Not answering messages to profiles..

  • toybrian

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    Jun 24, 2008 2:47 AM GMT
    Guys..Why is it that I rarely get an answer from most guys on here when you write them about their profiles and pics and how good they look and their profiles are???? just was curious why many do not at least answer their mail in here???
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    Jun 24, 2008 2:55 AM GMT
    Prolly most guys dont answer, if they dont see any long term potential at any level. Why start something for no reason.

    I dont answer an email that is excedingly short (not implying yours were). If the guy didnt make much effort to communicate to me, then I dont take it seriously.

    But if someone puts forth effort to communicate with me, then I answer, even if I am not interested.
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    Jun 25, 2008 9:49 AM GMT
    I answer all e-mails, the only exceptions being those guys that start off saying they think I am really interesting then ask for a personal e-mail address. I did that once and it was a guy from Russia who on RJ said he was living in Florida. People who lie don't impress me.
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    Jun 25, 2008 1:01 PM GMT
    Ok I give up! LOL

    Some guys just don't answer. Even if it's waaaaaaay obvious it's not a come-on. Makes you really feel worthless.

    *sigh*

    *walks over to disillusion corner*

    I swear I won't email first again! Ever.
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    Jun 25, 2008 1:56 PM GMT
    toybrian saidGuys..Why is it that I rarely get an answer from most guys on here when you write them about their profiles and pics and how good they look and their profiles are???? just was curious why many do not at least answer their mail in here???


    I think the same courtesy people have in person should apply to online situations.

    If you said hello to someone on the street, or complimented them on something, the gentelman thing to do would be to simply say thanks you.

    I don't buy the excuse that "this is online" so don't expect courtesy....or..."people are busy"....You MAKE the time to simply say thanks.

    It's good energy....good karma....and it's polite.

    Remember.........INTEGRITY is a virtue that is non-situational.

    Still, as in real life, there are those guys who will not return the hello and quickly look away and ignore you. We have a word for people like that.

    Same thing online.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 25, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
    I almost always answer with a "Thanks, nice of you to say" or something like that. I had a gentleman compliment me on my pics and profile this morning. He included an "adult photo" as an attachment. Actually it wasn't adult at all, it was him laying there in a swimming suit. While he is definitely on the chubby side (and the photo wasn't very attractive), I responded like I do with anyone.

    He (or anyone) took the time to send a compliment. Thank them. To ignore them is just rude and would tell me they probably aren't worth talking to.

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  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jun 25, 2008 10:17 PM GMT
    Sedative saidOk I give up! LOL

    Some guys just don't answer. Even if it's waaaaaaay obvious it's not a come-on. Makes you really feel worthless.

    *sigh*

    *walks over to disillusion corner*

    I swear I won't email first again! Ever.



    I'm glad you emailed me first icon_smile.gif
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jun 26, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    KissingPro said[quote][cite]toybrian said[/cite]Guys..Why is it that I rarely get an answer from most guys on here when you write them about their profiles and pics and how good they look and their profiles are???? just was curious why many do not at least answer their mail in here???


    I think the same courtesy people have in person should apply to online situations.

    If you said hello to someone on the street, or complimented them on something, the gentelman thing to do would be to simply say thanks you.

    I don't buy the excuse that "this is online" so don't expect courtesy....or..."people are busy"....You MAKE the time to simply say thanks.

    It's good energy....good karma....and it's polite.

    Remember.........INTEGRITY is a virtue that is non-situational.

    Still, as in real life, there are those guys who will not return the hello and quickly look away and ignore you. We have a word for people like that.

    Same thing online.[/quote]


    I agree with you but would add as another RJer said, if the note is ONLY a sex come-on like "I want to ____ the ___ out of you " then they don't deserve an answer ... unless of course you LIKE that sort of thing with THAT person. icon_smile.gif

  • toybrian

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    Jul 04, 2008 10:39 AM GMT
    Hey Guys..thanks for some of the replys and I feel the same way...that if i give you and compliment on a good build or great profile that it is nothing to follow up with "thanks" at least....like i said I want to talk to some of these guys in here but you never get a reply so you never know what they are looking for...But I am that way in here that if I like a profile or ppic I have to say it...you worked hard to look good and trust me just like women want to hear it also a compliment on it.....thanks guys again..
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    Jul 04, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
    I always reply to compliments, and any email that shows at least a sliver of thought was applied.

    But I've stopped replying to the following class of messages:

    o Sender is thousands of miles away
    o Based on profile, sender is not likely to be a frequent flier.
    o Message text says something like:
    - "Hey"
    - "How's it going?"
    - "What's up?"

    It's odd, but about 2/3s of the messages I get now are of this type icon_sad.gif

    For the longest time, I held to the "common courtesy" rule and replied back, only to get another short, meaningless reply. I then moved to replying in kind, with short, meaningless replies. But I eventually realized that this is all a big waste of time and now I put these messages in the same class as "Hey? Wanna cam?" and delete them without any replies.