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Cynthia Nixon says being gay 'is a choice'

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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    At least that's what she says is the case for her...This may sound ignorant on my part, but why would anyone want to be gay and be subject to the shit we have to deal with sometimes?

    "For me, it is a choice," Nixon told the Times of her sexual orientation. "I understand that for many people it's not, but for me it's a choice, and you don't get to define my gayness for me.

    "I say it doesn't matter if we flew here or we swam here. It matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not."

    Nixon, 45, is currently engaged to longtime partner Christine Marinoni, but was previously linked to her old college sweetheart, Daniel Mozes, before the pair split in 2003.
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    http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/cynthia-nixon-angers-lgbt-community-calling-homosexuality-a-choice-article-1.1011206
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    I don't think she is a homophobe but she should have been more careful in selecting her words.
  • Neferti Posts: 55
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    dan_x saidAt least that's what she says is the case for her...This may sound ignorant on my part, but why would anyone want to be gay and be subject to the shit we have to deal with sometimes?


    I wouldn't choose to be straight even knowing all that I've gone through being gay. To each his (or her) own though.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    I'd like to hear her reasons. Without an explanation, she sounds like a pretty dumb fuck.

    the metaphor isn't appropriate. Should be "doesn't matter if we flew here or are imprisoned here", which is debatable.
  • Timbales Posts: 13815
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Considering she is in a lesbian relationship and describing her own feelings, I think she has a right to believe what she wants - just like the rest of us.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    Always thought she was a little psychotic. She did present a good argument I guess though.
  • aiko14 Posts: 332
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    at least she said in her case...
    in my case i knew i was gay since i can remember.... maybe it is not the case to other people... i cant speak up to all the gay people but maybe their cases are different i am not sure, she is not sure
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    If I recall correctly she was saying that since she is attracted to men and women, she has "chosen" to live a gay life. It was just a bad choice of words. She should have just called herself bisexual, but oh well... Who really cares what anyone from a canceled tv show says?
  • metta8 Posts: 24949
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:30 AM GMT


    It kind of goes back to my comment in this thread:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2130041

    metta8 saidI don't know if there are more gay men than lesbians, however, I do remember reading about a study which showed that more women (not all, of course) than men are able to switch back and forth, which I guess would make them bi-sexual. They think that it had something to do with many women not needing the visual/physical attraction as much as the emotional attraction. Many women truly think differently than men. There is a reason why you don't find lesbian bath houses....at least I don't think that there are any...as far as I know. And of course, some gay men need more than just a physical attraction. I'm not trying to fit everyone into a box. I'm just saying that you can find large sub-groups within these groups that feel this way.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    A poor choice of words, particularly in the current political climate when many want to deny us equal rights because they see being gay as a choice. I wonder if the right wing or religious zealots will start using this to prove their point.
  • CuriousJockAZ Posts: 18375
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    dan_x said"I understand that for many people it's not, but for me it's a choice, and you don't get to define my gayness for me.


    I agree with her whole-heartedly. No one gets to define "The Gay" in an individual -- it is unique and different for everybody depending on a whole host of factors. Good for Cynthia for stating it the way she did.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    LeanVA saidIf I recall correctly she was saying that since she is attracted to men and women, she has "chosen" to live a gay life. It was just a bad choice of words. She should have just called herself bisexual, but oh well... Who really cares what anyone from a canceled tv show says?


    +1.

    She said "I've been straight and I've been gay, and gay is better."

    There you go, she's had enough of men and is now exclusively into women.

    Guys I know who have been married tell me that for them they didn't want to give in to their gayness and dissolve their marriage, they had to.

    If Nixon had a choice, why would she choose to end her relationship with her male ex-partner, with whom she has two children?

    Poor woman. I doubt she knows what she actually is. Bi with gay predilection. Not gay.

    Currently homosexuality is defined as "sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex", which is too vague in modern context. It needs to be updated.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    and have you seen her partner??? .. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    And Dan Savage says it's not a choice.

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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    edmirer said
    LeanVA saidIf I recall correctly she was saying that since she is attracted to men and women, she has "chosen" to live a gay life. It was just a bad choice of words. She should have just called herself bisexual, but oh well... Who really cares what anyone from a canceled tv show says?


    +1.

