oceanboy11 saidWhat do guys in monogamous relationships look forward to when going out to clubs?
ummm... to having a great time? Here's the typical routine when I've gone to clubs with BFs or my partner, with whom I was always monogamous:
Walk in, make a little appearance, then get our drinks. Next split up and circulate, doing the social butterfly thing. Making sure everyone knows the BF/partner is there, too, and encouraging them to not fail to say hello to him.
Then getting back together again to swap the gossip we just heard, and maybe go out onto the dance floor if they have one. Afterwards we separate again for more visiting, rejoining as our paths cross the whole night.
We're not joined at the hip (at least out of bed), having a very casual approach to clubbing. We may even dance with someone else, giving a little wave to each other as we catch sight. The bond my men & I have had is too strong to worry about jealousy & infidelity. And if some guy makes a move on us we talk about it between us for a laugh. Made funnier because we never tease or misrepresent, but some gays apparently like the challenge of bagging a committed guy.
So that our clubbing is almost like being solo, except we have the emotional safety net of knowing we've each got a guy, no pressure to be looking, and we know who we're going home with. I much prefer it to when I'd go clubbing as a single guy, not knowing how things would develop by closing time, in contrast having infinitely more fun and less stress by being in a relationship. I guess I'm one of those preordained to be married.