How do you respond to homophobia?

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    I'm assuming that this has been blogged about before, but I thought I would post my own anyway.

    I occasionally hear homophobic remarks around my campus, something that is generally frowned upon, and often do not know what to do. Most recently I was in a dorm with some friends watching two guys play pool when one of the guys says to the other, "Stop laughing dude; you sound like a homo." When I heard that I said nothing but was definitely boiling on the inside. Moments like that frustrate me because they are tricky situations. Do you say something? Do you not say something? Do you turn it into a joke (ie: I didn't know I laughed like that?!?!)? Do you keep it completely serious? Do you risk killing the mood? In that particular moment, I felt as though I would be killing to mood in addition to possibly putting myself in danger from making such public declaration as a homosexual.

    What are your experiences and advice for how to deal with homophobia in different situations?
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    I flirt with them openly, they are obviously closeted bottoms
  • mizu5

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Depends, if I'm wlaking by in a hurry I don't say anything. If it's harassment, watch yo'self. I will destroy a bitch icon_mad.gif Homophobia makes big daddy mizu mad.
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    how do i respond to homophobia... usually with amusement and pity...
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    WITH A FUCKING GUN

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    I mock the ever livin shit out of them!
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    mizu5 saidDepends, if I'm wlaking by in a hurry I don't say anything. If it's harassment, watch yo'self. I will destroy a bitch icon_mad.gif Homophobia makes big daddy mizu mad.


    You're badass! Would you shoot 'em down


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  • socalisurfer

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    I try not to let it bother me especially in a case like the one you described. You have to put yourself above idiots like those. Wait till they get out of college and experience the real world, whole different world than the collegiate one. In the end do you really care what two idiots think or say. Remember what Twain said "Don't get into an argument with a idiot, they bring you down to their level and beat you with experience"

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    minnesota89 saidI'm assuming that this has been blogged about before, but I thought I would post my own anyway.

    I occasionally hear homophobic remarks around my campus, something that is generally frowned upon, and often do not know what to do. Most recently I was in a dorm with some friends watching two guys play pool when one of the guys says to the other, "Stop laughing dude; you sound like a homo." When I heard that I said nothing but was definitely boiling on the inside. Moments like that frustrate me because they are tricky situations. Do you say something? Do you not say something? Do you turn it into a joke (ie: I didn't know I laughed like that?!?!)? Do you keep it completely serious? Do you risk killing the mood? In that particular moment, I felt as though I would be killing to mood in addition to possibly putting myself in danger from making such public declaration as a homosexual.

    What are your experiences and advice for how to deal with homophobia in different situations?


    How about mind your own business? The comment wasn;t directed at you.

    Now if they said something derogatory to you, my recommendation would be to respond


    WITH A FUCKING GUN

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    Jan 21, 2012 3:17 AM GMT
    JackNWNJ said
    minnesota89 saidI'm assuming that this has been blogged about before, but I thought I would post my own anyway.

    I occasionally hear homophobic remarks around my campus, something that is generally frowned upon, and often do not know what to do. Most recently I was in a dorm with some friends watching two guys play pool when one of the guys says to the other, "Stop laughing dude; you sound like a homo." When I heard that I said nothing but was definitely boiling on the inside. Moments like that frustrate me because they are tricky situations. Do you say something? Do you not say something? Do you turn it into a joke (ie: I didn't know I laughed like that?!?!)? Do you keep it completely serious? Do you risk killing the mood? In that particular moment, I felt as though I would be killing to mood in addition to possibly putting myself in danger from making such public declaration as a homosexual.

    What are your experiences and advice for how to deal with homophobia in different situations?


    How about mind your own business? The comment wasn;t directed at you.

    How about minding YOURS! icon_wink.gif And this WAS directed specifically at you!
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    How do you respond to homophobia?

    Not sure if my story is sufficiently relevant to your question, but here goes:

    I had finished my Christmas shopping ahead of my partner, and I was chilling in a mall bar waiting for him. A guy next to me struck up a conversation, saying he was waiting for his wife to join him. We talked about our military service, and swapped "war stories."

    We were watching several overhead TVs, most being sports and one that had a news channel. A story came up about something involving gays. Suddenly this guy got all agitated & homophobic, cussing out gays like we were the Devil himself.

    I kept my cool, deciding to let the guy rant. His wife eventually did join him, and we all continued pleasant but innocuous chat, the gay rant over. Next my partner showed up, whom I introduced as my friend.

    Soon afterwards my partner & I were leaving, him first. But as I paid the tab and left the bar, I said loud enough for everyone there to hear, after we had said some pleasant good-byes (nice to have met you, and so forth):

    "By the way, just wanted you to know you've been talking with two gay guys, who sleep in the same bed together. Have a Merry Christmas! Bye!"