    She said "I've been straight and I've been gay, and gay is better."

    There you go, she's had enough of men and is now exclusively into women.

    Guys I know who have been married tell me that for them they didn't want to give in to their gayness and dissolve their marriage, they had to.

    If Nixon had a choice, why would she choose to end her relationship with her male ex-partner, with whom she has two children?

    Poor woman. I doubt she knows what she actually is. Bi with gay predilection. Not gay.

    Currently homosexuality is defined as "sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex", which is too vague in modern context. It needs to be updated.


    She hates men, as all dykes do.
  • newral Posts: 137
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    People should respect her measured and personal perspective on sexual orientation.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
    Omg you guys. She could have said she worshipped Xenu and said "no one has the right to judge my particular beliefs" and you'd be like "Sex In the City chick stands up for herself! We must all respect her". Xenu. Xenu is forgotten.
  • offshore Posts: 1286
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    She could be bisexual and *Choose* to concentrate on her gay side.
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 6:58 AM GMT
    Wel, it's because she (Cynthia Nixon) is actually a bisexual and not a lesbian.

    She likes both cock and she likes munching down on the fish burger.


    Ergo, she is born liking both, and gets a bit of leeway to choose the gender of the partner she wishes to be with.

    I'd go as far as to say that apart from the socio-religious structures that *nurture* most people toward heteronormative life (a cultural adaptation from ancient times intended to build up the tribe and then later the agricultural city-state)... about 80% of humans are as bisexual and fluid in their sexuality within degrees as their nearest evolutionary cousins, the Bonobo chimpanzee.

    With the outliers on either rough 10% being strict exclusive heterosexual or homosexual.

    Just my opinion. ;)
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:01 AM GMT
    JackNWNJ saidAnd Dan Savage says it's not a choice.



    Aye, and we all know that Dan Savage is like the Maitreya Buddha, the Second Coming of Christ, Islam'a Mahdi, and Xenu all rolled into one mega-terrific bundle of awesome. icon_razz.gif
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    I've always felt that there are women (read: bitches) who are like "OMG MEN IS SO MEAN THEY TREAT ME NOT NICE GRR ME NO LIKEY PEE PEE IN MY VEE VEE I LIKE WOMEN WHO IS SOFT AND NICE AND LOVING AND RESPECT ME AS A HUMAN."

    NEVER Have I met a straight-turned-gay man who's like "I just couldn't put up with pussy anymore, dude.. ya know? Women are just such piggish bastards who only thing with their vaginas and want me for a sex-object."

    Basically- women, even (/especially?) lesbots, are whiny C-words. I think they emotionally chose to be in love with women because they feel more empowered and respected, and feel men abuse them or something gay like that. So they just decide to stick it to the man (or the dykier one in the relationship), and wear a strap on.. Cause at least a dick attached to a woman isn't a big meanie-poo. Wahh
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidWel, it's because she (Cynthia Nixon) is actually a bisexual and not a lesbian.

    She likes both cock and she likes munching down on the fish burger.


    Ergo, she is born liking both, and gets a bit of leeway to choose the gender of the partner she wishes to be with.

    I'd go as far as to say that apart from the socio-religious structures that *nurture* most people toward heteronormative life (a cultural adaptation from ancient times intended to build up the tribe and then later the agricultural city-state)... about 80% of humans are as bisexual and fluid in their sexuality within degrees as their nearest evolutionary cousins, the Bonobo chimpanzee.

    With the outliers on either rough 10% being strict exclusive heterosexual or homosexual.

    Just my opinion. ;)


    That part I disagree with and here's why:

    http://www.salon.com/2012/01/22/the_invention_of_the_heterosexual/

    I think that this whole "straight is the right way" mentality is actually a rather recent invention.
  • Suetonius Posts: 1496
    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    Shes an actress, for god's sake. Any reason to give any weight to an actress' opinion on sexual identity? Now if she should publicize her opinion on acting methods . . . .
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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    Sounds like she's bi and just decided to stop dating men.

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    QUOTE Jan 25, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    then she's not gay... she's bi and just like pussy. Excuse me bitch but some of us Gay men don't wake up in the morning and say... "You know... I think I'll eat a twat out today!" ... Stupid Inconsiderate Ho!