What is your reaction when someone you find unattractive emails you?

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    Jan 20, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    At one point in my life, I was the it guy. Never super buff, not particularly ripped, but whatever it was I had "it". Today, after being in a 10 year relationship and becoming a father - I've developed the typical "Happy Dad" body. I'm a pretty secure guy in most areas of my life, EXCEPT when it comes to my body. When I was younger I'd just ignore the people I thought were unattractive and today I feel like I may have blown off some pretty nice people out of vanity.

    This all got me to thinking. Most of you with great bodies on this site, how do you react (both internally and externally) when a guy you think is unattractive emails you?

    Do you roll your eyes? Are you flattered? Do you ignore them? Do you engage them on their potential other merits?

    I'm not being critical, I'm just curious about how people act in certain situations.

    Jeff
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    Jan 20, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    Curiously, and I've gleaned this much from a few years on this site, it actually ends up being irrelevant whether you find the guy emailing you attractive or not. Email-based interactions are pretty short lived. I've had smoking hot guys email me and maybe we'll exchange 2-3 emails and that's it.
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    Jan 20, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    I try to reply to it in a good manner and then move on.
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    Jan 20, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidUh... I don't think anyone is attractive enough to completely blow someone off or ignore a message from someone else.


    You're absolutely right!
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    Jan 20, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    ExArmy said
    Trollileo saidUh... I don't think anyone is attractive enough to completely blow someone off or ignore a message from someone else.


    You're absolutely right!


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    Jan 20, 2012 10:12 PM GMT
    It depends. Respect gets respect.

    If someone I'm not into messages me courteously, I always return the favor, whether it's flirting or regular convo. If I just get "hey sup" or any other variaton of "sup" admittedly I just don't bother.

    Even if I was a 15 out of 10 I'd feel iffy about being a dick solely off of appearance.
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    Jan 20, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    I care more about the substance of the message than what they look like ... or whether I am concerned that they have already printed out a wall-sized photo and they are currently kissing it as they plan how to murder me and wear my skin. That has happened twice on this site. But it happens more on adam4adam and grindr.

    I never respond to the shallow and vapid "cute" messages. If one word is all you have to say then I am not going to waste my time responding with a "Thanks"

    I delete the dirty/inappropriate messages too.

    If I pull up their profile for more info and I see something offensive/disgusting then I am not going to bother responding.

    If it is a photoless profile I won't respond. Just because that's unfair since I have a face photo.

    But their looks? No, that doesn't factor into whether or not I will respond.
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    I'm just here to kill time, exchange thoughts, banter, etc. So "attractiveness" isn't a prerequisite. As long as a guy has something interesting to say and can carry on a conversation, I'm cool with receiving messages from anyone. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    I delete my profile and never come back to the website... uggghhh, disgusting... really?
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    I usually don't get unattractive people. I get blank profiles. However if a person is un attractive still take to time to respond to someone's email.
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    Well exarmy it looks like karma is biting you on the ass. It happens though just as I'm sure it will to the super hot guys on here who ignore emails from guys they deem unattractive.

    I usually reply to all emails even if just to say thanks or I'm not interested. I think it's better than no reply but maybe not. I know when I craft, what I consider to be, a well-written message to a hot guy on here and just get a "thanks" it's just as bad as no reply. Eh well though, that's life.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    the internet is for porn, why you think the net was born?

    PORN PORN PORN!
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    Ignore.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidUh... I don't think anyone is attractive enough to completely blow someone off or ignore a message from someone else.
    If somebody you didn't find attractive walked up to you in the street and was like "hey ur sexy" would you reply to them? I would ignore them, especially if they were the type of guys who message me on bear sites.
  • DesireIron

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    Jan 21, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    What is your reaction when someone you find unattractive emails you?

    "As if!"
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    I see it this way:
    If you're going to treat me like a piece of meat ("hey ur sexy", "ur hot", etc.), I'll treat you like a piece of meat right back, and I'm not interested in tofurky.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    Reply to ALL the messages icon_eek.gif
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 21, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Well ill acknowledge them, but I don't see the point in holding a conversation with a guy if I don't see a future with them what do ever.
    But when it comes to his body I'm really not judgmental, some people can't help the way they look.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    If he emails me and tries for anything other than chatting, I reply, "Thanks, but I'm not interested."

    Simple.
    To the point.
    No hard feelings.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Trollileo saidUh... I don't think anyone is attractive enough to completely blow someone off or ignore a message from someone else.
    If somebody you didn't find attractive walked up to you in the street and was like "hey ur sexy" would you reply to them? I would ignore them, especially if they were the type of guys who message me on bear sites.


    hey those guys are hot, some of em. btw i can't delete that shit so i m just never logging in again
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    i rather they be a jerk to me from the beginning. I hate it when they come on as sweet and genuine then the next day, they would careless to text you
  • iceman82

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    Jan 21, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    I do the same thing I do with any message I receive: look at what they wrote, look at their profile, reply appropriately. The only times I ignore people are if they are rude, or if there's something significantly off-putting about their profile or pictures, like a picture of the person eating a dead baby or something.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    Depends on *why* I've been contacted. If they're smart enough to have actually read my profile, and get that I'm dating and therefore not looking, then I pretty much always respond. At the very least I acknowledge compliments, and engage in further exchanges about anything they had to say if actually interesting.

    As with Ariodante, this tends not to go on for very long, perhaps 2-3 back and forths.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    As long as they don't start with a sexual suggestion I respond to all messages.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    I would prefer someone respond with a "not interested" rather than outright ignore me.

    When someone I find unattractive messages me, I message back. If it's one of those chatroom requests without any prior messages though... I tend to ignore. :S