Larkin saidB) without a doubt. When I click with someone, I click. Doesn't have to be a lover... can a be a friend too. But I know quickly if I'm connecting with someone. Best friend and I were best friends within weeks of even knowing each other... we just "got" one another and I felt completely myself with him. The man I loved most, my second boyfriend, I clicked instantly with him. We went to lunch and when he got up to go wash his hands I was craving his presence even for that five minutes alone at the table.
The spark has to be there. I've tried A)... tried being 'reasonable' and waiting for something to grow. But for me that romantic spark is the seed, not the fruit, of the relationship. And I'll wait for as long as it takes.
Awwwww, what a romantic!
Guy101 saidI would have to go for A simply because of the type of guy I am (read my profile). It's gotta be nurtured and earned. When it's right it will happen on its own. I can't do the "love at first sight", instantaneous/spontaneous thing. It just seems irresponsible, in my opinion, to let your feelings get the better of you especially in matters of the heart.
I think those who go for B tend to find themselves hurt later on down the road by their own hands. It just seems so "go with first feeling/feeling".
Maybe that's why you're single. Love means taking risks and besides, going the A route is no guarantee that you won't be hurt. Trust me, love hurts even when you're in love.
I've done A and B and I've had wonderful relationships that ended sadly but I'm not giving up on love. I love LOVE. It's a wonderful feeling...to love and be loved.
And yet aren't you technically by definition still single yourself since you are just dating which means it's nothing serious as of yet. Please don't make the mistake of trying to guess why I'm single because you'll find yourself in all kinds of wrong just for doing that.
There are calculated risks and then there are unnecessary risks when it comes to love. I prefer to be aware of my risks instead of just having them pop out of nowhere which is what seems to happen to those who go the B route. Things start off hot and then it grows cold for them but that's just my opinion.
For both A and B there is always a spark. The difference is the intensity of that spark. With A, there is a spark (small but it's there). It's called interest and that's usually what's needed before dating and being a in relationship.
I personally can not just look at someone and say "OMG! We're gonna be together forever." It just seems one-sided especially when you don't know if they feel the same about you so I'd rather be solid and secure in my feelings after knowing someone instead of just going off of a burst of intense feelings the first time around that could go as quickly as it came. I'm just reserved.
B just seems more lustful then it does loving.