Would you date a guy who smokes?

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    Jan 22, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Was at a picnic this afternoon with 11 other guys. We starting talking about dating smokers. About half of the guys smoke weed with some regularity. While the general consensus was that smoking is a huge strike and can be a dealbreaker, some of the guys who don't smoke weed said that if the guy were hot enough and the smoking was occasional, they would still consider dating the smoker....but here's where I was puzzled. Two of the weed smokers were adamant that they would never date a smoker. HUH?icon_question.gificon_question.gif
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    Jan 22, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    I would never date nor have any feelings towards someone who smokes. I don't deal with ash trays. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 22, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    For most I think smoking marijuana "with some regularity" is probably still occasionally when compared to a nicotine smoker. A nicotine smoker is usually smoking everyday, all day and it effects their scent, their breath, their teeth, their health all the time.
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    Jan 22, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    No Smokers.....TOTAL deal breaker for me. It is a personal choice and not one I am willing to compromise on....even pot....pipes, cigars...etc....NO.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 22, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    There is a difference between smoking cigarettes and smoking weed. One is blatantly bad for your health, the other is far less harmful than consuming alcohol (if it's even harmful at all) and has been wrongly demonized by our government.
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    Jan 22, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    I'd have more of a problem dating someone who smoked cigarettes than just weed. As long as they weren't potheads.
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    Jan 22, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    "Smoking hot" only. No smoking.
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    Jan 22, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    NOPE.

    Weed is tolerable, but cigarettes are an instant no. I hack up a lung when I breathe in cigarette smoke but smoke from marijuana doesn't affect me.
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    Jan 22, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    wolfpackbuddy saidThere is a difference between smoking cigarettes and smoking weed. One is blatantly bad for your health, the other is far less harmful than consuming alcohol (if it's even harmful at all) and has been wrongly demonized by our government.


    + 10,000
    But moderation in all things is best.
    Well over half the people in my neighborhood, adult homeowners aged from their 20's to their 60's, indulge in the wacky terbacky on occasion. Only one guy has crazy hair. He qualified for a mortgage at 23 and is now working toward a Masters degree after getting laid off from his engineering job. The rest of us are all professionals who take care of our properties and look out for each other. Stoner stereotypes don't apply.
    Again, though, the key words are "moderation" and "on occasion."
    In my book, somebody who doesn't enjoy weed once in a while has a strike against them. Where cigs are concerned, I keep an open mind. After all, I'm a butt fiend not only for the muscles at the base of the spine and the warm hole they surround. icon_wink.gif
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 22, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Well yeah, I think it's pretty stupid to not date someone because they smoke.
    Who cares he can do whatever he wants as long as its not hurting anybody.
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    Jan 22, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Anemoneg saidWell yeah, I think it's pretty stupid to not date someone because they smoke.
    Who cares he can do whatever he wants as long as its not hurting anybody.
    Ever heard of second hand smoke?
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    Case by case basis.
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:26 AM GMT
    Nope, dealbreaker.
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Nope.
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    my current roommate (may he fall off a building and burn in hell the bastard) smokes like a chimney, having a cigarette at least once an hour. He has little care for how it affects others, including the fact that at age 27 he already has full respiratory distress attributed to smoking and doesn't care that he probably won't be around to see his yet-unborn child walk across the stage and get his/her diploma (he spoke those very words after i brought it to his attention).

    I realize that David here is a rather extreme case of what the smoking habit/addiction can do to a person (yes, i know that pure marijuana is not chemically addictive, shut up) but it serves to demonstrate how such a habit can dominate one's life. He has repeatedly accused me of not cleaning my room often enough as it "reeks of musk and BO" (while i realize that this could be construed as "attractive" by some here, we shall forgo that notion in the interests of expediency) while his own room is a "breath of fresh air". He is nose-deaf, a condition that people who are around a certain smell constantly suffer from where their notion of "normal" air's scent becomes that of the smell. My room, while not reeking of lilacs or rosemary or fluffy scented snuggly bunnies, has very little odor (as neither do I).
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    I didn't used to care.. but then I was forced into visits with an old lady hardcore addicted to smoking. Fucking hate the smell and when I go home i'm riddled with it.
    I knew 2 other smokers there too, all three of them were very bad with their money. All three of them had no willpower in anything. All three of them had activities they couldn't do because of their addiction being more important.

