Gay Parenting

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    Jun 24, 2008 3:02 AM GMT
    I was wondering what people thought about gay parenting. Is it right? I am too young for it to even really effect me now but i wanted to see what others thought on that subject... I think one day i could make a good father.. but is it right to put a child though that?

    Any thoughts?
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    Jun 24, 2008 5:43 AM GMT
    I AM A GAY DAD!...of three boys....13, 16 and 23.....THE best and most rewarding thing I have ever done is being a dad...also the hardest and most demanding. Parenting is a full time job and especially demanding when they are infants, upto pre-schooler... not for the faint of heart, nor the push-over. Need to have a strong sense of self, right/wrong and a big heart with lots of love to spare even after you've had a hard day at work, have the flu, or realize that you just got peed and pooped on betwwen diaper changes or the car got a flat on the expressway at rush hour and you are late for work when you get a call from school telling yopu that your son was suspended for fighting and swearing....I'd do every bit of it again.icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 24, 2008 6:04 AM GMT
    ShyGUY88 said... I think one day i could make a good father.. but is it right to put a child though that?


    Think of it this way: is it right to put a child through homophobes? No, but somehow there's no laws outlawing homophobic parenting.

    The thought that gay parents are bad for children is a really outdated concept, sorta like records being played at 78rpm.
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    Jun 24, 2008 7:56 AM GMT
    I would loved to of been a parent, so I worked in childcare for a number of year.

    My fear would of been them going to school, and being bullied, for me being a fag. Then they grow to be a teenager, and have a big chip on their shoulder.

    I seen Once a child fear he would grow up to be gay, as one day he has a str8 dad, and a mum. next day dads was gone, and gay. I seen this in childcare.

    I'm not bagging any dads here either. But I now see people my age having to go home to deal with the issues of teens. I'm so happy I don't have this in my life.

    But I live in a big house, with spare room. it's a shame I am not able to bring in an unwanted child, and give them a loving home. But the law says know to this. I am not the one missing out.
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    Jun 25, 2008 1:19 AM GMT
    Are there are books on the subject? Perhaps an amalgam of stories written by gay parents?

    I'm definitely looking forward to having kids within the next 10 years (hopefully).
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    Jun 25, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    I definitely see kids in my future. I cant wait. I am going to have about 2-3 kids. I better get started on this soonicon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 25, 2009 7:37 PM GMT
    My partner and I are doing foster to adopt. The most important thing is that a child has a loving home. The American Pediatric Association put out a statement two years ago stating that gay and lesbian parents have just as positive outcomes as those raised by heterosexual parents. Further, on a couple of scales they do better.

    Kids are going to be teased no matter what. Might as well provide a loving home for kids who would otherwise be in foster care for the rest of their lives.
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    Jan 25, 2009 7:54 PM GMT
    My ex has 3 kids...so for 2 two years I had 3 kids. Even though they weren't actually mine I would not trade any of those experiences for anything.

    I don't see anything wrong with gay parenting, and fully support it. If you can be a great dad, it is not 'putting a child through anything'.

    And taken from the 10 reasons why gay marriage is un-American:
    #7. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:13 AM GMT
    zarin saidMy partner and I are doing foster to adopt. The most important thing is that a child has a loving home. The American Pediatric Association put out a statement two years ago stating that gay and lesbian parents have just as positive outcomes as those raised by heterosexual parents. Further, on a couple of scales they do better.

    Kids are going to be teased no matter what. Might as well provide a loving home for kids who would otherwise be in foster care for the rest of their lives.


