Several weeks prior to the Tyler Clementi suicide making the news, I was involved with a bullying incident on RJ. A few other guys were with me, but the others did not consider it a bullying incident. They decided the guy involved was a fake and considered their role to be giving the fake his due. With that incident in mind, I wrote a short fictional story at the time placing Tyler on RJ prior to him committing suicide by jumping off the George Washington Bridge. During the past year, having seen the reaction to some seeking help, I decided to write the following. Tyler's involvement with Real Jock is completely fictional as far as I know.
After Tyler found the video had gone out on the internet, he felt humiliated. He was not out, lacked self-confidence, had few friends, and no one he could confide in or get advice from. He had lurked a bit on RJ but the thought of creating a profile was completely intimidating, especially after seeing the profiles of handsome guys in fantastic shape. Anyway, he felt desperate, had nowhere to turn, so he gathered up as much courage as he could muster and created an account and an extremely basic profile. He created a thread and mentioned what had happened to him, but the message was not completely coherent. He didn't ask for specific advice, but mostly seemed to be asking for some kind of support. He never mentioned suicide, probably because he had not considered it at the time.
The responses to his thread came quickly. His message was considered whiny and needy. Generally the responses fell into two categories. Some said he was obviously a fake, having just joined today, no pics, an empty profile, and a post count all of 1. Some of the guys could not bear the thought of helping someone if it turned out to be a joke. The other responses told him to man up and kick his roommate's ass. A few other replies ridiculed him for not being out, and suggested he deserved the humiliation he felt. One guy even suggested he kill himself, as suggestion he previously actually made to another new RJ guy who promptly left the site. (That was not fiction, by the way.)
Tyler did not come back to the thread. He felt devastated. That further indicated to the others that he was either a fake or a wus, and the comments continued accordingly until the guys got tired of it and moved on to something else. The thread dropped out of sight.
About a week later, a thread was posted about this Rutgers student who jumped of the George Washington Bridge. The guys on RJ knew he was the one because his thread had mentioned the incident. Af first, no one wanted to say anything. They definitely did not want to resurrect the thread, so eventually one of them started a new thread to discuss the situation.
They said they were sorry, but emphasized he killed himself. They did not push him off the bridge. All agreed.
They said he never mentioned he might kill himself. Otherwise they might have taken him more seriously. All agreed.
They said a new, empty profile was grounds to be skeptical, but they realized that even if he had not been so new, if he were not considered cool, he would have received the same treatment.
They said the internet is not real, and that he should have sought professional help. Guys on the internet can't be responsible. All agreed.
But some felt remorse. Maybe if only one or a few had befriended him, either in the thread or via messages, they might have been able to establish enough of a rapport to encourage him to get professional help. But stepping away from the conformity of the group would have been too big a leap to make.