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I see hotlisting as a one-sided determination. The lister is just indicating that he likes the looks of the one he lists.

Buddy-listing, on the otherhand, seems to me to indicate that there is some sort of "relationship" between the lister and the listee. They at least "know" each other...have exchanged some sort of communications and have established a friendly relationship at some level.

Therefore, when I get a notification from RJ telling me that someone has buddy-listed me and I have no knowledge whatsoever of this person, I am sort of like WTF?!?!

I can reciprocate and mutually buddy-list the fellow, but I can not decline and block his buddy-listing me. I think it gives a false impression if people go to the lister's profile and sees me listed as a buddy....and I dont even know the fellow!

Perhaps there needs to be a buddy-blocking option on RJ.

You wont show up on his buddy list unless you buddy list him, so there is no need block anyone.

Both people have to buddy list each other in order for you to show up on each others lists.

I never quite understood it either, maybe they just like us!!!

MikePhil saidYou wont show up on his buddy list unless you buddy list him, so there is no need block anyone.

Both people have to buddy list each other in order for you to show up on each others lists.

Oh thanks, MikePhil. I didnt realize that. It didnt say that on my notification.

I think you can thank MySpace and Facebook, etc., where some folks try to accumulate as many 'friends' as possible.

LoL!

yeh, I agree with Caslon on this one.

I don't hotlist, but when I buddy list I do it because I've had a meaningful conversation with the other guy.

I've only gotten buddy listed a couple of times without knowing who the other guy is; it ticked me off a bit, but I just didn't buddy list back.

Caslon4000 saidNEVERMIND

Caslon is channeling Emily Litella.

rawOOL saidLoL!


I've only gotten buddy listed a couple of times without knowing who the other guy is; it ticked me off a bit, but I just didn't buddy list back.

I agree with that.

But I have a feeling that guys who do that are newbies. On Adam-4-Adam, the buddy list is really just a bookmark list...sort of like the Hot List here. I don't acknowledge a notification of being listed as a buddy here (by reciprocating) unless there is some interchange or conversations over a period of time and I have never Buddy Listed someone here without requesting "permission" to do so and having reciprocation. Since it's a two-way street, unless both parties agree and want to...then I don't Buddy List that person.

But that's just me....

John

jprichva said
Caslon4000 said
NEVERMIND

Caslon is channeling Emily Litella.

"I'm sorry. It won't happen again.... bitch!"

Well, you know what they say about celebrities: everyone knows their name, but they don't know any of these people! And, their fans do admire them.
You are a bit of a RealJock celebrity, I mean look at that post tally! Perhaps these people are more admirers than buddies, but we don't have an Admirer List here on RealJock so Buddy Listing you works in a pinch.

I'm betting they were moved by your forum postings and identify with your past health battle or your re-newed zest for life. Personally, I've read most of your post and apart from the LOL cats, which I find really obnoxious, your post are very ensightful, intelligent, and above all else, friendly. I certainly like them, buddy!

I'm going to buddy list Caslon.
We've chatted in the past and we have quite a bit in common.

GuiltyGear said ...apart from the LOL cats, which I find really obnoxious...

... Oh, I crack me up! ...

Hey how does one post testimonials on their profiles? This is one thing I see on some people's profiles but I don't how it's done.

Anyone care to 'esplain it?'

muchmorethanmuscle saidHey how does one post testimonials on their profiles? This is one thing I see on some people's profiles but I don't how it's done.

Anyone care to 'esplain it?'

Go to the guy's profile and on the left in the menu, there is a link for "Add a testimonial"

Caslon4000 said[quote][cite]muchmorethanmuscle said[/cite]Hey how does one post testimonials on their profiles? This is one thing I see on some people's profiles but I don't how it's done.

Anyone care to 'esplain it?'

Go to the guy's profile and on the left in the menu, there is a link for "Add a testimonial"[/quote]

For ALL your informativeness I would BUDDY LIST you!!

Thanks, Caslon.

muchmorethanmuscle saidHey how does one post testimonials on their profiles? This is one thing I see on some people's profiles but I don't how it's done.

Anyone care to 'esplain it?'

See, I told you that just because you have good grammar and spelling, dose not mean you are the sharpest tool in the box

Go to their profile and on the left hand side there are some options, don't click on "report abuse" that would be the wrong one. Click on "add testimonial"

BTW, it is "explain" not "esplain"

Sorry, just messing with ya

I have this sudden urge..to go and start buddy listing everybody.
My Buddy,
my buddy

Caslon....

Now you're gonna be Buddy-listed by ... Everyone!

GQjock saidCaslon....

Now you're gonna be Buddy-listed by ... Everyone!

You just said that to try to get something going. Let me go find the "pox-on-you" LOLcat ...

Dude I'm gonna budy list you right. I like to buddy list guys who's pages make me laugh. You never know, they could end up turning out to be a cool guy that you would actually want to keep in touch with. Or they could turn out to be a psycho

slapaho18 saidDude I'm gonna budy list you right. I like to buddy list guys who's pages make me laugh. You never know, they could end up turning out to be a cool guy that you would actually want to keep in touch with. Or they could turn out to be a psycho

So it turns out you are like 30 years older than me. I don't see any point in buddy listing you. We prob have nothing to joke about. Good luck making new friends out there

slapaho18 said[quote][cite]slapaho18 said[/cite]Dude I'm gonna budy list you right. I like to buddy list guys who's pages make me laugh. You never know, they could end up turning out to be a cool guy that you would actually want to keep in touch with. Or they could turn out to be a psycho

So it turns out you are like 30 years older than me. I don't see any point in buddy listing you. We prob have nothing to joke about. Good luck making new friends out there

Oh, we could joke about your *bleep*. ...