Where do you go to meet guys?

  • SouthBeachBum

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    Jun 25, 2008 2:20 AM GMT
    I recently moved to West Palm Beach and I'm having some trouble meeting guys. Moving up here from South Beach, where attractive gay men were a dime a dozen, I'm not used to having to work so hard to meet people. Most of the guys I meet online and in bars are after the same thing. So I'm posing this question to sll of you living in smaller cities, where do you go to meet other guys?
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    Jun 25, 2008 2:21 AM GMT
    you met them everywhere.

    It just takes time to meet the right one.

    The others are just potential friends
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    Jun 25, 2008 8:21 AM GMT
    usually in bathroom stalls.....jkicon_lol.gif.......malls, grocery shopping, bars, clubs...though i dont get out as much as i use to due to a hectc, busy career...but now majority of my social interactions are onlineicon_smile.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 12:08 PM GMT
    Make friends with one, they'll know others. Girls, too, surprisingly great resource sometimes.
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    Jun 25, 2008 12:09 PM GMT
    Hang out at the Starbucks in the nice part of town.
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    Jun 25, 2008 12:13 PM GMT
    Well here in NYC, guys tend to be meeting each other in the gym more and more now.
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    Jun 25, 2008 5:15 PM GMT
    RedSoxFever33 saidWell here in NYC, guys tend to be meeting each other in the gym more and more now.


    What gyms would that be?
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    Jun 25, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    Hmm. I've not met anyone in the gym in NYC.

    I mean, I'd love to. I need some gay friends in this city, all of mine are in London...
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:54 PM GMT
    "Where to meet men" seems to be a common question and problem.

    So I would like to propose a volunteer research project.

    Project Title: Meet-ability Potential for Date-eligible Men of Various Venues

    Objective: The objective of this research project is to determine the "meet-ability" potential of various venues for the purpose of meeting date-eligible men.

    Methodology: Members of RJ would volunteer to participate in this research project. Volunteers would visit potentially suitable venues to observe the "meet-ability" potential of the venue. Volunteers are encouraged to visit the venue more than once to make a more balanced observation. Volunteers may, at their discretion, actually meet and date eligible men met at the venue.

    Proposed Venues:
    Gym
    Coffee shop/Eatery
    Bar: gay/straight
    Mall/Shopping
    Movies
    Book Store
    Book store coffee shop

    Data: Volunteers are asked to collect the following data on the venue:

    Number of potentially date-eligible men
    Quality of potentially date-eligible men
    Variety of potentially date-eligible men
    Ease of making contact with date-eligible men at venue
    Comfort level of visiting venue with purpose of meeting date-eligible men
    Time spent at venue
    Number of actual contacts made
    Number of dates actually obtained


    Discussion, gentlemen? ....Any volunteers?
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:57 PM GMT
    That sounds like it should be backed by a university. that would be quite a study
  • joggerva

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    Jun 25, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    Caslon,

    That is great! As a single, gay, science-oriented guy, I would love to participate in this study. I will add the boardwalk to my list of venues.

    Now I just need to figure out how to make my records without looking like a weirdo, hmmm...
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:06 PM GMT
    SilverBird saidThat sounds like it should be backed by a university. that would be quite a study


    Oh...just volunteer to go sit at a Starbuck's with a cup of coffee and get back to us ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    My latest strategy is to go to parties. I have made an effort to expose myself to different social circles. That way, when I see them in more public places, I can get to know them on a different level.
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    joggerva saidCaslon,

    That is great! As a single, gay, science-oriented guy, I would love to participate in this study. I will add the boardwalk to my list of venues.

    Now I just need to figure out how to make my records without looking like a weirdo, hmmm...


    oh....just write your notes on the palm of your hand(s) ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 said[quote][cite]SilverBird said[/cite]That sounds like it should be backed by a university. that would be quite a study


    Oh...just volunteer to go sit at a Starbuck's with a cup of coffee and get back to us ... icon_lol.gif[/quote]
    I would if i wasnt so damn shyicon_redface.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:09 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidMy latest strategy is to go to parties. I have made an effort to expose myself to different social circles. That way, when I see them in more public places, I can get to know them on a different level.


