As you experience the death of their loved ones?

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    Jan 25, 2012 1:50 PM GMT
    As you experience the death of their loved ones? Today is my grandfather died ....
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    Jan 25, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    Oh sorry to hear that your grandfather died.
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
    Caslon18453 saidOh sorry to hear that your grandfather died.



    He was sick and suffered much, and now he can rest
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    Death is like car wrecks. It's not a question of if it'll happen, but when and how?

    Saturday night, a guy I went to H.S. with was shot and killed at a club downtown....in a small city like Dothan, Ala.

    Shit can happen anywhere.
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    every second someone dies, but we do not think about them
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    I'm sorry for your loss. I know how it is to lose family members.
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    Jan 25, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    So sorry to hear this. Much love to you!
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    Jan 25, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear.

    My condolences to you and your family.

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    Jan 25, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    thanks for the condolences, I really appreciate your love and support
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    Jan 25, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Комфорт Вашей семьи сегодня. Потратить сегодня делать вид, что он был единственным человеком, который никогда не умирал. Люди будут пытаться утешить тебя, говорю вам, они потеряли близкого человека тоже, не слушайте их. Завтра вы можете сочувствовать их потери, но сегодня для вас и вашего деда.
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    Jan 25, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    Really sorry to learn of your loss. All the best.
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    Jan 25, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    You know that some of my friends found out about it not even felt sorry for me, but there are so many people that I do not know and are willing to support at this difficult moment, you are really like part of my family
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    Jan 26, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    Zhenya saidAs you experience the death of their loved ones? Today is my grandfather died ....


    EVERYONE experiences death and will die.

    155,000 people died the same day as your grandfather. 155,000 died today and 155,000 will die tomorrow.

    It's life.
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    Jan 26, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    JT889 said

    EVERYONE experiences death and will die.

    155,000 people died the same day as your grandfather. 155,000 died today and 155,000 will die tomorrow.

    It's life.


    Yes, all of this is true, and something a person doesn't mind hearing the day AFTER their grandfather dies. ON THE DAY their grandfather dies it would be nice if you gave a flying fuck for two minutes to say something comforting and constructive.
  • Webster666

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    Jan 26, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I'm sorry that you have to go through this.
    I'm lucky that I'm not close to my relatives.
    All of my grandparents (and my parents) are gone.
    My mother died, the day before Thanksgiving, this past year.

    If you feel sad, that will fade away.
    But, the happy memories will last forever.
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    Jan 26, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio said
    JT889 said

    EVERYONE experiences death and will die.

    155,000 people died the same day as your grandfather. 155,000 died today and 155,000 will die tomorrow.

    It's life.


    Yes, all of this is true, and something a person doesn't mind hearing the day AFTER their grandfather dies. ON THE DAY their grandfather dies it would be nice if you gave a flying fuck for two minutes to say something comforting and constructive.
    ugh.
  • araphael

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    Jan 26, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    I've experienced much death in my life time from family. Normally I wouldn't share this information with non-African peoples, but you seem like a nice and sincere person. There is only one thing that makes death easier to deal with and that is time. No matter how many platitudes and good wishes other people give you. Hang in there and time will make it better; I promise you that. Remember the good of your grandfather. That's what he would probably want, but I didn't know him.
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    Jan 26, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    JT889 saidugh.

    I'm going to rephrase your original post:

    EVERYONE who experiences death will encounter some asshole who diminishes their grief by quoting meaningless statistics.

    155,000 people had to hear from at least one person how life goes on without their loved one. 155,000 heard insensitive fucktard comments today. 155,000 will hear it tomorrow.

    It's dickishness.
  • nomadfornow

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    Jan 26, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    ^^ THIS.

    Zhenya, my sincere condolences for your loss. As others have said (and I know, for I lost my mother last summer), time will bring you comfort. Right now it is difficult, but remember your grandfather's love, and be grateful that you had him in your life for as long as you did.
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio said
    JT889 saidugh.

    I'm going to rephrase your original post:

    EVERYONE who experiences death will encounter some asshole who diminishes their grief by quoting meaningless statistics.

    155,000 people had to hear from at least one person how life goes on without their loved one. 155,000 heard insensitive fucktard comments today. 155,000 will hear it tomorrow.

    It's dickishness.


    Death is natural and everyone experiences it. Get over it. The OP asked of anyone has experienced death and the answer is YES.

    155,000 people die every day and that's that.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    Zhenya saidYou know that some of my friends found out about it not even felt sorry for me, but there are so many people that I do not know and are willing to support at this difficult moment, you are really like part of my family


    Most people your age do not yet know death. That is good. It would have been better if you did not have to learn about death in your teens, if you still had your grandfather, but we do not control that timing.

    So neither judge their innocence just because death is chipping away at yours, nor feel too badly that they do not know enough to be there for you in your time of need.

    Life did not make them your teacher. It is making you their teacher. So make your grandfather proud. Even when you feel jealous that they still have their grandfathers, be happy for them, as happy for them as you would have been for yourself if you still had your grandfather alive to enjoy. Seek and find reasons to be happy, and let yourself enjoy those moments as you are able, even when life can be so sad.
  • Anemoneg

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    Jan 26, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    I think everyone reacts differently. I'm not really attached to anyone so I'd get over pretty quickly... We're all going to die one day lol :p
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    Jan 26, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Zhenya saidAs you experience the death of their loved ones? Today is my grandfather died ....


    Oh, gosh you must feel so lost. I wish I knew how that feels so I can at least say "I understand what you're going through" or can relate, but sadly I cannot.

    I hate funerals, I cry very hard, even if it's someone I don't necessarily know, but I know the family somehow, I cry very very hard. Because, I think about not only the person that died, but about the family as well.

    This may or may not help, but know that if I was at the funeral, I would be crying...probably to the point of shaking.
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    Jan 26, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    I know how that feels. I lost my grandfather nearly a year ago after illness and I saw him 2 days before he passed away. He didn't look good at all, but luckily he is at peace.
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    Jan 26, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Sorry for your loss. Cherish the great memories.