What is "sexy"?

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    Jan 20, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    So, I know some incredibly sexy men who have average looks... and I know some extraordinarily handsome/hot men who have no charisma at all.

    So I have been thinking lately about sexiness... I think it is an attitude. I think it is true deep and abiding confidence based upon

    - knowing who you are
    - knowing what you want
    - being happy with who you are
    - a desire to live authentically and genuinely at all times


    I would really like to know if any of you have thoughts on this?
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    Jan 20, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Sexy is in the eye of the beholder.
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    Jan 20, 2012 1:23 AM GMT

    "- knowing who you are
    - knowing what you want
    - being happy with who you are
    - a desire to live authentically and genuinely at all times"

    It is really a rather subjective thing, I think.

    On a physical level alone, I'd say sexy is how you operate that body you're in, not the body itself. icon_wink.gif

    Now if you're talking about attractiveness, I'd go with some of your quote. Although a little unsureness is attractive as it connotes a delightful modesty.

    I agree with knowing what you want - very attractive.
    Happy with yourself? Hmmm..to a certain degree yes, but I love a man who feels there's always a need for some self improvement.
    The desire to live authentically and genuinely is a huge turn-on.


    -Doug
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
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  • calibro

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    Jan 20, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    whatever you do... don't ask jumpha lahiri
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    Jan 20, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    calibro saidwhatever you do... don't ask jumpha lahiri


    What is a "jumpha lahiri"?
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    Jan 20, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    calibro saidwhatever you do... don't ask jumpha lahiri


    What is a "jumpha lahiri"?


    she's an author who wrote a collection of short stories (winner of the pulitzer prize, undeservedly) about bengali immigrants with ph.d.s living in boston who are depressed. one is titled "sexy" and there's a famous quote in the story when a little boy calls this woman who is having an affair sexy and when she asks the boy what it means he tells her "sexy means loving someone you don't know."