    I lost a lot of respect for smokers in general after that. It's stupid to start (red flag), pathetic to see someone blow their money on a never-ending mood swing, and be controlled by something.

    I don't even think I could be attracted to a smoker now, because I just see a pathetic person when they whip out a cig.

    I hate the smell of weed too, but can be friends with pot smokers the same as I can with drinkers. I'd just ask them to not do it around me.

    Marijuana is addictive. I've seen it first hand.
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    Jan 22, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
    I hate the smell of weed too, but can be friends with pot smokers the same as I can with drinkers. I'd just ask them to not do it around me.

    Marijuana is addictive. I've seen it first hand.


    I hate the smell of weed too (it can drive me from a room). What I mean is that chemically speaking, there is nothing tangible withing the smoke that causes the user to become dependent on it. Marijuana "addiction" nearly always involves extenuating circumstances such as life problems, social disorders and the like. I know many people who smoke weed (i work in the film industry, heh) but all of them can stop at the drop of a hat should they decide to.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    I have 2 friends who are longtime potheads. They tried to quit twice and it was a terrible battle each time. They really tried, using strategies to keep their mind otherwise occupied, but ended up relapsing both times.

    Also, Dr. Drew said MJ is very difficult to overcome.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidI have 2 friends who are longtime potheads. They tried to quit twice and it was a terrible battle each time. They really tried, using strategies to keep their mind otherwise occupied, but ended up relapsing both times.

    Also, Dr. Drew said MJ is very difficult to overcome.


    I may be working on inaccurate information, but were they using pure? Here in the states there's alot of trouble apparently with suppliers adding things to their product. Hence the old joke of the Jamaican warning about California weed. Maybe its a matter of how often they used rather. Most of my friends only use occasionally (all have regular(ish) jobs or are in the higher education system)
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    Too many gay guys smoke, it's a pity. I can't stand the smell, and it follows the smoker everywhere. It's almost certainly a dealbreaker.

    Pot also stinks but the smell doesn't seem to cling as much, and so far there aren't any long-term adverse health effects known from occasional use.
  • tyler_helm

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    Jan 22, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    No on Smoking Tobacco. Hate the Smell

    No on Pot. I have too much to lose. I don't like being around people who aren't being themselves.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    SkinnyBitch saidI have 2 friends who are longtime potheads. They tried to quit twice and it was a terrible battle each time. They really tried, using strategies to keep their mind otherwise occupied, but ended up relapsing both times.

    Also, Dr. Drew said MJ is very difficult to overcome.


    I may be working on inaccurate information, but were they using pure? Here in the states there's alot of trouble apparently with suppliers adding things to their product. Hence the old joke of the Jamaican warning about California weed. Maybe its a matter of how often they used rather. Most of my friends only use occasionally (all have regular(ish) jobs or are in the higher education system)


    They smoked daily, sometimes more than once. As for purity.. they smoked whatever most people smoke.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
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  • Diceroll

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    Jan 22, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    I dated a smoker for four years (he smoked cigarettes and weed) and I didn't really have a major problem with it. I wouldve preferred if he didn't smoke but he made up for it in other ways icon_biggrin.gif

    I wouldn't rule out dating another smoker but i would make it clear that there would be no smoking at my place. None of that 'i'll smoke out the window' shit either - he needs to go outside even if it's freezing cold or pouring with rain.
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    Jan 22, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    I am dating someone that smokes cigarettes on occasion, but says that he has a weird reaction to pot. Go figure... I've never tried marijuana, though I had plenty of chances. I always thought of it as, 'yeah like I need an appetite stimulant'. Another time, it coinicided with a summer-time job for the city...they test initially and randomly, so I pussy'd out. icon_rolleyes.gif Since highschool I've not been around many marijuana smokers, but plenty of cigarette smokers, of varying degrees.

    So I guess I am willing to overlook a few cigarettes a week for someone as awesome as he is. But if we were talking packs a week, it'd be a different story.

    Ideally he wouldn't smoke at all. I know better than to try to change someone's behavior though. They have to want it.