Hello, I need your HELP! Thanks!

  • ClarkeBeebee

    Posts: 36

    Jan 22, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    Well, where to start.....? Here we r...PLS, I don't know American very much n I hope you guys maybe can help me.

    He is a gay who study abroad n from USA, but I am a local citizen but living out of urban area. I found him in a gay app n we met twice. There were nice and he is really gentle.

    One day, we were texting about next date...he texted "Don't worry, we will find time." n I replied "But it's so suffering..we even cannot meet on New Year Eve n Day..after that a whole new week."

    That day I called him when he off duty...but he didn't answer it..and the next day, I called and he still answer it...I were worried, so I sent him a long text and some messages...(He told me he will go to some palce with his boss for a few days) When he was back..he replied me that he forget to take his battery charger n his phone had no power for the whole weekend.

    After this...He missed all my messages n texts, calls (I hadn't called him very much)...

    I try to ask him WHY...but he hadn't replied...and I am still confused...and I don't know what should I do....???

    Who can help me....????icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 22, 2012 3:25 PM GMT

    I think there is nothing you can do. Leave him alone now. If he really likes you he will contact you. If he does not contact you he is not worth your feelings.
    I know it hurts, but be strong and protect your heart.

    -Doug
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    Jan 23, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    I think there is nothing you can do. Leave him alone now. If he really likes you he will contact you. If he does not contact you he is not worth your feelings.
    I know it hurts, but be strong and protect your heart.

    -Doug


    Wow, that is some great advice.
  • araphael

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    Jan 23, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    Well, my first piece of advice is that you shouldn't refer to him as "He is a gay." That's just funny to me, it sounds like my mother when she talks about a gay guy she has just met, she'll say to me "Oh I just met the most interesting gay today." He's just "a gay" not a verb but a noun, lol. But seriously, your guy may have some other things going on in his life. I wouldn't take it too personally. If you are meant to be together, you will be, okay.
  • ClarkeBeebee

    Posts: 36

    Jan 24, 2012 7:45 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    I think there is nothing you can do. Leave him alone now. If he really likes you he will contact you. If he does not contact you he is not worth your feelings.
    I know it hurts, but be strong and protect your heart.

    -Doug


    Thank you for your advise...Doug....

    you know, i always think it's my fault when people do not want to contact with me....IDK why...but I am so terrified of losing someone who I care about...cuz I'd been there twice when I was young...

    for now...I just want to be a friend with him...It's not easy to find someone who I can talk about my feelings...but I just do not what should I say...I am so not good at dealing with this kind of situation....

    maybe I should send him "we cool?"
    or some touching messages like "hey, listen, if i ruin ur mood cuz of this, i'm sorry...i just want to say that i don't want to lose someone i care about any more, i'd been there when i was young...and...and i hope we are still friends....?
  • ClarkeBeebee

    Posts: 36

    Jan 24, 2012 7:45 AM GMT
    huhwhat said
    meninlove said
    I think there is nothing you can do. Leave him alone now. If he really likes you he will contact you. If he does not contact you he is not worth your feelings.
    I know it hurts, but be strong and protect your heart.

    -Doug


    Wow, that is some great advice.
  • ClarkeBeebee

    Posts: 36

    Jan 24, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    araphael saidWell, my first piece of advice is that you shouldn't refer to him as "He is a gay." That's just funny to me, it sounds like my mother when she talks about a gay guy she has just met, she'll say to me "Oh I just met the most interesting gay today." He's just "a gay" not a verb but a noun, lol. But seriously, your guy may have some other things going on in his life. I wouldn't take it too personally. If you are meant to be together, you will be, okay.


    I am sorry about the "He is a gay" thing...lol...and thank you for your advise...!!
  • ClarkeBeebee

    Posts: 36

    Jan 31, 2012 12:48 PM GMT
    Anyone???
  • Martsx

    Posts: 1

    Jan 31, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    I know it might be hard to realize, understand and accept, but have you considered that he might not be as into you as your into him, or that he's not into you at all and he was just being nice to you cause he is a nice person...
    I don't know but I think I passed thugh a situation like yoursand it was really hard for me, I tried not to, but I couldn't help myself from visiting his facebook page, hoping that someday he would come to chat with me, that he would call me or just text me in the middle of the night, the thing is I kept trying even thou I knew was just deceiving myself but I couldn't do anything about it...
    One day I just decided that I would stop expecting him to answer me... I gave up... I was done with this thing...

    I met with him a nightclub another and I still think he is a nice person, but it won't happen with me...

    So I think you should just move on and try not to look back, you'll find someone that loves you the same way you do, maybe when not expecting, give time to time, you will pass through it...

    I'm sorry, I know is not what you wanted to hear but it can be a thing that you needed to hear... =/