Do I really want to have a boyfriend?

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    Jun 24, 2008 2:42 AM GMT
    Ok guys. I am gay, I know that, but I have never had a boyfriend. Yes I have been with guys, lots actually, but I have never had a steady boyfriend. I never really thought about it until lately due to the fact that I have met someone and I can't get him out of my mind. We haven't messed around in person yet, just over the phone and cam, but this guy won't get out of my mind. I tried fucking someone to see if that would work but it hasn't, yep still there. Plus this guy lives in a different part of the country than I do and is older and so on and so on. I haven't even laid in bed with him yet. What the fuck is going on? Is it because I haven't had him? I do lose interest mostly after I have had a guy once, in person or over the net, but this one is driving me insane. Could this be the guy that I want to be my first boyfriend or do I just want to fuck the shit out of him and move on? Plus, I'm not sure if I could commit to just one guy! Isn't that what guys want? Fuck! I don't have a clue what the hell is going on right now!

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    Jun 24, 2008 3:32 AM GMT
    Isnt that a gay stereotype or something?
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    Jun 24, 2008 4:37 AM GMT
    it's easy to obsess over a guy who you don't share time with in real life. he's exciting, a mystery. he is unlimited potential. you can imagine him to be the most perfect guy in the world. or at least perfect enough for you. and that is fun. at it brings us all lots of hope.

    but in the end, you'll never know how you really feel about him until you spend time with him. so for now, don't call him your boyfriend, be honest. he's you internet obsession, but also be happy that he has boyfriend potential. who knows. one day you two may get together and after you will call him your boyfriend.
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    Jun 24, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    It really is easier to get crazy over a guy that chances are you'll never meet.

    But if you do happen to meet, just a few words of caution.

    Don't plan on staying at his house. Let him know that you're visiting his city and get a hotel room. If you think you can't afford it, just understand that it is probably a lot less expensive than the cab fair back to the airport and the fee for changing your ticket if it doesn't work out.

    Next, understand that for now this is nothing more than fantasy. He isn't a guy you met at the coffee shop and had this great face to face, eye to eye conversation. It's a guy you met online. Who is either the man he says he is (5% of the time) or he has a partner or a wife or some other real life that he has not yet shared (95% of the time).

    He may be real and something may come of it, but just be cautious.
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:17 PM GMT
    polobutt saidIt really is easier to get crazy over a guy that chances are you'll never meet.

    But if you do happen to meet, just a few words of caution.

    Don't plan on staying at his house. Let him know that you're visiting his city and get a hotel room. If you think you can't afford it, just understand that it is probably a lot less expensive than the cab fair back to the airport and the fee for changing your ticket if it doesn't work out.

    Next, understand that for now this is nothing more than fantasy. He isn't a guy you met at the coffee shop and had this great face to face, eye to eye conversation. It's a guy you met online. Who is either the man he says he is (5% of the time) or he has a partner or a wife or some other real life that he has not yet shared (95% of the time).

    He may be real and something may come of it, but just be cautious.


    I especially like the advice about the hotel room...excellent.
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:28 PM GMT
    I know how it feels , here is a part of a conversation I hade with a guy on a date ..

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    him : "I'm sorry , but I have a boyfriend"
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    this is when I fell in love ..
    when you know that u can't get something you'll want it more than before .. simple
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    Jul 02, 2008 5:06 PM GMT
    GHoSTa saidI know how it feels , here is a part of a conversation I hade with a guy on a date ..

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    him : "I'm sorry , but I have a boyfriend"
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    this is when I fell in love ..
    when you know that u can't get something you'll want it more than before .. simple


    For some guys that is very true. For me, I am out of there so fast it would make your head spin!icon_mad.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    Rule of thumb.......no boyfriends over 50 miles from your house. No exceptions.
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    Jul 13, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    Since it sounds like the poster definitely has sown his wild oats, either he is not boyfriend material because he lacks commitment, or he needs to continue his prowl.