Jan 25, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
Who's brave enough to admit it on a forum post? Post a pic if you dare!
Trepeat saidHad an ex who had this set of authentic, fifteenth century, hardcore, iron restraints. Did a couple of fun photo shoots and had some hot play, but they were insanely uncomfortable. I feel bad for the people who were actually once restrained as unwilling sex slaves in those things.
AlphaTrigger saidTrust is essential in a bondage scene (or BDSM in general).
As a Dom I typically sit down with any new submissive I meet to make sure we understand the kinks we will play with, his limits, and develop a loose script for the scene and a safeword, and put it in writing depending upon how the first meeting goes (if we "click" or not).
Later sessions build upon past sessions as the trust grows, and may even develop into a formal relationship where the submissive is "collared" as a boy to his Sir or in a 24/7 Master and slave living together situation.
Though for me, I have a couple of regular (among others) who just like being tied up and lashed with a belt, or lightly flogged, or blindfolded while I do things to them .... nothing terribly formal beyond them calling me "Sir" and my referring to them as boys or occassionally something a little more salty.