Can a man love you as much as a woman?

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    Jan 25, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    Having only dated girls before I am curious as to how it would be dating a guy. Is it the same as with a woman? Girls are clearly more emotional than guys and I guess you can say I'm a bit worried if I can't get the same compassion and romance with a guy.
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    Jan 25, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    I pray to the Gay Gods this will be a nice thread. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Trepeat

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    Jan 25, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    Yes.

    With his cock.
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    Do YOU think you can love a man as much as a woman? There is your answer.
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidHaving only dated girls before I am curious as to how it would be dating a guy. Is it the same as with a woman? Girls are clearly more emotional than guys and I guess you can say I'm a bit worried if I can't get the same compassion and romance with a guy.


    Can you love a man as much as you love a woman?

    And no, it's not the same as dating a woman. Dating a man is like dating a good friend: he intrinsically knows you and understands you more intimately than a woman can.

    That said, if you think girls are always more emotional than guys, you need to date a few South American guys to cure you of that notion. My Brazilian boyfriend was exactly as emotional and in the same ways as my Cuban and Russian girlfriends.
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidI pray to the Gay Gods this will be a nice thread. icon_biggrin.gif

    I hope so too haha. I have no negative intentions with posting this, just want some advice/insight from you guys.
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidDo YOU think you can love a man as much as a woman? There is your answer.

    I guess I never really thought of it that way but you don't think there are some things a woman can bring to a relationship that a man can't or vice versa?
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    I haven't dated a woman since my freshman year of high school, so this will necessarily be more from the "dating a guy" side of your question.

    I think it depends. I'd like to say "of course" but I do think that men in general (gay, bi, or straight) have been taught or conditioned to be less in touch with their emotions than they could be.

    It's certainly possible, if you're in touch with your own emotions, and aren't afraid to open up a bit with the guy you are dating or want to date. As with anyone, it's sometimes easier to keep things on a superficial level, but when it comes to developing an emotional bond, you really do get out of it what you put into it.

    I'm about to celebrate twelve years with a great guy, and I'd have to echo Larkin's comment from above: I think we understand each other on a very deep level, mentally and physically, since we have that male bonding thing going on, as well as everything else that comes from a relationship.

    Good luck!
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    No one taught me that love was gender specific.........
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidHaving only dated girls before I am curious as to how it would be dating a guy. Is it the same as with a woman? Girls are clearly more emotional than guys and I guess you can say I'm a bit worried if I can't get the same compassion and romance with a guy.
    yes a man can love just as hard as a woman.
  • nomadfornow

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    Jan 25, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    Romantic love is not the domain of one sex over the other. Neither is emotion.


    Larkin said My Brazilian boyfriend was exactly as emotional and in the same ways as my Cuban and Russian girlfriends.


    Wow, man... you go for the gusto!
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    You honestly think men don't have the capacity for love as women? I've been in both male and female relationships, and yeah, they're very different. Each love is different. I have been in a very loving, beautiful, fulfilling relationship with a man and it's something that can't be compared to anything else. It was just LOVE. For the sake of its own self.
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Going on the wording of your question, I feel that I'm in no place judge how much a person Loves me, as it is them loving me. That is their experience, not mine. What I think you may really mean is if I could ever love a woman as much as I could a man? For me, I can love a women as a plutonic friend or family member, but nothing more than that. I'm not sexually or emotionally attracted to women enough to, or in any way that I feel any need to ever date one. As for my emotional, mental and physical attraction to men, it holds very few barriers, and sometimes those barriers can be bent, moved and lowered when the chemistry works out.
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    You can play skyrim all damn day together, so yes.
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    There was a similar post about this and yes I think I could love a man as much as a woman if not more. It really depends on the person. Some men are more emotional and compassionate (although I think the OP mean passionate) than women.
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    Jan 25, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidHaving only dated girls before I am curious as to how it would be dating a guy. Is it the same as with a woman? Girls are clearly more emotional than guys and I guess you can say I'm a bit worried if I can't get the same compassion and romance with a guy.


    There are those of us out there (I think I fall into this category), guys like us who are actually quite emotional. We're super sensitive, very aware of other people's feelings, very sweet, wanting to be a source of spiritual support and yearning for our own source of spiritual support, and we often think a lot and worry about a lot of stuff.

    I think, as gay men, our love is something that is incredibly unique. It's honest and straight forward; there seems to be generally speaking more physicality involved, and in this physicality, it is inherently more visual and more powerful to the senses of those witnessing it. And I will say, I would NEVER trade same-sex love for opposite-sex love, now that I've seen how wonderful it can be. Something about the right man's kiss...it leaves me literally gasping from the utter shock of these sensations. This shock, or rather, this euphoria. icon_redface.gif

    That's just my two cents.
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    Jan 25, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    Yes.
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    Jan 25, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    Men have an amazing capacity to Love.

    The question you need to ask is which gender YOU can Love fully.
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    Jan 25, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Cash saidMen have an amazing capacity to Love.

    The question you need to ask is which gender YOU can Love fully.


    +1

    beautifully said!
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    Jan 25, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    I'd say men are just as capable of feeling the same emotions but more often than not express those emotions differently.

    WestCoastGuy said
    bhp91126 saidDo YOU think you can love a man as much as a woman? There is your answer.

    I guess I never really thought of it that way but you don't think there are some things a woman can bring to a relationship that a man can't or vice versa?


    Unexpected pregnancies?
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    Jan 25, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    gender does not determine the extend to which a person is capable of loving another human...
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    Jan 25, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    I feel that it changes on an individual bases, and isn't something that can be lumped into genders.

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    Wadeup, why dont you ask westcoastguy out icon_cool.gif

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    Jan 25, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    Yup.... Enough said icon_biggrin.gif
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    This only means that we have extra faith in you OC
  • calibro

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    Jan 25, 2012 7:35 AM GMT
    i promise you men can be just as emotional (and dramatic) as women. women, as a whole, tend to be more in touch with their feelings for biological reasons, but also because they're conditioned to (or rather men are reared not to). i think any emotionally-matured guy would be able to provide you with the compassion and romance you're looking for.