he's dead... he's been dead

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    Jan 22, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Right now i'm in a really bad way, i have an ex that i really loved but we went our ways cause when i was younger (19-21) i had a bad temper and i never wanted to hit him again. but he's the only ex I've ever had that would get back with. i loved him like i will probably never love anyone else. he's the first and ONLY guy my mother ever knew as my boyfriend and LIKED. he's the only guy my sister ever saw me kiss and i didn't care.

    now he's in another country and I've been texting him occasionally and getting reply's. so today for the FIRST in a LONG time i went on his FB page and i'm seeing all these RIP and miss you messages. i'm a mess right now... crying intermittently and throwing up. i just got over the fact that my grandfatehr died and all my grandmother can talk about is "going", NOW THIS!!!

    what's really pissing me off is he never told me he was in the hospital i texted him on our anniversary (like i do every year) July 12, and he said "I love you and miss you too baby bear" the text is still in my phone! he was in the hospital and supposedly died on the 19th. but when i sent him his birthday text i got a Thank you baby bear reply, who replied to me on christmas!!! who replied to me on New years. who's going to text me on my birthday tomorrow?!?
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    Jan 22, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    The_Dollarwine saidwho's going to text me on my birthday tomorrow?!?


    I'll text you Happy Birthday. If that's what matters to you.

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    Jan 22, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    **Hand in air***

    sending...Big Hugs
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    Jan 22, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    TallJock said
    The_Dollarwine saidwho's going to text me on my birthday tomorrow?!?


    I'll text you Happy Birthday. If that's what matters to you.



    what matters to me is My friend is gone and Every one felt it was better for me not to know...

    His sister & Our friends
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    Jan 22, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    I'm sorry you're going through this but stop making it all about you.

    His sister and your friends also lost someone they care about. Getting upset with them is misdirected anger. You could reach out to them since you're all dealing with the loss of someone you all loved.

    The other issue is if they knew you hit him, maybe they didn't want to let you know. Maybe they were trying to protect your ex and didn't want you to get close to him again.

    I'm sorry. Sometimes you don't realize how much someone matters to you until after he's gone.
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    Jan 22, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    MolaMola saidI'm sorry you're going through this but stop making it all about you.

    His sister and your friends also lost someone they care about. Getting upset with them is misdirected anger. You could reach out to them since you're all dealing with the loss of someone you all loved.

    The other issue is if they knew you hit him, maybe they didn't want to let you know. Maybe they were trying to protect your ex and didn't want you to get close to him again.

    I'm sorry. Sometimes you don't realize how much someone matters to you until after he's gone.


    nobody knew about why we decided to just be friends but us. i'm sorry if it comes off as being about me. it just bothers me that some one has been replying to me as him from his phone.
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    Jan 22, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    Sorry. I missed that part.
    That sucks.

    You think someone you know got your ex's phone as was trying to pass themself off as him?
    It could just be that after your ex's phone was shut off, the number was recycled. You sent the text to that number and someone, for whatever reason, replied to the text.
    My brother was out of the country so I sent him a birthday text a few weeks ago. I got a message back from the number telling me that my brother doesn't have that number anymore and the person who has his number thinks he's out of the country. My brother changes his number a lot, so sometimes I lose track of which number is his, which is his wife's, and which is the old number.

    It's best not to dwell on the texts. You could drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what's going on.
    The real issue is that you lost someone you care about. The texts are odd, but mostly a distraction from the grief IMO.
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    Jan 23, 2012 12:12 AM GMT
    MolaMola saidSorry. I missed that part.
    That sucks.

    You think someone you know got your ex's phone as was trying to pass themself off as him?
    It could just be that after your ex's phone was shut off, the number was recycled. You sent the text to that number and someone, for whatever reason, replied to the text.
    My brother was out of the country so I sent him a birthday text a few weeks ago. I got a message back from the number telling me that my brother doesn't have that number anymore and the person who has his number thinks he's out of the country. My brother changes his number a lot, so sometimes I lose track of which number is his, which is his wife's, and which is the old number.

    It's best not to dwell on the texts. You could drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what's going on.
    The real issue is that you lost someone you care about. The texts are odd, but mostly a distraction from the grief IMO.


    it was his sister... she didn't think i could take it