    I caught up with my partner outside, told him what I had said, and we laughed all the way to our car. I've confronted other homophobes on occasion, but for some reason that one made me especially pleased. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    Mindfucking. I use logic, reasoning and whatever obvious weaknesses they may have as a way to get them to either shut the fuck up, say sorry or second guess their own motives(this one usually takes a while to set in).
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    It all depends on what the situation is.
    Personally I find an eye for an eye thing to always work.
    Its easy to mess with a homophobic people, all they can say is "Your gay" and this? This is suppose to be bad? That's a fucking compliment icon_biggrin.gif I'm happy and I like men? OH RLY!! Are you pointing it out because my dick is so much bigger than yours that it converted you or do you have that much of a need to dirty talk before a good fucking? .... I'm babbling, I'll stop.
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    Jan 21, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    I suppose it depends on what you're trying to do.

    If your goal is to change somebody's perspective, you could use humor or lightly put them on the spot to prove your point. "what does a gay laugh sound like?" "I'm gay. do I laugh like that?" or something like that usually works for me.

    The other option, if you would rather just bitch about homophobia but actually do nothing to teach people why they are wrong, is "your dad didnt laugh like that when i fucked him last night."

    good luck.
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidPolitely tell them to fuck off....


    Nawh, I'm just kidding...I don't do it politely. I do it loud and nastily.



    Why? They weren't talking to him.
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    Jan 21, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    meh, depends, if it wasnt too intense and wasnt directed at you and they didnt know ur gay, then not too big of a deal, ever accidentally say something along the lines of "thats so retarded" only to find out the person you said it to had a retarded family member? OOPS! you didnt mean their family any harm, was just a slip, has happened to me before, open mouth insert foot. most ppl who say stuff like that dont even know anyone thats gay, it only has power if you let it. its kind of fun to see the look on one of my friends faces when another friend starts gaybashing in front of us LMAO the guy that knows has no idea what to do, i have fun with that. if it got too bad id prolly crack some joke about him bein too little to satisfy a guy or a girl
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 21, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Ignore them, or just just leave. I hate confrontation especially with the ignorant.
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    Jan 21, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    I do this:

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  • disasterpiece

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    Jan 21, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    knowwonder saidMindfucking. I use logic, reasoning and whatever obvious weaknesses they may have as a way to get them to either shut the fuck up, say sorry or second guess their own motives(this one usually takes a while to set in).


    This.

    I was once arguing with a fucking homophobic scumbag and he told me, in french, "j't'encule", which is a french insult that basically means "I'm fucking you in the ass". I started owning him right there, and then I destroyed every damn single inch of is credibility.

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    knowwonder saidMindfucking. I use logic, reasoning and whatever obvious weaknesses they may have as a way to get them to either shut the fuck up, say sorry or second guess their own motives(this one usually takes a while to set in).


    This.

    I was once arguing with a fucking homophobic scumbag and he told me, in french, "j't'encule", which is a french insult that basically means "I'm fucking you in the ass". I started owning him right there, and then I destroyed every damn single inch of is credibility.



    And then what happened?
  • araphael

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    Jan 21, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    I respond to it like I do racist stuff from people, it's beneath me. That's pretty much it.
  • disasterpiece

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    Jan 21, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
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    Disasterpiece said
    knowwonder saidMindfucking. I use logic, reasoning and whatever obvious weaknesses they may have as a way to get them to either shut the fuck up, say sorry or second guess their own motives(this one usually takes a while to set in).


    This.

    I was once arguing with a fucking homophobic scumbag and he told me, in french, "j't'encule", which is a french insult that basically means "I'm fucking you in the ass". I started owning him right there, and then I destroyed every damn single inch of is credibility.



    And then what happened?


    It was a "conversation" on Facebook, on the wall of a friend we had in common. This friend deleted everything since shit was getting realz. But it was fun to see all the girls liking my posts as the homophobic dumbfucks (*they were two douchebags, actually), were trying to make me feel bad about my sexuality.
  • mstevens

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    Jan 21, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
    I usually raise my voice just a little to be noticed, stand up straight and get a little closer to them to make them feel a little intimidated (I'm 6'7), and ask them if there is anything wrong with being gay. Most people retract their public homophobia when they are staring me in the eyes.
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    Jan 21, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    Disasterpiece said
    JackNWNJ said
    Disasterpiece said
    knowwonder saidMindfucking. I use logic, reasoning and whatever obvious weaknesses they may have as a way to get them to either shut the fuck up, say sorry or second guess their own motives(this one usually takes a while to set in).


    This.

    I was once arguing with a fucking homophobic scumbag and he told me, in french, "j't'encule", which is a french insult that basically means "I'm fucking you in the ass". I started owning him right there, and then I destroyed every damn single inch of is credibility.



    And then what happened?


    It was a "conversation" on Facebook, on the wall of a friend we had in common. This friend deleted everything since shit was getting realz. But it was fun to see all the girls liking my posts as the homophobic dumbfucks (*they were two douchebags, actually), were trying to make me feel bad about my sexuality.


    Oh. FaceBook. Got it.
  • studflyboy87

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    Jan 21, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    I'm usually really good about calling my friends out when they make disrespectful comments. I don't go around telling my friends every time they make a gay reference, but if they see someone and say something derogatory, then I usually call them out and ask them not to be disrespectful towards gays.