Is this what I want?

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    Jan 24, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    Three weeks ago, I was on another gay website and this cute guy looked at my profile, so I looked at his and it didn't say much, just that he valued blunt honesty and is a gamer.

    I was intrigued, so I messaged, we got to talking and he was pretty much awesome sauce. I've only exhanged numbers with a sexy older French gentleman who asked for mine. I was nervous and fortunately, he replied with his number.

    He's clever funny and we found that we're very similar personality-wise and have pretty much the same interests. At first, he randomly text me to just say hi, say he loved the cute texts I sent him, he likes the way I talk and do I talk like this all the time, blah blah blah

    IThe texts started to die down until it was where I would text, get no response, text him a few days later and get a one word reply. He accidentally texted me the first week asking for a reference for a job opportunity. Since he's in the next town over, I would have hoped that we'd be talking on the phone and meeting up by now, so when I hinted at that and he changed the subject, it might be because he's between jobs.

    He seemed to lose interest in texting me though and I think if you text a guy, he doesn't respond, you text him again 3 days later and get a one word reply, he's just not that into you.

    Well yesterday, I told him that we could stay buddies and if texting wasn't his thing, or he was going through something or busy, that was fine and I understood. It was pretty much a final text.

    He responded with a joke and I didn't respond, because there wasn't anything to add. This morning, super early he texted me a good morning text. That has never happened and he's never texted me first.

    So to get a guy's attention I have to not respond? I would hope to have a guy who's just as interested in me, as I am in him. I also don't have time for texting games...so should I respond? I've never been called "papi" before haha, so I'm inclined to...
  • BmwKid92

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    Jan 24, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    ..........broski do what your heart says, theres no game to anything, he said good morning, try saying "thanks u 2, what are you up 2 today" ( now reword that into something dorkie you'd say"
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    Jan 24, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Do you really want to get involved with a flake?
  • araphael

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    Jan 25, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    I have a brother who lives in France. The French men I've met there are the most passionate you'll meet and the most frustrating you'll meet. They love drama in the area of love. I wouldn't take it too seriously. This may just all be a part of the courting game for him if he's serious about you. If you're too nice to him, you will probably bore him. If you're too mean, you may run him off. You'll have to find the middle, which is what good love, or lovemaking, usually turns out to be any way. If it works out, I think you'll be quite pleased in the pleasure ahead of you. They can be quite nice actually once their guards are down with you.
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    Gaydar saidDo you really want to get involved with a flake?

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    Jan 25, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    araphael saidI have a brother who lives in France. The French men I've met there are the most passionate you'll meet and the most frustrating you'll meet. They love drama in the area of love. I wouldn't take it too seriously. This may just all be a part of the courting game for him if he's serious about you. If you're too nice to him, you will probably bore him. If you're too mean, you may run him off. You'll have to find the middle, which is what good love, or lovemaking, usually turns out to be any way. If it works out, I think you'll be quite pleased in the pleasure ahead of you. They can be quite nice actually once their guards are down with you.


    This wasn't about the French guy. He was the first guy I exchanged numbers with and this guy was the second. The French guy was too busy for me at that point in his life, but we've recently connected...
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    Bmwkid92 said..........broski do what your heart says, theres no game to anything, he said good morning, try saying "thanks u 2, what are you up 2 today" ( now reword that into something dorkie you'd say"


    hahaha, how'd you know I'd say something dorky? And yeah...it didn't go so well, I think he likes knowing I'll always be there...he just went back to ignoring me again, don't have time for his games.icon_rolleyes.gif