Has Anyone Been in the Same Situation?

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    Jan 24, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    So my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have anal sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion
  • patmos9990

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    Jan 24, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    One of you will switch roles or you'll both be looking for threeways by the sixth month.
  • unjaded

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    Jan 24, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    if u r a true total top u would take that ass and fuc it good . then tell him that how its gonna be and what i need .
  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 24, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    You could mix it up a bit? Sex can be much more than just these hetero-normative constructs of "top" and "bottom;" I'm assuming you are referring to anal sex.

    Anal sex does not have to be the end-all, be-all of gay sex. Open your mind. icon_wink.gif
  • rnch

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    Jan 24, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion




    when we met, we were both Total Tops.

    one of us (cough*cough) gave in.


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    Jan 24, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    there is an overabundance of bottoms in the world. Just pick one up each night and you can spitroast him, swapping when needed.
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    Jan 24, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    rnch said
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion




    when we met, we were both Total Tops.

    one of us (cough*cough) gave in.


    icon_wink.gif


    hahaha nice. I have a feeling that this will eventually happen anyway. We'll see lol. He is a tough hunk, it will be hard to convince him...
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    Jan 24, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    Studinprogress saidYou could mix it up a bit? Sex can be much more than just these hetero-normative constructs of "top" and "bottom;" I'm assuming you are referring to anal sex.

    Anal sex does not have to be the end-all, be-all of gay sex. Open your mind. icon_wink.gif


    Thanks for the advice icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 24, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    have either of you even tried bottoming before?
    there isnt any shame in it if you find you like it.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 25, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion
    LOL you two have to figure out who is going to out if you two are ever going to bottom for each other. if neither of you are not going attempted it than you are wasting your time with each other. unless you are going to have a open relationship where you two play together
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Some of the hottest sex I've ever had were with other bottoms or with tops where we didn't buttfuck. I agree with the other poster that outstanding sex doesn't necessarily require the buttfuck.
  • araphael

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    Jan 25, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    I agree with patmost, eventually I think that one of you will try to bottom to show your love for the other one. I'm excited for you because the one who tries it may discover that he likes it once he gets used to it and he'll understand the pleasure that bottoms have.
  • Kwokpot

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    Jan 25, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion

    Hmmmm, you used some interesting terms to describe your BF. I see you're in Germany. Is your BF Caucasian? How old is he? What does your BF being a 'tough hunk' have to do with whether he tries bottoming? You want us to give advise, but you don't discribe your feelings about it, or your personality;instead, you talk about your BF. Why is that?
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    Phoenyx saidhave either of you even tried bottoming before?
    there isnt any shame in it if you find you like it.


    I have tried before and I don't really like it that much.
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:22 PM GMT
    Kwokpot said
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion

    Hmmmm, you used some interesting terms to describe your BF. I see you're in Germany. Is your BF Caucasian? How old is he? What does your BF being a 'tough hunk' have to do with whether he tries bottoming? You want us to give advise, but you don't discribe your feelings about it, or your personality;instead, you talk about your BF. Why is that?


    He's half Italian half German, looks like a latino. He's 29. I guess, he just doesn't seem like he would ever bottom. I mean, I think eventually I will let him try it and maybe I will start to like it. I don't think I need to describe my personality for you guys to give me this kind of advice. I talk about my bf because I love him and I love talking about him. icon_smile.gif
  • Kwokpot

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    Jan 25, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    1Hey9Over9There1 said
    Kwokpot said
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion

    Hmmmm, you used some interesting terms to describe your BF. I see you're in Germany. Is your BF Caucasian? How old is he? What does your BF being a 'tough hunk' have to do with whether he tries bottoming? You want us to give advise, but you don't discribe your feelings about it, or your personality;instead, you talk about your BF. Why is that?


    He's half Italian half German, looks like a latino. He's 29. I guess, he just doesn't seem like he would ever bottom. I mean, I think eventually I will let him try it and maybe I will start to like it. I don't think I need to describe my personality for you guys to give me this kind of advice. I talk about my bf because I love him and I love talking about him. icon_smile.gif

    that's a very passive-agressive attitude you have, and yes it does matter what your personality and/or feeelings about it with regards to giving helpful advise.
    Your response above seems that you've already resgined the fact that your BF won't enjoy bottoming and YOU will have to eventually be the bottom and just get used it it. You never siad you've talk to your BF about trying bottoming, so why the assumptions?

    I also asked about your BF's age and ethnicity, because YOU are Asian, I don't want you to 'believe' any of the stereotypes regarding what GAMs should or shouldn't be.

    The best advise I could give is you should have a calm, heart to heart talk about it with your BF. Don't make it a grim or angry discussion, but try to get his feelings about your sexual compatibility and whether he feels your sexual relationship is satisfying for him. You should also be prepared to share your feeling s on the subject with him.
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    "So basically, we just don't have the actual sex."


    There's all kinds of sexual activities besides anal intercourse. Now and then I see on RJ posts where the poster thinks the only sex is anal sex. Odd.

    -Doug
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    Jan 25, 2012 9:32 PM GMT
    Kwokpot said
    1Hey9Over9There1 said
    Kwokpot said
    1Hey9Over9There1 saidSo my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months now. We haven't really had any fights and such because he's very mature and a very nice person in general. The thing is, we are both tops. So basically, we just don't have the actual sex. Has anyone been in the same situation? If so, what happens in the long run? Also, if you haven't been in this situation, what do you think will happen?

    Just curious for your opinion

    Hmmmm, you used some interesting terms to describe your BF. I see you're in Germany. Is your BF Caucasian? How old is he? What does your BF being a 'tough hunk' have to do with whether he tries bottoming? You want us to give advise, but you don't discribe your feelings about it, or your personality;instead, you talk about your BF. Why is that?


    He's half Italian half German, looks like a latino. He's 29. I guess, he just doesn't seem like he would ever bottom. I mean, I think eventually I will let him try it and maybe I will start to like it. I don't think I need to describe my personality for you guys to give me this kind of advice. I talk about my bf because I love him and I love talking about him. icon_smile.gif

    that's a very passive-agressive attitude you have, and yes it does matter what your personality and/or feeelings about it with regards to giving helpful advise.
    Your response above seems that you've already resgined the fact that your BF won't enjoy bottoming and YOU will have to eventually be the bottom and just get used it it. You never siad you've talk to your BF about trying bottoming, so why the assumptions?

    I also asked about your BF's age and ethnicity, because YOU are Asian, I don't want you to 'believe' any of the stereotypes regarding what GAMs should or shouldn't be.

    The best advise I could give is you should have a calm, heart to heart talk about it with your BF. Don't make it a grim or angry discussion, but try to get his feelings about your sexual compatibility and whether he feels your sexual relationship is satisfying for him. You should also be prepared to share your feeling s on the subject with him.


    Well at first I honestly thought you were trolling lol but now I understand. You're right about my attitude, I am passive aggressive. I have (kinda) talked about that to him but I got no response, it's like he knows he doesn't enjoy it so he just doesn't say anything. What's GAMs? Is it what I think it is? I mean, I know I'm dating someone older but I don't think it's like the stereotype that I heard of. Like how young asians date older white guys and they basically are the passive ones and they let the white guys dominate the relationship. Is that it?

    Thanks for the advice, my bf and I talk about everything. I think sex to me is more important than it is to him. But so far no real problem yet. I mean, we just started not too long ago and he's my first one so I don't really know what to do sometime. I think It's great that we have a community here that I can get advice and suggestions from.