    I am not sure "exposing" oneself is within the methodology of this study ... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 7:19 PM GMT
    I'm not sure there is a big difference between small cities and big cities. If you are looking for more than a quick hookup, NYC is known for being a very lonely city.

    The best place to meet people seems to be while doing things you enjoy. The gym of course, but there are plenty of other ways. Friends' parties works for some people. But I don't think any one method is failsafe. One of my straight female friends had such bad luck meeting guys in NYC that she up and sold her apartment and moved to a more rural environment, hoping to find the guys less jaded. (She moved for career reasons too, but I think her logic is she wants to also try some simpler, old fashioned kinds of guys).
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    Jun 25, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    Caslon4000 said"Where to meet men" seems to be a common question and problem.

    So I would like to propose a volunteer research project.

    Project Title: Meet-ability Potential for Date-eligible Men of Various Venues

    Objective: The objective of this research project is to determine the "meet-ability" potential of various venues for the purpose of meeting date-eligible men.

    Methodology: Members of RJ would volunteer to participate in this research project. Volunteers would visit potentially suitable venues to observe the "meet-ability" potential of the venue. Volunteers are encouraged to visit the venue more than once to make a more balanced observation. Volunteers may, at their discretion, actually meet and date eligible men met at the venue.

    Proposed Venues:
    Gym
    Coffee shop/Eatery
    Bar: gay/straight
    Mall/Shopping
    Movies
    Book Store
    Book store coffee shop

    Data: Volunteers are asked to collect the following data on the venue:

    Number of potentially date-eligible men
    Quality of potentially date-eligible men
    Variety of potentially date-eligible men
    Ease of making contact with date-eligible men at venue
    Comfort level of visiting venue with purpose of meeting date-eligible men
    Time spent at venue
    Number of actual contacts made
    Number of dates actually obtained


    Discussion, gentlemen? ....Any volunteers?


    May I be the control? I wont go to any of these places for dating, infact, I wont date at all, then, we can truly prove that these places do actually work *nods*
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    Jun 25, 2008 9:58 PM GMT
    Not an issue for I. As I'm not looking, so One does not even make eye contact anymore.

    But I do have an old T/shirt that reads: "FAG". Pays not advertise. But have not been on the market for sometime now.
  • SouthBeachBum

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    Jun 27, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the ideas guys...
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    Jun 28, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    Ok, I had coffee and read for a couple of hours from 4 to 6 at the nearby Barnes and Noble bookstore in their little cafe area.

    Maybe 4 to 6 on a Saturday isnt the best time to check out this venue, maybe guys were home getting ready for Saturday night out...

    So my assessment of this venue is a total bust. But, at least, I didnt come away feeling like I wasted my time. I very much enjoyed the reading while sipping a cup of coffee in a public area...but remember I have been practically house-bound for a year and a half. ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 28, 2008 11:42 PM GMT
    Well, I actually had a date last night, and I have another one on Monday. This has come from just trying to get out there and meet a lot more guys. Granted, I've met some I'd rather not, but more where just guys who were neither terribly attractive of repulsive. Just guys I wasn't into.

    It's working for me!

    I'm off to a contra dance now, so I might meet some more.
  • SouthBeachBum

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    Jun 29, 2008 2:03 AM GMT
    So I decided to set up post at the busier starbucks in town. I sat reading my book (Ayn Rand, love her) for a good hour and a half to no avail. Decided to give up, but I'm going to a gay bar downtown tonight. I know I'll meet some people, just hope they're worth the time.
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    Jun 29, 2008 2:09 AM GMT
    I go to the beach. Selva Beach, Dana Pt, or 1000 steps, Laguana Beach, or San Onfre beach.

    HOT HOT....Surfers, boogie boarders and more!