If you know the Guy and you know he wont make the first move, ya tell him. I'm pretty shy so if I don't know for sure then ill just keep my distance. I know, its horrible but I can't help it. This thread was right up my ally and I'm taking everyone's advice into consideration icon_smile.gif
  • jonniejarko

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    Jan 23, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    There are ways to let him know you're interested without telling him you're interested. Just flirt and enjoy each other's company; it's all part of the fun.

    Moreover, you can't lose what you never had.
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    Jan 23, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    i just say it, because it's rare that i actually do have genuine feelings for someone. i don't play games. i'm very, very, very straightforward about that kind of things. if that ruins the chase...it wouldn't work out with me because...i don't play games. lol.
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    Jan 24, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    closer85 saidi just say it, because it's rare that i actually do have genuine feelings for someone. i don't play games. i'm very, very, very straightforward about that kind of things. if that ruins the chase...it wouldn't work out with me because...i don't play games. lol.


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76LD2cTQeSU



    "I likes ya, and I wants ya, now we can do this the easy way or the hard way!" lol
  • A_1991

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    Jan 24, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    You got nothing to lose! Just do it and get it over with. If he rejects you, you can laugh about it and move on to the next.
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    Jan 24, 2012 7:09 AM GMT

    just say this... icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Better yet, show him you like him. icon_twisted.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 25, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    The alternative is that you lie in bed at night wondering if he's in love with you and confused about your own feelings for him. Just tell him, and get a good sleep after he says he's into chics.
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    har19 saidUse law of attraction in mind on the outcome.... it works!



    I believe it does as well. I've seen it work.
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
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  • mybud

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    Jan 25, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Act like he doesn't exist...he'll be on ya like flies on shit...Serious