EastCoastNAZ saidWow, I feel like I'm completely missing the boat here.
In the first paragraph of his write-up he asks, " What I can’t understand is why people don’t understand the ‘Homo thug’ is just a regular thug who just happens to like men? Why complicate things as if liking men means you can’t also carry around a “hood mentality”.
In the last paragraph, he states, "The problem comes when the regular man is expected to act as if he is a thug just to get a chance." Then he continues to plead not to be a fetish.
Am I the only one who sees the contradiction here?
I don't see it...
I mean he's basically saying if you're homo and a 'thug' you can still be that. But you don't have to go from being a flaming sissy to thug (butch) just so people who want that kind of guy likes you.
A lot of gay Black guys are sorely mistaken to think that you have to 'push' thug persona especially online. But truth be told, you get further down the road and meet way better quality people in the gay lifestyle when you drop that shit.
You can still be very much be a Black top without being a thug. They are not mutual exclusive.
The blog post said
then you meet a guy and instead of a backwards cap and baggy jeans, your clothes actually fit and say Express; they are completely disinterested because of the image they were expecting. That’s when the fantasy has destructive powers, and it’s a syndrome I know all too well.
yeah, it's like those bottom queens in the hood, or even some preppy guy who wants to experiment...they expect you to be this ultra-dominant top, and if you're not, "I'm utterly turned off".