In an amazing relationship, but still have some urges to experiment

  • calistudent19

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    Jan 19, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    I'm having some issues of late in my relationship. I thought I'd make an account here and see what others have to say.

    Anyways, I am in an amazing monogamous relationship with my boyfriend. He lives about an hour away, but we still manage to see each other once a week. Sometimes that is hard, but we have been dating for around 8 months now and we love each other too much to not stay together and make the distance work.

    We have had small things come up, but we always communicate and talk about it and make it work. He makes me so happy and I honestly feel like I've found 'the one'.

    But to get to the point, there is still some sexual and purely physical things I've wanted to try (and have fantasied about) but never made it a reality. I have tried various things with him and we are very open sexually.

    There is one thing I want to try, however, that I am too scared to admit and is even difficult to write int he context of these forums.

    Please do not judge, but I have always wanted to be pissed on/drink piss from a hot stranger. I know this sounds crazy, but it get me so horny and is something I've always wanted to explore but Ive been to afraid to. Would it be cheating if I had this experience without telling my bf? No sex or touching just this?

    i really don't think I could gain the courage to admit this to my boyfriend.

    Any advice would be appreciated. Please, again, I'm asking for advice not for how gross this fantasy of mine is. icon_razz.gif

    Thank u
  • JonPk

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    Jan 20, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    calistudent19 saidI'm having some issues of late in my relationship. I thought I'd make an account here and see what others have to say.

    Anyways, I am in an amazing monogamous relationship with my boyfriend. He lives about an hour away, but we still manage to see each other once a week. Sometimes that is hard, but we have been dating for around 8 months now and we love each other too much to not stay together and make the distance work.

    We have had small things come up, but we always communicate and talk about it and make it work. He makes me so happy and I honestly feel like I've found 'the one'.

    But to get to the point, there is still some sexual and purely physical things I've wanted to try (and have fantasied about) but never made it a reality. I have tried various things with him and we are very open sexually.

    There is one thing I want to try, however, that I am too scared to admit and is even difficult to write int he context of these forums.

    Please do not judge, but I have always wanted to be pissed on/drink piss from a hot stranger. I know this sounds crazy, but it get me so horny and is something I've always wanted to explore but Ive been to afraid to. Would it be cheating if I had this experience without telling my bf? No sex or touching just this?

    i really don't think I could gain the courage to admit this to my boyfriend.

    Any advice would be appreciated. Please, again, I'm asking for advice not for how gross this fantasy of mine is. icon_razz.gif

    Thank u
    . What is it you want to try?
  • rnch

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    Jan 20, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    may i suggest that u and your man do these activites together? perhaps the two of ya'll could pick up a stranger to act out your fantasies with?

    He couldn't call it "cheating" if he is right there in the room with you.
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    Jan 20, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    Taking piss or getting pissed on is one of the most intimate things that one could engage in with another person. I don't see anything wrong with the act itself, but if you have a boyfriend with whom you have a monogamous relationship, you ought to do it with him and not with some stranger. And even if you didn't have a boyfriend, this is not something that you should do with a complete stranger. You can't hide this "kink" from your boyfriend--you must tell him because that's the only way to maintain an honest relationship. Many gay relationships fail--and miserably so--because the people involved aren't transparent with each other and so they end up sexually dissatisfied and, inevitably, they cheat.
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    Jan 20, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    I think you should exercise the 'great communication' you have with your boyfriend and convey this to him. See what he says.
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    Ew! Gross! But you should definitely talk to him about it. He sounds like an understanding guy! Personally, I find it gross, but if I was in love with a guy I would approach the situation with patience and probably consider it.
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    You definitely need to tell him your wants; he most probably has them as well. If this is something you really fantasize about, it is important to you. My guy has opened me up to such incredible experiences (in more ways than one) that I trust his judgement completely; being in a relationship with someone is based on a lot of COMMUNICATION. Ask him if he has any stuff he fantasizes about and see if you can help him out (wink) as well!
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:13 PM GMT

    "i really don't think I could gain the courage to admit this to my boyfriend."


    Yet oddly, you're posting it before 300,000 profiles.

    I'm with Xelorate on this one. I'd suggest you speak to your guy about kinks and fetishes etc in general to find out what he thinks of such things FIRST.

    I'm also a little curious about why your overpowering fantasy involves a stranger and not your BF.

    -Doug
  • patmos9990

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    Jan 20, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    Just drop to your knees in the shower and tell your bf to piss on you. If he doesn't seem into it, than at least you can pass it off as joking and then discuss it at a later time. If he is into it, tell him afterward that it was always a fantasy of yours but you were afraid of how he would perceive it.
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    Does it have to be a stranger? Maybe you could ask your boyfriend to do it for you :p, sure he'd go "WTF" but oh well. You could try to figure out what he thinks about "pee-sex" (is that how they call it O.O?) by putting it in a joke like context.

    But to be honest, in your fantasy it might look cool but in reality you might find it gross too. The porn industry is the blame >_> they pay those guys thousands of dollars, ofcourse they're gonna do that stuff and make it look like its hot =p. Dont do crazy stuff with strangers, you have a boyfriend, be happy! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    i think it is time i surrendered my gay card
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 20, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
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    Jan 20, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    patmos9990 saidJust drop to your knees in the shower and tell your bf to piss on you. If he doesn't seem into it, than at least you can pass it off as joking and then discuss it at a later time. If he is into it, tell him afterward that it was always a fantasy of yours but you were afraid of how he would perceive it.
    I disagree with this, don't pass it off as a joke. Lay it on the table and have a discussion about what it is that turns you both on. I'm guessing that you don't know what lies in the bowels of his fantasy world either, it might surprise you.

    Open communications, as stated by others, is the key to a great relationship. That doesn't mean you have to agree on everything or like what the other says, but you need to listen with respect, discuss it maturely and realize that each of you have things you like and things you find appalling. Opening up that discussion allows you to better get to know each other, keep from 'hiding' things, learn to talk and trust each other and probably most importantly, learn not to judge each other because of what they say or desire.

    More guys should try this, it's truly amazing!