    Sorry I am digging up an older post but I am super excited and need to post. We were just placed with a child that is actually open for adoption. We were planning to do foster to adopt but this may work out better. We get the baby boy tomorrow!! Wish us luck!
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    WHAT!? icon_eek.gif

    There are studies that prove the children raised by gay parents grow up to be social deviants. Let's not forget Mary Sue who killed her pet kitten by shoving firecrackers in it's vagina.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    A social deviant is someone who likes to streak Main Street. A pussy popper is a psychopath.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    Here's some good reading....

    http://www.bcadoption.com/site_page.asp?pageid=84
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:31 AM GMT
    I'm a 23yo gay parent and I must say I enjoy it. My daughter has my blood and my family features and is a pure out angel. Gay parenting isn't different from parenting. Just cause you add gay to the subject doesn't mean it's different without the gay. Being a parent is tough and requires so many sacrifices, but no matter what you know that little one will love you everyday and their little hearts will enjoy the love your heart gives. I'm gay and a parent but in reality I'm just a over protective father who loves his baby doll. We all will make great parents with the right strides to succeed as a parent.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:32 AM GMT



    and another....


    http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/07161/793042-51.stm
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:53 AM GMT
    Gay Parenting is cool and rewarding. I was a single gay parent and raised my son...he came out alright and very accepting of the differences in others. Parenting is no easy task but studies have shown the best you can do is love them and be consistent. I have friends who have adopted children...parenting classes helped.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:54 AM GMT
    those articles had a homosexual slant to further your gay agenda
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:00 AM GMT
    I honestly can't wait to have kids. I of course worry about the fact that having two fathers is a beacon for bullying, but if I can get called a fag for years and deal with that, I'm sure my kids will be able to deal with having two loving parents and getting made fun of it for a while.

    I hope it will get better but honestly, it might not.

    Regardless, I'd like at least 4 kids. Not sure whether I'll adopt or have kids with a friend.
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:01 AM GMT
    Here are a couple of good texts.
    Sons Talk About Their Gay Fathers. Andrew R. Gottlieb.
    Gay Fathers. Robert L. Barret. Bryan E. Robinson

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    Feb 17, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    Those texts are no good

    Propaganda

    Everyone knows children who have gay parents are unhappy
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:21 AM GMT
    Miasma saidThose texts are no good

    Propaganda

    Everyone knows children who have gay parents are unhappy


    Then provide counterfactual evidence, instead of appealing to the majority.
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:22 AM GMT
    The Bible
    done
  • tbeaux

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    Feb 17, 2009 4:22 AM GMT
    I can't wait to raise a son and a daughter one day. It would have been nice to calm them my "own", but there are plenty of kids that are in need of adoption. Like awhile ago there was this show about how there are so many kids without parents, that need a loving family, tore my heart apart because the stories these kid's told.

    It upsets me that the older peoples who run this country don't get the picture. BUT THE MTV GENERATION WILL PREVAIL.

    I thought today, we almost passed gay marriage in california, most of the people 18-35 90% was it? said they would go for gay marriage, soon these conservative old fundamentalists will be the minority.
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:33 AM GMT

    For Miasma,

    [url]http://www.felgt.org/_felgt/archivos/142_es_APsA-Lesbian%20and%20Gay%20Parenting.pdf[/url]

    hmmm this one won't 'link' here....

    American Psychological Association

    Canadian Psychological Association

    http://www.cpa.ca/cpasite/userfiles/Documents/advocacy/brief.pdf
  • SeaMichael

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    Feb 17, 2009 4:33 AM GMT
    I would say there's nothing wrong with gay parenting. Studies have shown that on the one hand, children of gays are slightly more likely to experiment sexually, they are loads more likely to be safe about it.

    Regardless, I see nothing wrong with my daughter. Granted, she's a scant six years, she's doing just fine. While I definitely worry a bit about kids who are anti-gay in her school, she happens to be in a pretty liberal school district, and there are plenty of other kids with gay parents in her school.

    In all reality, people either make good or shitty parents. I think that straights are more likely to be shitty parents, primarily because of the accident factor. Gays can't accidentally get pregnant, they have to choose. And I believe that that says a lot for how well they will care for their children.
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    hahaha I was just trying to get everyone's goat

    but

    I really am for gay parenting, I'm looking forward to having kids.